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[interestedinhanguk]

So I recently invited my coworkers (Korean) over for dinner. I work in a kindy/hagwon. This is the first time I've invited them over; one coworker once had me and other teachers over to her place. I've briefly mentioned doing this a while ago. I've also do bake a number of things and bring them to school; which my coworkers really seem to enjoy.

Anyways, I told two of them that I wanted to have them over; I will tell the others tomorrow. The two that I told speak English well (one very proficient, the other is decent). Anyways, they seemed to get excited at the prospect. They start speaking to each other in Korean. Then, the better English speaker asks if the other teacher can bring along her son. I felt awkward. Frankly, I don't want the son there. I want this to be for adults. Nonetheless, stupid me just said, "yes."

Her son is my hagwon student. He's 8 years old and very annoying. I think my co-worker (his mother) knows this and is supportive of me when I have to take any disciplinary action. Needless to say, it's not someone I want around, especially coming to my bachelor pad (there's zero for a kid to do here and my apartment is just a studio). Some kids I wouldn't mind so much, ones that are a little younger or older and can just quietly draw pictures or not be a nuisance. But I don't think it will be the case with this one; he'll need constant attention.

I really don't know what to do. I already said yes, partially because it was so quick and I didn't want to step into something that might be a cultural minefield without having time to think first.

So, do I have a choice at this point. What do I do with my co-worker's kid coming over to my apartment? I wasn't planning anything too crazy, but just to sit and have a pleasant evening with food and drinks. Now it seems like it might not turn out that way. Any advice?

[redaxe]

The day of the party, tell them it is canceled because your "condition is bad."

[ldh2222]

Ever thought that they didn't really want to come to a single guy's home, let alone a foreign single guy? (for the perceived food & drinks). Maybe her son is the fallback excuse to leave early or whatnot. Of course, on Dave's, you always hear about those who have eager Korean ladies wanna come over, but not the other way around. Case in point perhaps?

[Died By Bear]

[brento1138]

Simple solution. Put computer in front of kid. Make sure computer is loaded with games. Solved!

[nathanrutledge]

Maybe has to do with she doesn't want to leave her kid at home alone. Father works/has plans/won't watch the kid/whatever, no one else to watch him, either he comes or she can't.

[interestedinhanguk]

All could be true. Computer is a good idea.

As far as the single guy thing goes, that could well be true. I don't know if it makes a difference, most of the ones who will come (including those two who I invited first) are married or have serious boyfriends. They all know that I have a fairly serious girlfriend. We've worked together nearly two years and, not to toot my own horn, know me as probably the most subdued and innocent guy (it's true, I swear ) Still, it could be the reason..

Any other ideas?

[lowpo]

[CrikeyKorea]

WHile the two other teachers talk to each other you can provide him with free English lessons.. Problem... Solved

[jonpurdy]

Yeah, the easiest thing is to load up your computer with Korean games and movies/tv show.

[SparkleKorea]

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[interestedinhanguk]

[Tamada]

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