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Triban · Joined: 14 Jul 2009 Location: Suwon Station

I simply don't understand some people. My sister (who is 6 years my elder) lives in NYC with a decent enough job but keeps complaining how stressed and unhappy and broke she is. Then I see her apartment via Skype and it is HUGE and in SOHO. SHe is paying $1,800 a month to live there. I told her to find a cheaper place, she sobbed and said "I have to!"

To put this in perspective her apartment has a downstairs, upstairs, and kitchen. Our apartments are probably 1/4 to 1/5 the size of it.

Why are some people so incompetent and tend to make their own problems?

ThingsComeAround · Joined: 07 Nov 2008

Some people like to be stressed
Some people like to complain
Some people like drama

Some can deal with working at a not so prestigious job
Some can deal with living in a not so fancy apartment
Some can deal with not keeping up with the Jones'

Italy37612 · Joined: 25 Jan 2010 Location: Somewhere

Natural selection. Or maybe your mom dropped her on the head as a child?

Triban · Joined: 14 Jul 2009 Location: Suwon Station

I actually see a lot of people like this. People who can't pay for food but have cable...and rims. People whose business is in debt but buy yachts...

cyui · Joined: 10 Jan 2011

Most times, they are angry because they feel like they have been treated unfairly and 9/10 times this though is justified by past abuse, etc. No,it doesn't make it right, but don't knock someone untill you've walked in a mile in their shoes as you never what they have been through.

They're always gonna believe what they're getting/giving out is fully deserved ( the good and the bad)..

It all goes back to Karma.

Italy37612 · Joined: 25 Jan 2010 Location: Somewhere

Past abuse requires you to spend well above your means and spiral into a perpetual cycle of debt?

There is no reason she needs to live in an apartment like that if she can't afford it, and there are no excuses.

Koreadays · Joined: 20 May 2008

It's NYC.. it's very image conscious society. having a nice apt in Soho means something.
why doesn't she get a room mate? I can understand she wants a nice place, also it's not easy to find decent places in NYC..

she is caught up in that whole NYC lifestyle thing..

cyui · Joined: 10 Jan 2011

Yes, Saṃsāra ( motivation in Vipāka)

Triban · Joined: 14 Jul 2009 Location: Suwon Station

West Coast Tatterdemalion · Joined: 31 Aug 2010

Yeah, so glad that I don't live or think like that. I don't care about having a big apartment or the best looking car on the block. Content with inner happiness rather than outer.

cyui · Joined: 10 Jan 2011

Yeah..completly understand man. It's like your unable to have form/maintain normal relationships" because it's like someone did the exact same thing that your family did at some point ( even if's in a completly different contexed meaning).

She probably goes "between" thinking of what she knows is/should be deserved, what she is currently getting and what she "intends" herself to have through justified "will entitlement"; all while not being able to deciper the equal "balance" in the proper time/place.

It comes from childhood abuse. You live on high polar extremes ( never in debt vs. always in debt; never having any money vs having a whole lot at once; never having an old car vs. having 3 or 4 new ones; and etc, etc).

IlIlNine · Joined: 15 Jun 2005 Location: Gunpo, Gyonggi, SoKo

The very definition of 됀장녀

Triban · Joined: 14 Jul 2009 Location: Suwon Station

sadguy · Joined: 13 Feb 2011

Dazed and Confused · Joined: 10 Jan 2003

Your sister sounds like every other person in the US. They make poor financial decisions over and over again yet never figure out why they are in the state they are in. The guy who writes at thesimpledollar.com was in the same situation and finally figured out how to dig himself of his grave. The story itself isn't amazing or even enlightening to me but to many people it is.