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[Panda]

I sufferred from this last relationship, finally, we broke up...tonight

I cried bitterly, and wrote a hate letter and clicked "send".

I deleted all his emails and contact information, blocked him from my MSN. All pictures and videos of us got the treatment of "Del+Shift"

Then I looked into the mirror, I was still as fresh as 6 months ago...
Now I am here posting, I even feel a little bit delighted, with ABBA singing in the air.

I thought I loved him, when we chatted everynight on MSN
I thought I loved him, when I took 2 hour train to see him every weekend.
I thought I loved him, when I looked through 5 streets and finally bought him a pair of socks with Che Guerava on the top.
I thought I loved him so deeply that no any other women would love him as I did.

But why I was not even very sad when I broke up with him. because I am a loser who doesnt even have anything to lose, hence to cry for?

Oh yes, I gave out all my love for him........when he went away, so did my love and pain.

Goodbye, pirate, without you, I am still this pretty panda girl, with my soft and warm black and white suit and cool sunglasses on.


Edit: a deletion without bypass recycle bin is obviously "Shift+Del"

[Olivencia]

Go back to him.

[Kikomom]

No, wait for him to come crawling back to you. Then do what your heart tells you to.

[Olivencia]

Yeah Kikomom you are right. I dig the helpless, confused and dependent chicks though

[Kikomom]

Helpless, confused, and dependent is fine for those girls who want to be coddled. And are lucky enough to find that big strong (figuratively) man willing to provide for her needs. Nothing wrong with that, and eventually it usually works out to a co-dependency with equal needs and wants being satisfied.

The problem with the hate letter is that most men takes things literally. They WANT straight talk and don't know that this is a woman's defense system kicking in when she's feeling most vulnerable. So, either he takes the letter at face value and writes it off with no further contact, or he comes to realize that Panda really did mean more to him than his little pea brain had calculated on.

If he doesn't, then it probably wasn't a good match to start with.

If he does, the two of them can come to an understanding with a real heart-to-heart conversation that may only need refreshed occasionally as most couples' relationships do.

If they are soul mates, they'll know it. Then they can work on the details later. True love affairs are always a work in progress.

[the_beaver]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r41U_T7pQjQ

[TL]

[Bloopity Bloop]

[Triban]

Panda, do you need a rebound? I love basketball.

[fortysixyou]

NO !

Breaking up sucks, but this is what you should always do:

Say the following:


"It's been really nice knowing you, you've been a really good boyfriend/girlfriend. Good luck in the future."

And mean it.

Hate emails, poop talk, and spewing emotional garbage only makes things worse. Just do the opposite of all of that and wish them luck in the future. It will either bring the person back to you, or have the person remember you in a good way.

[Draz]

What if they really were a crappy friend and it wasn't nice knowing them at all?

Shouldn't have dated him/her in the first place then I guess. You don't always know the whole time though.

I won't say anything I don't mean. If it wasn't nice and I don't wish him well, I'm not going to waste the effort of lying or putting a good face on for someone I'm going to have nothing to do with in the future. I won't put the effort into anything bad either. Frosty silence is the best of both worlds, if you never want the person back.

[Panda]

the_beaver, what a strange song that makes me cry and laugh at the same time.

I never ever went back to any of my ex-boyfriends, I am pretty cold-hearted if I made up my mind.

Guys take it for granted that women who love them a lot are easy women who will stay for them forever. I am the helpless hopelss, confused confucian, whatever you say, but I am not dependent, well, maybe I am, but I will deny.

"you are great guy, nice having spent time with you"----??
No, I don't say this, I tell them: Don't contact me any more.
A break up is a break up, no need to fake it as a closing ceremony of Olympics and count who gets more gold medals.

But honestly, all guys I dated are outstanding to some extent, I never said bad things about my ex-boyfriends in front of other people either... But no matter how great they are, they mean nothing to me any more.

I never had a rebound, maybe I should start to smoke in a bar with my shirt unbuttoned to my cleavage this coming weekend?

F***, this is how rich smart women are made, I am going to spend all my time working and studying and making money. When I am as old as Maria Carrie or Madona or Demi Moore, I will go back to date again, with guys 15 years younger than me.......

[travelingfool]

[djsmnc]

I've had the same girlfriend for a very long time. Sometimes I want to kick her to the curb, but can never bring myself to do it. She's too supportive!

[cpolian]

well um yes at least you do you have your panda suit