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thomas pars · Joined: 29 Jan 2009

Recently it has come to my attenion that i simply cannot drink and not be an ass. So i have to quit. My question is has anyone actually managed to do it and not go crazy?

-C

aboxofchocolates · Joined: 21 Mar 2008 Location: on your mind

Hmm, crazy is relative, right?

It sucks. You build a life that doesn't involve drinking. It gets better. You slip up (post on dave's), you get back at it. You're in Korea? Climb mountains. It helps.

While Away · Joined: 03 Dec 2006 Location: Seoul

Alcoholics Anonymous in Korea
http://www.aainkorea.org/

conrad2 · Joined: 05 Nov 2009

Just drink at home, alone in your room. You can drink as much as you want and be as big of an ass as you want and nobody will care.

reactionary · Joined: 22 Oct 2006 Location: korreia

andrewchon · Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 8:29 pm Post subject:

One morning twenty years ago, I woke up in the gutter.
I've not drunk any since for pleasure, but
I've had few mouthfuls for ceremony's sakes (about once a year).

Captain Corea · Joined: 28 Feb 2005 Location: Seoul

The doctors told both of my aunts to stop - they didn't. They both died last year from alcohol related deaths (systems shutting down and such).

Good luck in your quest.

emetib · Posted: Sun Jan 24, 2010 9:58 pm Post subject:

You need to ask yourself how serious you are about this, because frankly if you aren't serious about it then you are wasting your time. Then go and get your butt plugged into an AA meeting. It is about the support. It is about accountability. It is about a "We" (i.e. people you can call to keep you in-line that are walking the same path you are). Anonymity and confidentiality reign in AA and CODA meetings and whatnot. They are designed to be a safe place. You will be given the tools to stop drinking, and will be held accountable via a sponsor and a 12-step program, and you will get there slowly but surely. The beauty of a 12-step is you not only stop, but you get to the root of "why" you do it in the first place, and it is a really healthy and solid recovery. However, it all depends on you and how serious you are about it.

Quack Addict · Joined: 31 Mar 2008 Location: Seoul

hockeyguy109 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Location: Daegu

What kind of bad things did you do, OP? Doesn't exactly sound like you're an alcoholic. Relax a little bit, we all get drunk and do stupid things here and there. You didn't kill anyone, did you? You'll probably be okay. People worry too much after a night of drinking. But if you are an alcoholic, I wish you luck in figuring it out.

"Why do I drink? I drink because I'm thirsty" -Shane MacGowan

air76 · Joined: 13 Nov 2007

If you really want to quit drinking then good luck with quitting...but it sounds more like you need to learn to drink more responsibly and in a more adult manner. Of course there are slip-ups but you can learn to shift from the early-20s attitude of getting wasted to having a few drinks and enjoying yourself without ruining the next day.

I would first try a no hard alcohol rule, and just drink beer. I think that no hard alcohol solves 80% of people's problems with regards to getting too drunk or doing things when they are drunk that they wish they hadn't.

Fox · Joined: 04 Mar 2009

BrenSmith · Joined: 10 Sep 2009 Location: Bundang

If you're late-teens/early 20s then that's par for the course. It happens from time to time.Relax..or just stop getting so blasted.

Neil · Joined: 02 Jan 2004 Location: Tokyo

Haven't quit but a few years ago after a few regretful sunday mornings decided to not drink anything stronger than wine. So far the 'drunken ass' syndrome has been avoided.

You could always take an ESL job in Saudi to force you to quit...good money too from what I hear.

Lunar Groove Gardener · Joined: 05 Jan 2005 Location: 1987 Subaru

If the question of if and how to quit resurfaces repeatedly, you owe it to yourself to give it a try.

AA and its process will educate and inform you in a way which will improve your understanding of yourself and your situation/struggle.

Read the book and get to know how it works; it's for anyone that feels as though alcohol has become a problem in their life.
Get to know some people that have made the hard decision.
PM me for more in depth discussion.

You can always go back to drinking at any point, so why not figure that you may have something valuable to gain by having a look at the other?

Like anyone that drinks, I though that quitting was a tragic, unbearable loss.
How could I go to Belgium and not drink beer?
How could I visit Paris and not drink wine?
Such self-defeating, irrational arguments kept me in the game for an extra decade.