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[jonski]

Ok - Just had an argument about it and I wana know what people think about this....

Where I come from men are ripped apart for carrying their gf's handbags.

My gf feels very strongly that this and so I wana know what everyone else thinks....

Is it just me? Do you think men should hold their gf's bags?

[Dodge7]

My wife is almost 33 weeks pregnant and here's what I do. Say I'm on her right side, I then would hold her purse with my left hand and she kind of holds my hand covering it up. So it is pretty hard to tell who actually is holding the purse. It's too heavy for her to hold and she shouldn't be carrying anything heavy right now anyway.
If she wasn't pregnant I wouldn't hold it at all. Or if I did, and I saw another foreigner, I'd quickly give it back to her. I'm no sell out lol

[jonski]

I see...

She told me its heavy so I took everything out of the bag so it was empty and she still got angry..... Does that make any sense to you?

[Dodge7]

[Seoulman69]

I don't usually carry my girlfriend's bag but if she complains it is too heavy then I will offer to take turns carrying it. If I have stuff in the bag I will offer to carry it too. She's carried bags for me in the past. The trick is to only do it when she really needs your help. If she wants you to do it all the time then I would refuse. The ideal, imho, is being a gentleman but not being a pushover.

[laynamarya]

Absolutely not. I am a woman, and this makes me so angry. I actually spent the whole first year, when I was dating my husband, arguing that yes, I am actually capable of carrying my own bag. No, it's not that heavy. Yes, I can really handle it, but thanks anyway.

Ladies, it's your purse. You decided what to put in there, so you can darn well haul it around yourself. If you need to have your book, water bottle, makeup kit, umbrella, extra jacket, and the kitchen sink with you at all times, that's totally fine. But if you don't want to carry something that heavy, you are going to have to leave a few things out.

Incidentally, I am 38 weeks pregnant, and I STILL carry my own bag. He carries other heavy stuff, like groceries, but my purse is for me to carry.

[Lazio]

Absolutely no! Tell her if she wants her bag carried than date a Korean guy.
They are like little pu..ies (I didn�t mean puppies but it could be a good description too) treating the girls like princesses but only until marriage. Girls are fool enough to think they found the perfect guy who will be their slave forever. Once the marriage is over they face the truth: chores at home, serve the husband and be treated like a household appliance.

Handbags are accessories for women, it�s their belonging with both functional and fashion purposes. Guys have nothing to do with either one of those. Sure, carry a heavy luggage or grocery bag but not a purse.

[CentralCali]

Let me see if I get this straight: Instead of being a caring and considerate companion you react in a mean and spiteful way based on what you believe other people think of your manliness. Does that about sum it up?

[Savant]

If she wants you to carry it all the time....then definitely not.

If my girlfriend and I are out all day and she has a heavy handbag then later in the day I will help to carry it in the manner that Dodge7 describes.

My girlfriend is not the princess type who expects me to carry her handbag.

Also, your over-reaction to the matter did not help your situation.

[Troglodyte]

[lemak]

No. Women carry handbags, not men (unless they're Korean, lol). Put a stop to that crap early on. If she complains her bag is too heavy then she needs to pack less. Pure and simple.

I'm happy to carry the bulk of crap, shopping, push start a car, fight off lions or whatever "manly" shit needs to be done, but as far as carrying someone else's make up kit, galaxy tab and whatever other junk they seemingly can't live without, well...that's their business/problem.

If you don't want to stand up to her, don't want the confrontation or whatever your other option is to offer to carry it, but do dumb crap like accidentally drop it every few minutes, break the handle, leave the zipper open so her feminine hygiene products fall out in Starbucks etc. She'll start carrying it again quick smart, sir.


*If she is in some way crippled, missing limbs or cancerous then it's probably acceptable, however.*

[Steelrails]

For goodness sakes, holding a purse for 10 seconds doesn't turn you into a woman.

Now if she just sticks out her purse and expects you to carry it like some lackey, set things straight.

But people with common sense who don't have issues can hold a purse while she ties her shoe or something.

[coralreefer_1]

Haha, I dont carry my lady's bag. In fact when we are out she stores my wallet, phone, and keys in her own bag~

[Dodge7]

[lemak]