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[lilly]

Has anyone dated someone who spoke no English at all? I mean longterm? Is attraction enough to make it work until someone learns some of their lover's language? Even if there's a real heart-connection and fantastic sex? Is this a ridiculous prospect? Does anyone have any experience or insight? HELP!!!

[Janny]

How can there be a "heart-connection" if you don't speak to each other at all?

There needs to be some talking, obviously. (Is this a troll? I am the biggest patsy)

HOWEVER, there can definitely be a relationship without the NEED to talk. You can just meet for sex and that's it. But I don't think that's what you were talking about.

Or maybe you were. That's doable, and long-term....why not?

A real relationship regarding emotions without talking? ummm...?

[bassexpander]

That depends on your definition of success.

[The Gipkik]

Why would you want to date someone long term you couldn't even talk to? Sounds pretty sad. I've dated girls who couldn't speak any English, but what inevitably happens is that we teach each other our L1. Chemistry pulls us in and language keeps us together.

[I'm no Picasso]

I knew a girl once who barely spoke any Korean, while her boyfriend barely spoke any English. Confused as all get out as to how they made it work, but they seemed alright. She would even tell me that lately they'd been fighting over cultural differences. I wasn't really clear on how you have a fight about cultural differences without really being to communicate, but whatever. They'd been together for like 8 months or something....

Me personally, I do well not to get bored with someone who speaks my language natively. I don't think I could do it. Some communication struggles are alright, but for me, there's got to be a base level. It's too hard on those days where you're both tired from work, as well -- too easy to get frustrated with the communication problems and bite each others' heads off.

[Joe666]

The Gipkik wrote:

[Fox]

Sometimes I feel like all my relationships have had 100% language barriers.

[I'm no Picasso]

[Kuros]

Its possible.

This is how I learned Korean. It was more frustrating for the g/f, tho, and eventually this put a strain on the relationship (for her). But I had to put in the effort. Its easy to study hard for a few weeks, but after that . . .

My recommendation is that the onus is on the foreigner to learn the language. What I mean is that the foreigner can practice the language in the country everyday, but its harder for the native to have access to language practice.

[oldtactics]

English speaking men have been falling in love with Italian women for centuries, haven't they?

[morrisonhotel]

[Draz]

[Xuanzang]

[The Gipkik]

[Lunar Groove Gardener]

Great sex without the perfunctory questions.
A+, now go get tested.