Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Illysook]

This is not just a matter of my perspective. I've never led this guy on in any way. He only has my phone number for professional reasons. I don't think that I even gave it to him. He must have acquired it from the school. His behavior could not be more inappropriate and I have the texted apologies to prove it. It has come to the point where his profuse apologies are not enough. He needs to leave me alone. My contract will be over in 2 weeks. You would think he could do this.

That's all that I want. No more apologies, just leave me alone. I've told my co-teacher, she told him that I was angry, he called AGAIN to apologize. I told him that I didn't want to talk about it. I don't want to talk about it...especially not after I've left school for the day! I'm so upset over this. I did nothing to deserve it. They should not have told him to call me and apologize, they should have taken some measure to be sure that he would leave me alone... and now I am so uncomfortable about even going to work on Monday! What can I do?

[Zackback]

No, sadly, they won't take it seriously.
2 weeks to go...just count the days.

[Ramen]

turn off your phone.

[NYC_Gal 2.0]

Post something on craigslist at a really good price, and put his phone number.

[ZIFA]

[imGosu]

[RMNC]

Have you tried telling him to stop? If nothing else works just yell at him and get in his face. It's the Korean way!

[busanmum]

If you don't need to talk to him for other reasons, block his number. Every phone I've had here has that option, to mark it as spam or block it, both of which effectively do the same thing...prevent his calls from coming through. I've used it before for "stalkers" and stopped hearing from them completely.

[some waygug-in]

I saw this happen to a Canadian teacher just before her contract ended.

One of her male, "adult" students had a crush on her and made it his sole ambition to make un-wanted advances on her.

Something about the Korean "never give up attitude" I suppose.

Not much you can do but ignore him, turn off your phone and remember that mentally he's probably still 16.

[bourquetheman]

I will say that in my 14 years of living here the question (with adult students) always comes up with a discussion about how they met their spouses. I'm only speaking from my experience but for every 5 stories, on average 2 (and probably closer to 3) involve telling the class that they "pursued" their spouses for months on end until they finally agreed to date. Other times when it's the femail telling the story they too have told their version like "At first I didn't like my husband but he kept following me and asking me to date so I said yes". I have jokingly said that it sounds like stalking but everyone just laughs it off. I think they really don't believe it's "stalking" or inappropriate whatsoever. Anyway luckily you have just 2 weeks. Hang in there............

[legrande]

Maybe 'cos they're raised in such a hyper-competitive environment, Korean girls seem to be so incredibly insecure that they need a guy professing his undying love over and over 'till the cows come home. They also seem to have some need to be able to tell everyone about it, which clearly makes them the 'winner'. Ditto for the expectation that the guy will sport the bill for everything...then when they don't score the trophy husband (wonder why? ) by age 28-30 they slip into desperation mode. If you've been with or dated someone decent from a Western country or Japan, you just can't fail to feel like there are some basic fundamentals not in place. Indonesian women give off a way cooler vibe for me as well, 'tho I was never there long enough to really explore that... Oh damn, I drank too much tonight, didn't I?

[The Cosmic Hum]

[legrande]

She may well have been pushed past her threshold of sanity.

[ESL Milk "Everyday]

Stop ranting online and start ranting to his face.

[Carbon]