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Jongno2bucheon
Joined: 11 Mar 2014
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 Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 11:50 am Post subject: Supporting in Laws |
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How much do you support your in laws?
This is so different for me. Im having a hard time getting used to this. |
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giraffe
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 3:24 pm Post subject: |
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We don't support my wife's parents in anyway. THey are typical middleclass.
Plus my wife is the youngest. If anyone would support the parents ( if they needed) it it would be her older brother.
WHats the family situation like? you married the eldest daughter and or son?? married into family that doesn't have much money..
I mean they are family soo i wouldnt mind helping my own parents or my inlaws if they were in need of it. However I would totally refuse to lend large sums of money for businesses or investing or any reason like that.. |
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edwardcatflap
Joined: 22 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 3:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm lucky, they support us |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Sun Mar 23, 2014 4:03 pm Post subject: Re: Supporting in Laws |
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| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
How much do you support your in laws?
This is so different for me. Im having a hard time getting used to this. |
Maybe 200,000 a month? |
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Jongno2bucheon
Joined: 11 Mar 2014
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 8:25 am Post subject: Re: Supporting in Laws |
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Shes the oldest daughter w a younger brother
| Fox wrote: |
| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
How much do you support your in laws?
This is so different for me. Im having a hard time getting used to this. |
Maybe 200,000 a month? |
Is it your own money or does she work?
Two of my buddies who are 1.5 generation support their wifes in laws anywhere from 500 to 1000 a month! Well their wives are working...
My wife isnt working... Fawk |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 2:29 pm Post subject: |
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| She works. |
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Sesame
Joined: 16 Mar 2014
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 5:52 pm Post subject: |
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my wife works and makes more money than i do. Her older brother does not support their mother. BC my wife makes her own money and coupled with the fact her brother is not in a position to help out, we give her mom $400 a month. Her mother is very generous with what little money she has though (she also works, is 70 years old, and plants flowers around different cities--she tries to do her part to make money, which turns out to be about $30 a day).
That being said, if I was just working I don't think we'd be able to help out. |
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Hokie21
Joined: 01 Mar 2011
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 6:24 pm Post subject: |
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| giraffe wrote: |
WHats the family situation like? you married the eldest daughter and or son? |
Hopefully "or" and not "and" |
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giraffe
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2014 7:30 pm Post subject: |
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| Hokie21 wrote: |
| giraffe wrote: |
WHats the family situation like? you married the eldest daughter and or son? |
Hopefully "or" and not "and" |
good thing I dont teach engrish =/
nice catch =) |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2014 9:00 pm Post subject: Re: Supporting in Laws |
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| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
Shes the oldest daughter w a younger brother
| Fox wrote: |
| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
How much do you support your in laws?
This is so different for me. Im having a hard time getting used to this. |
Maybe 200,000 a month? |
Is it your own money or does she work?
Two of my buddies who are 1.5 generation support their wifes in laws anywhere from 500 to 1000 a month! Well their wives are working...
My wife isnt working... Fawk |
Well, you need to start wearing the pants boy and say no. You got to support your own wife and kids not other peoples. I think the older generation was like this. Pretty girls would gold dig for a guy with money and make the guy (sucker) their own personal ATM machine. Had a friend go through this and he eventually put his foot down and said enough. But, the wife eventually opened a hakwon and she paid her dad to drive the school van for 800,000 a month. But they did have 60,000 won deposit in a small apartment for them. But, after the first two to three years, he never paid any more moneyto the inlaws. He had money and wasn't an English teacher though. She went to the States to mine for gold er I mean get a husband. Whole family was poor and told her to go get him and bring him back to Korea.
Whole of Asia was messed up like this where there was no shame and Gold Digging was worn as a badge of honor. In the west, we feel shame because it's marginally better than being called a prostitute.
OP, not saying this about your wife. I don't know the circumstances. But either put your foot down or tell her to get a job for a few years prop them up, make them save, and then get them to move on to sponging off the other kids. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2014 9:02 pm Post subject: |
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| Sesame wrote: |
my wife works and makes more money than i do. Her older brother does not support their mother. BC my wife makes her own money and coupled with the fact her brother is not in a position to help out, we give her mom $400 a month. Her mother is very generous with what little money she has though (she also works, is 70 years old, and plants flowers around different cities--she tries to do her part to make money, which turns out to be about $30 a day).
That being said, if I was just working I don't think we'd be able to help out. |
She may end up living with you in the future. Free cooked meals and free child care. The 400 allowance paid to her would be worth it in this case. Lol. |
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Jongno2bucheon
Joined: 11 Mar 2014
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2014 10:20 pm Post subject: Re: Supporting in Laws |
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| Weigookin74 wrote: |
| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
Shes the oldest daughter w a younger brother
| Fox wrote: |
| Jongno2bucheon wrote: |
How much do you support your in laws?
This is so different for me. Im having a hard time getting used to this. |
Maybe 200,000 a month? |
Is it your own money or does she work?
Two of my buddies who are 1.5 generation support their wifes in laws anywhere from 500 to 1000 a month! Well their wives are working...
My wife isnt working... Fawk |
Well, you need to start wearing the pants boy and say no. You got to support your own wife and kids not other peoples. I think the older generation was like this. Pretty girls would gold dig for a guy with money and make the guy (sucker) their own personal ATM machine. Had a friend go through this and he eventually put his foot down and said enough. But, the wife eventually opened a hakwon and she paid her dad to drive the school van for 800,000 a month. But they did have 60,000 won deposit in a small apartment for them. But, after the first two to three years, he never paid any more moneyto the inlaws. He had money and wasn't an English teacher though. She went to the States to mine for gold er I mean get a husband. Whole family was poor and told her to go get him and bring him back to Korea.
Whole of Asia was messed up like this where there was no shame and Gold Digging was worn as a badge of honor. In the west, we feel shame because it's marginally better than being called a prostitute.
OP, not saying this about your wife. I don't know the circumstances. But either put your foot down or tell her to get a job for a few years prop them up, make them save, and then get them to move on to sponging off the other kids. |
Yeah, i know what you mean. She never asked for money for her parents, but every time we visit her parents who live close by, we take a small gift. This ends up being about 3 to 4 times a week. But her parents usually gives something in return. I was just kind of fishing to see what was normal with expectations of us foreigners in a family setting,
Well one thing is she will start working next week so thats a huge relief to me. This entire perception of Male chauvinist not wanting their wife to work is such an inaccurate stereotype of Korea. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Tue Mar 25, 2014 10:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Think of Christmas with family members back home where you agree not to exchange gifts to save money on all sides. Perhaps that might be an ideal. I know it's customary here to bring a gift when first meeting someone in their home. But in this case, is it still necessary? If you brought it up, they'd just think: "Oh, he's a foriegner" but it might serve the purpose. Maybe exchange girfts two or three time a year instead or something. |
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Died By Bear
Joined: 13 Jul 2010
Location: On the big lake they call Gitche Gumee
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| Posted: Thu Mar 27, 2014 9:07 am Post subject: |
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| I don't know one person married to a Korean and has to support his in-laws. However, since I work for DoD, I have met quite a few guys married to Philippinas that send anywhere from USD $4-900.00 every single month. I don't know how they do it. The money sending home never ends, and it goes to the entire family back in the Philippines, so as long as these guys are working, they'll have to send money to the family. To be fair, one guy is married to a nurse, her ENTIRE salary goes to the family. At least they have his income to live off of. |
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