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aboxofchocolates
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 Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 7:51 pm Post subject: Cheating, again. |
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It's a hot topic 'round these here parts.
I have a friend (we have been friends for years) and he has a girlfriend. Me and this friend have occasionally been 'romantic', to the point where we even classified our 'romance' as a 'relationship'. Anyway, he's bored with gf and since we've been coffeeing it up he seems to be interested in hitting me up for some extra-curricular activities.
Normally I'd be taking that with a grain of ativan and laughing it off, but these days I'm feeling that mythical sense of outrage we feminists are supposed to live and breathe. Sister numbnuts gf has been putting the time and the effort into making my crapola friend feel secure in the fact he won't die alone- shouldn't she expect a little loyalty out of the arrangement? And yet, what tool has a real relationship (no quotes) with a guy like my friend, who is (god love him) great coffee conversation, but a little lean in the integrity department.
And, washboard abs.
So, should I go for the instant replay and tell all the world therebye a) getting some and b) ensuring my sister (in womanhood: if she were my real sister I'd be a little less civil) has been well informed about her potential life-mate's fidelity issues? |
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bassexpander
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:08 pm Post subject: |
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That's also the payback ladies get for dating guys who know they are attractive. I bet he's with multiple Korean ladies on the side, as well. You're just a pawn, by the way. You think you're coy by being all romantic and all, but the truth his you're just another play. Besides, your idea of turning him in at this point is likely because you are upset you can't have him all to yourself.
Jealousy.
"Feminists" like you make me sick. If you truly were righteous, you wouldn't have flirted around with someone else's boyfriend in the first place. Don't try to whitewash your past "romantic" actions with this woman's boyfriend with the satisfaction of "outing" him.
By the way, you write like a man. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
That's also the payback ladies get for dating guys who know they are attractive. I bet he's with multiple Korean ladies on the side, as well. You're just a pawn, by the way. You think you're coy by being all romantic and all, but the truth his you're just another play. Besides, your idea of turning him in at this point is likely because you are upset you can't have him all to yourself.
Jealousy.
"Feminists" like you make me sick. If you truly were righteous, you wouldn't have flirted around with someone else's boyfriend in the first place. Don't try to whitewash your past "romantic" actions with this woman's boyfriend with the satisfaction of "outing" him. |
Feminism is righteous? And here I thought it was just seeking out equality. Sweeet!!
Wow, coy and romantic, two words I've never heard myself described as before. Pawn: well, I am a marxist, after all. Bassexpander, I'm going to use my woman's intuition to say... you have been cheated on before. Muffin, I feel for you, I really do.
Our past romantic actions were as pure as any out-of-wedlock romantic actions get- what are you getting at?
by the way, that makes one of us. |
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Street Magic
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:44 pm Post subject: |
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| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
...Sister numbnuts gf has been putting the time and the effort into making my crapola friend feel secure in the fact he won't die alone- shouldn't she expect a little loyalty out of the arrangement?...
b) ensuring my sister (in womanhood: if she were my real sister I'd be a little less civil) has been well informed about her potential life-mate's fidelity issues? |
| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
| Feminism is righteous? And here I thought it was just seeking out equality. Sweeet!! |
It seems strange to me that you seem to care about someone mostly (if not only) for the mere fact that she shares your gender. Isn't that at odds with the whole equality/everyone's his or her own individual thing (gender specific grammar is undermining my point)?
I know, the "double standard" schtick has been used to death, but it serves an important point here: You probably shouldn't give someone you wouldn't really care about as an individual special treatment for some gender related reason, especially not when you'll be doing so through the hassling of someone you actually care about in the individual sense. Plus, the concept of non-harm related morality is kind of lame as a rule of thumb.
My vote is to either fool around or don't, but don't tell the girlfriend either way. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:46 pm Post subject: |
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Oh, real advice.
Well, ok.
spoilsport. |
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Street Magic
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:49 pm Post subject: |
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| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
Oh, real advice.
Well, ok.
spoilsport. |
I said you should fool around if you feel like it.
Are you implying that you were going to have more fun with revealing the cheating than with the carnal romp itself? That's pretty brutal. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 8:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Street Magic wrote: |
| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
Oh, real advice.
Well, ok.
spoilsport. |
I said you should fool around if you feel like it.
Are you implying that you were going to have more fun with revealing the cheating than with the carnal romp itself? That's pretty brutal. |
It's a cold world. And there is a lot of time to kill between episodes of Dollhouse. |
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sqrlnutz123
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| Posted: Sat Jan 30, 2010 9:49 pm Post subject: |
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| I thought Dollhouse got canceled. |
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Panda
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aboxofchocolate
I guess you under-estimated his gf...
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Nightrain
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| Find someone whose opinion you truly value. |
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Forward Observer
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 1:07 am Post subject: |
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| bassexpander wrote: |
That's also the payback ladies get for dating guys who know they are attractive. I bet he's with multiple Korean ladies on the side, as well. You're just a pawn, by the way. You think you're coy by being all romantic and all, but the truth his you're just another play. Besides, your idea of turning him in at this point is likely because you are upset you can't have him all to yourself.
Jealousy.
"Feminists" like you make me sick. If you truly were righteous, you wouldn't have flirted around with someone else's boyfriend in the first place. Don't try to whitewash your past "romantic" actions with this woman's boyfriend with the satisfaction of "outing" him.
By the way, you write like a man. |
Best post ever! |
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DorkothyParker
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She will be pissed and she will blame you completely. You should tell her just to save her from her own crappy future (if things are really serious between them, that is.) They might not break up, but knowledge is power.
He will be pissed and probably won't want to sleep with you anymore. Or worse, he will think you're his girlfriend now (eww!)
A sticky wicket it is. I am a pansy and would tip her off anonymously, personally. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:31 am Post subject: |
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| DorkothyParker wrote: |
She will be pissed and she will blame you completely. You should tell her just to save her from her own crappy future (if things are really serious between them, that is.) They might not break up, but knowledge is power.
He will be pissed and probably won't want to sleep with you anymore. Or worse, he will think you're his girlfriend now (eww!)
A sticky wicket it is. I am a pansy and would tip her off anonymously, personally. |
This is some fantastic advice! Though I wonder, is she really going to want and/or believe me telling her her bf is a pig? I've noticed people are usually pretty aware they are making a mistake and would like to keep on making said mistake without outside interference.
he will think you're his girlfriend now (eww!)-  |
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blackjack
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:48 am Post subject: |
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Is the girlfriend a friend? Do you expect him to be faithful? If no to both then go for it. If he is the type to cheat then he will do anyway and you might as well have some fun with it. You don't owe her anything because you are both girls, you don't owe her anything because you are both human. The only person you owe it to is yourself and your own moral compass
By the way the last ep of Dollhouse really threw me, great but really not what I was expecting |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 4:48 am Post subject: |
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| Forward Observer wrote: |
| bassexpander wrote: |
That's also the payback ladies get for dating guys who know they are attractive. I bet he's with multiple Korean ladies on the side, as well. You're just a pawn, by the way. You think you're coy by being all romantic and all, but the truth his you're just another play. Besides, your idea of turning him in at this point is likely because you are upset you can't have him all to yourself.
Jealousy.
"Feminists" like you make me sick. If you truly were righteous, you wouldn't have flirted around with someone else's boyfriend in the first place. Don't try to whitewash your past "romantic" actions with this woman's boyfriend with the satisfaction of "outing" him.
By the way, you write like a man. |
Best post ever! |
Ooh, you two should form a support group together! |
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