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[nycbabyblue67]

Hi there, ladies. Would any of you be willing to PM me about your social life/dating expereince in Korea? Thank you.

[Cerberus]

[nycbabyblue67]

Intersting like a train wreck? Haha! P.S. I'm actually kind of cute and in great shape.

[Illysook]

I pm'd the OP but I'll reply in public too.

Most people will be younger than you, but you can still have a good time, and maybe even meet the man of your dreams.

I met a software engineer that I am now seeing stateside. The long distance aspect of it really sucked and still does, but I'm giving it a chance.

I also had the opportunity to date a much younger military guy and a Korean guy who had lived in America for several years.

I'm 45 and I wish that I weighed 20 pounds less than what I actually do weigh, but I don't hate my figure and neither do most men.

I had an Asian/Canadian friend who could be described as bbw, and she definitely got around. It was her way of coping with the isolation that she was dealing with as she lived in the middle of nowhere.

There are a lot of lonely people here...but you don't have to be one of them. Just make an effort.

[PRagic]

Nobody bothered to ask why the OP wants to know? Personal reasons? Reporter? Researcher? Gender?

Yikes!

[mc_jc]

The best advice I can say, and some was bound to say it, is to wait until you arrive in the town/city you will be teaching in. There is really no real reason to worry about it before you arrive.
However, I'd say there is something in Korea for everyone. All it takes is a little looking into.

If you go someplace expecting something, you might become disappointed if you don't find it. So the very best thing I could say is not to expect anything, just let the chips fall where they will.
Come to Korea- earn some money, do some traveling and if the opportunity arises, carpe diem!

[stoned]

OP is an intelligent woman.....indirectly asking for a date. I like intelligent women who indirectly asks for a date. PM me woman.

[storysinger81]

OP--I'm a bit younger (28 ), but I think it depends what you're looking for and what you make of it. There are a few, but not many, older single western male teachers here who are not interested in scoring Korean tail half their age. They tend to be pretty cool guys, but are of the confirmed-bachelor variety. They'd enjoy dating and fun, but if you're looking to find a real relationship that can continue outside Korea, I'm thinking it's unlikely.

There are probably a lot of Korean men who are divorced and won't be had by a Korean woman. There may also be some open-minded men who've avoided the whole Korean go to college-get a job-get married-have kids-work until your kids have done this and can support you-treadmill. The guy I'm marrying, for example, is never-married, 37 Korean age, looks 25, and probably would have been way open to older women who were in shape before we met.

Be a little careful though. I have had friends get involved with older Korean men who found out later they were the mistress.

[nycbabyblue67]

Thanks for the thoughtful responses.
To clarify, I am asking this because I will be arriving in February and was wondering about my prospects for dating/an active social life.
I'm from NYC, which has a rather strange dating scene and was wondering if I'd run into a similar situation in/around Seoul.
I'm not necessarily looking for a husband (but congrats to those of you who found one and are happy), but rather am interested in meeting people/dating and open to seeing how things evolve.
In NYC I often date guys in their early 30s (I'm 42). Wouldn't think that would be a taboo w/ westerners in Korea, but it seems like most ESL teachers in Korea are recent college grads/early 20s.
Wondering about dating outside the ESL community. Plenty of expats from all walks of life in the Seoul area, right? One woman mentioned that she met wonderful a software engineer.
Finally not against dating Korean guys but seems like the cultural differences would be terribly hard to overcome.
Thanks again for all of the thoughtful responses and willingness to share.
Please feel free to PM me if you are shy about responding on the board.
Wishing you all the best in 2010!

[mc_jc]

I think if you want to find a mature non-ESL crowd, you might want to try JJ's. It is a bit pricey, but you could find alot of professionals outside the ESL crowd.
From my time, it is more of a hit or miss situation or to be more specific, a crap shoot- there are plenty of men, both ESL teachers and non-ESL professionals. But to find the right one with which could click with might be alittle difficult- Again, just don't worry about the dating/social scene until you get here.

BTW- I spent 2 years at Columbia University studying for my MA before coming to Korea back in '97- yeah, the dating scene in NYC is a bit "peculiar" to say the least.

[nycbabyblue67]

[Cerberus]

[mc_jc]

[nycbabyblue67]

[wylies99]

OP, I�ve seen older women lose their minds in Korea and drink/party/hop from bed-to-bed just like everyone else. I�ve also seen older women sit home and cry all of the time. Looks don�t seem to be as big a factor as you would think. It all depends on your personality.