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[machoman]

and she says it's terribly painful, what's the right thing to do?

i stayed at home, took a nap and went to the gym. now i'm in the pooper with her bc she says i should've came over and comforted her. but what can i really do? the pain is temporary and there's not much i can do. am i such a jerk about this?

[conrad2]

The right thing to do would be to dump her and get a new girlfriend who isnt so needy.

[redaxe]

lol, korean girlfriend problems

isn't it pretty obvious she wanted you to buy her some chocolate, come over and sit on the couch and watch TV with her and listen to her complain?

[Globutron]

I'd have offered to visit, and then make various lies up about why i suddenly can't come, but sound really apologetic.

[Radius]

lol my gf tried this stuff early on in our relationship. Men, well Korean men, are expected to come over and clean and buy her food to take over when their girls are sick. lol most men from the West just arent like that.

I explained to my gf that I come from a society where individuality is the norm, and people usually look after theirselves. BUT, after some thought, i HAVE met her halfway with these issues. I think Westerners can be a bit selfish, so she has taught me to think of others (her) needs more than my own.

It's been nearly 8 months, and shes came a long way towards my side of the western dating world, though, too.
It took me awhile to break her habit of the trying to run out of my house after an argument and wanting my to chase her bit. that was lame, and i never ran after her. It used to make her more mad, now she knows better to act like a little girl and run outta the house before tyring to calmly discuss things like two adults.


Korean men, are lets face it, one of the most caring guys there are for their gf's in the world, and its always a shock to Korean girls to find out that western guys arent like the ones they see in the movies. K-girls have this notion that western men are EVEN more accomodating than korean men. Its just not so.


SO, OP, just stick to your guns, and they always come around. My cop-out was always, "sorry, its just culture" whenever i screwed up and my short comings came into play. SHe'll get over them eventually, and if not, you have to start allllll over a train a new k-girl how to be with a western man. I dont want to have to start over, the first 6 months was rough and I never want to clash cultures like that again with another female in Korea.

[redaxe]

Honestly OP does it really matter if your Korean girlfriend gets mad at you? Do you want to marry her and stay in Korea teaching ESL forever, or bring her home with you? Or are you going to just break up with her and go home when your current contract is up?

[Gom]

Sounds like a good excuse for a shared bath

[Globutron]

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[princess]

This is why I prefer Korean men...But still, not ALL Korean men are very caring when it comes to things like this...and...not all western men are the type to ignore a girl. Men are men first and foremost the world over. Some are nice, some are not...and not all Korean men are wonderful...some can be nice one day and a jerk the next...and some can be very cold. But, isn't that what having a boyfriend or husband is all about...having someone you can lean on and having someone who will treat you like a princess? If not, I'd rather be alone...And, even though I am western I am not one of those die-hard uber feminist types...Those women ruin it for the rest of us girls. They are the reason many men are not nice and caring anymore...I mean, geez, my uncle's wife's brother said he held the door open once for a woman, and she bit his head off...He said he will never hold the door for a woman again...Thank you feminists...Feminists are also the reason why some Korean men are scared of us white girls...they think we are all a bunch of dominant bossy women...when in fact, I am quite submissive...submitting to a man is hot...Not to mention, feminism and Gloria Steinem are backed by the evil new world order puppets...they know it leads to the breakdown of the family unit.

[Illysook]

I suppose that I need a little Princess type advice because Korean men absolutely mystify me and seem as bad or worse than western men. I've been out with 2 different Korean guys and on neither occasion was I very certain that we were on a date. I met both of these guys at church. Perhaps the Christian dating scene (or the lack thereof) is what is to blame. I've been to churches where one is (unofficially) not allowed to date until one is a small group leader. That was a long time ago, but I'm in leadership training now...just in case!

So, how is it that you can know if the shy Korean guy is into you? Not that I think either of these guys are anymore, but it would be real nice to just once go on a date and know that I was on a date. It's enough to drive a girl bonkers.

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