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Halcyom Chimera
Joined: 24 Sep 2009
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:01 pm Post subject: Public life for teachers in S. Korea? |
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Hello all! I will begin teaching in Ilsan in January. I have a question regarding the lifestyle choices that can be expected of TESL teachers.
Coming from a bachelor's and master's degree in secondary education, I know teachers are constantly under the microscope in their public affairs and appearances. Bars, clubs, etc. are almost impossible to make an appearance at (if local).
I always hear about how people go to bars and such and drink a lot as teachers in S. Korea. Is this considered acceptable? Or is the risk of being called on it or recognized so little because of the densely populated areas? I just know the contract I signed mentioned being able to be fired if caught partaking in any conduct that might stain the reputation of the school. How strictly do they adhere to this?
I am the type of guy that likes to attend bars and the occasional strip club. Are these acceptable? Or is the latter forbidden for teachers?
I know it is all about acting reasonable and keeping a low profile, but what are the chances of being reported and met with administrative action or even expulsion from the position?
Thanks in advance! |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:12 pm Post subject: |
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Drinking is totally acceptable. If you don't believe me, just wait until the first time your Korean coworkers invite you out to a (local) bar after work on a weeknight and watch what then occurs.
I've actually never actually heard of a strip club in Korea. I'm not exactly on top of these things, so to speak, but I think you're more likely to spend your time here in hostess bars, where the ladies will sit beside you, bring you drinks and give you the pleasure of their company, for a small fee.
It would probably be best not to be seen coming out of one of those places by a gaggle of your students. I would save that for the next town over. |
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jonpurdy
Joined: 08 Jan 2009 Location: Ulsan
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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Feel free to come here and drink and party as much as you want. Koreans are among the biggest drinkers in the entire world. They drink a lot and do it loudly and publicly. Even though you're a foreigner you can still indulge as much as you want. I avoid discussing drinking in front of my students but they occasionally overhear a conversation or two. They've seen enough movies and dramas where the characters get completely toasted and obnoxious to know it's normal.
As far as your contract goes the statement about damaging the reputation of the school is pretty wishy-washy. It's probably reserved for those who make the news (real news stories, not AES stuff).
Good luck finding a strip club, though. You're much more likely to find yourself in a sexy Norae Bang (or brothel). You can't exactly get in trouble for that though since you'll probably be with a pack of teachers at your school (including the Principal) .
Basically, don't worry about it. Don't do anything you wouldn't do back at home and you're set. |
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ReeseDog

Joined: 05 Apr 2008 Location: Classified
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:44 pm Post subject: |
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I'm no Picasso wrote: |
...for a small fee. |
Define small.
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
It would probably be best not to be seen coming out of one of those places by a gaggle of your students. I would save that for the next town over. |
Good usage (coming from a serious waterfowler).  |
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nomad-ish

Joined: 08 Oct 2007 Location: On the bottom of the food chain
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:49 pm Post subject: |
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jonpurdy wrote: |
As far as your contract goes the statement about damaging the reputation of the school is pretty wishy-washy. It's probably reserved for those who make the news (real news stories, not AES stuff).
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also, try not to mention intimate details of your personal life, like how much you got trashed on friday or the korean girl you hooked up with.... people gossip a lot here about the foreign teacher and you don't want details like this getting to the students or their parents. |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:02 pm Post subject: |
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ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
...for a small fee. |
Define small.
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Figure of speech, of course. I actually have no idea how much the experience costs. Although I'm pretty curious about trying out the female equivalent.
ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
It would probably be best not to be seen coming out of one of those places by a gaggle of your students. I would save that for the next town over. |
Good usage (coming from a serious waterfowler).  |
One of those words my (Texan) mother always used that just stuck. There really isn't a better word for a group of students encountered out on the street, however. |
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VanIslander

Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:07 pm Post subject: |
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The drinking culture here is pre-Alcoholics Anonymous, circa 1970s back home, where drinking actually can win you respect more often than lose it, especially if it's soju or makkoli or beer with coworkers. Go to work with a headache, groan, and just say "soju!" and you will be met with a dozen approving smiles. Seriously. Someone will inevitably say, "You are Korean."
Now, partying it up with the opposite sex, ... that's another matter. |
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ReeseDog

Joined: 05 Apr 2008 Location: Classified
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:26 pm Post subject: |
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I'm no Picasso wrote: |
ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
...for a small fee. |
Define small.
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Figure of speech, of course. I actually have no idea how much the experience costs. Although I'm pretty curious about trying out the female equivalent. |
Attagirl.
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
It would probably be best not to be seen coming out of one of those places by a gaggle of your students. I would save that for the next town over. |
Good usage (coming from a serious waterfowler).  |
One of those words my (Texan) mother always used that just stuck. There really isn't a better word for a group of students encountered out on the street, however. |
Well, God bless your mother, a lady from my own home state.
I knew you were cool. |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:32 pm Post subject: |
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ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
...for a small fee. |
Define small.
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Figure of speech, of course. I actually have no idea how much the experience costs. Although I'm pretty curious about trying out the female equivalent. |
Attagirl.
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
ReeseDog wrote: |
I'm no Picasso wrote: |
It would probably be best not to be seen coming out of one of those places by a gaggle of your students. I would save that for the next town over. |
Good usage (coming from a serious waterfowler).  |
One of those words my (Texan) mother always used that just stuck. There really isn't a better word for a group of students encountered out on the street, however. |
Well, God bless your mother, a lady from my own home state.
I knew you were cool. |
It's my home state as well, of course! Oh man. I'm gonna go all PM on this one.... |
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jonpurdy
Joined: 08 Jan 2009 Location: Ulsan
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:45 pm Post subject: |
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nomad-ish wrote: |
jonpurdy wrote: |
As far as your contract goes the statement about damaging the reputation of the school is pretty wishy-washy. It's probably reserved for those who make the news (real news stories, not AES stuff).
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also, try not to mention intimate details of your personal life, like how much you got trashed on friday or the korean girl you hooked up with.... people gossip a lot here about the foreign teacher and you don't want details like this getting to the students or their parents. |
I can confirm this from experience. Korean's gossip like crazy. Even telling ONE person something will result in the entire school (and neighbouring schools) knowing about it a couple of weeks later.
Though if you slip up and spill the beans on a hook up or something, don't worry about it. You can't get in trouble for doing things that aren't illegal. |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 11:14 pm Post subject: |
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I think you've encountered some exaggerations on this thread. It's fine to brag about your hangover when everyone went out for a hweshik (kind of a staff dinner/party) but if you were out drinking without the Korean teachers, I think that will just reinforce the negative stereotypes. The only people I've known to be fired in mid-contract here was due to drinking. One guy never showed up to work drunk, but he seemed to always be unshaven, suffering from a hangover, and had little enthusiasm left for teaching. The school was definitely not impressed. I think he lasted like 2 months. Do what you want on the weekends, but I'd take it easy on the week, unless there's a school sanctioned event. If you're the type who does rediculous things when you get drunk, then I'd keep your consumption down then too. |
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jonpurdy
Joined: 08 Jan 2009 Location: Ulsan
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 11:19 pm Post subject: |
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kingplaya4 wrote: |
I think you've encountered some exaggerations on this thread. It's fine to brag about your hangover when everyone went out for a hweshik (kind of a staff dinner/party) but if you were out drinking without the Korean teachers, I think that will just reinforce the negative stereotypes. The only people I've known to be fired in mid-contract here was due to drinking. One guy never showed up to work drunk, but he seemed to always be unshaven, suffering from a hangover, and had little enthusiasm left for teaching. The school was definitely not impressed. I think he lasted like 2 months. Do what you want on the weekends, but I'd take it easy on the week, unless there's a school sanctioned event. If you're the type who does rediculous things when you get drunk, then I'd keep your consumption down then too. |
I disagree with this, though my disagreement is based completely on my own experiences. The teacher who was fired for drinking was obviously fired for his poor teaching skills, not for drinking. They practically begged for me to resign my contract last year and that's after all my drinking antics. Of course I'd never come in drunk and was always enthusiastic and maintained a professional appearance.
I guess you should just feel your school and situation out first. Seems like people have had a wide range of experiences depending on their situation. |
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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 11:19 pm Post subject: |
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kingplaya4 wrote: |
I think you've encountered some exaggerations on this thread. It's fine to brag about your hangover when everyone went out for a hweshik (kind of a staff dinner/party) but if you were out drinking without the Korean teachers, I think that will just reinforce the negative stereotypes. The only people I've known to be fired in mid-contract here was due to drinking. One guy never showed up to work drunk, but he seemed to always be unshaven, suffering from a hangover, and had little enthusiasm left for teaching. The school was definitely not impressed. I think he lasted like 2 months. Do what you want on the weekends, but I'd take it easy on the week, unless there's a school sanctioned event. If you're the type who does rediculous things when you get drunk, then I'd keep your consumption down then too. |
I assume all of this goes without saying. One would hope would hope it would go without saying to everyone, but as well all know that's not the case. So then, at least to the OP who is an actual teacher back home and had the good sense to ask the question to begin with.
Being an alcoholic isn't really appreciated by anyone's employers. But as far as the moral implications of being seen coming out of a bar, or having your students know that you do actually drink alcohol from time to time, you'll be fine. |
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NoSimpleHighway
Joined: 04 Dec 2009
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 4:47 am Post subject: |
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Do whatever you want on the weekends as long as its legal. During the week you'll be fine as long as you aren't completely out of it the next day on a regular basis. I've found that your Korean co-workers will be either completely oblivious to your hangover, or will laugh about because they themselves have been in your shoes.
One of my Korean co-teachers lives in my building and often gives me a ride to school in the morning. Last month I noticed he was driving excessively fast and weaving in the morning (even by Korean standards of driving). I asked how he was doing and he told me he had gotten home from a soju night just two hours earlier and was still obviously drunk. The first few classes of the day he just laughed and smiled, but by lunch time he was in the bathroom puking. The Vice Principal walked in, saw his sorry ass, and just started laughing about his soju night. This will be the typical response if you come in hungover occasionally. If you never teach a good lesson though your ass will be on the line. Keep it professional most of the time, but don't be afraid to have fun when out of work. |
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sunnata1
Joined: 19 Nov 2009
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 5:56 am Post subject: |
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So you want to keep on living the frat boy life? |
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