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[Bloopity Bloop]

I'm sure you all know or have known someone who is always late or constantly flakes on people in his/her life. I've noticed these "qualities" often go hand-in-hand. Are these people just plain inconsiderate and so concerned with themselves that they abandon common courtesy? Or do they suffer from some sort of mental deficiency or disorder that compels them to act in these ways?

[reactionary]

I think they are really just self absorbed. And often they don't want to take any responsibility by actually calling and apologizing, so they just try to pretend it never happened.

[PatrickBateman]

Yes, I LOATHE people that can't arrive on time.

They always have an excuse ready. People that are late and people that flake need to be flogged.

[The Gipkik]

I've lived in Japan, a very punctual place; and I've lived in Thailand, a very unpunctual place, so I see both sides of the coin. One thing that I know fo sho, is that not all people operate on the same time wave. A minute for some is an eternity of tapping fingers and stressed out, hair pulling insanity, while for others, it is but a relaxing moment in life. Punctuality isn't that important for some people because they have a different philosophy of the value of time. Many westerners are born and bred to worship the efficiency, inescapability, and expense of the ticking clock, but others, some westerners, too, never succumbed to that religion. The only reason I'm punctual is that I am sensitive to the sad fact that most people are the bally bally kind; but when I'm on my own time, it's a whole nother matter.

[jugbandjames]

It depends on the person. Some people are just so busy that they don't leave themselves a realistic amount of time to get from point A to point B. I don't consider these people to be flakes. They just bite off a bit more than they can chew.

Some people are just spacey and have no concept of time.

Whether or not I'm annoyed by lateness depends on the situation. If I'm doing them a favor (picking them up, bringing them something, etc) then I get annoyed when people are late. If it's a social function (i.e. waiting for people at a bar) I don't don't care--unless we're going to a concert or some other event that requires punctuality. Also, the amount of time I'm willing to reasonably wait is proportional to how much I like the person I'm waiting for.

[southernman]

I have to agree people being late consistantley (in western countries) just have major troubles with time management and consideration for others. They get distracted bless them....

I've worked with people that are always saying they are busy, people that you always have to wait for stuff from, these same people think nothing about spending 10-15 minutes over inane conversations in the staffroom, while just grabbing a quick coffee, or my favorite, 15-20 minutes after work discussing anything, hehe.

They are undoubtably the same people with messy desks, untold unanswered messages on the answer phones and bits of food/gunge on their person.

My best friend owns several different businesses works between 12pm-5 pm, usually, and gets home to cook dinner for the kids. Although he can be late he will always state his reasons and take the sh-- he deserves for keeping you waiting.

I've also lived in Eygpt and been to Fiji and other relaxed places, where basically time is just a general guideline, not a fixed specific notion, thats kinda cool and very easy to get used too

[Chucky]

Happened to me the other day.

I set up a date with a woman and she pulled a no call/ no show.

Very strange, considering she was the one who pursued me and asked me out and all that.

[nautilus]

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[NYC_Gal]

You're way too nice. I'd have waited until 7 and gone home. If they live 10 minutes from the meeting place, they could get home easily then call YOU.

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[Sergio Stefanuto]

People who always leave everything to a mad last-minute rush and are always late generally seem to be of very dubious sanity and character. Constant lateness is a smaller part of a greater pyschological problem, probably depression.

[Kurtz]

I had some female friends back home who were always late. Apparently they were always in a rush, and never had time. I call complete BS. I suspect they just left getting ready to the last minute, and wanted to appear busy.

Some people need to justify their existence by putting on some kind of facade that their life is so full, and they don't have a minute to spare each day. I like my down time personally; I like being outdoors, I hike a lot, I have hobbies, friends, but I like to chill out and I don't feel my life is less full then other peoples' just because I have time to spare each day.

I've let a few people go from my life who were just unreliable, I find it insulting having to wait, like someone's time is worth more than mine.

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