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Feloria · Joined: 02 Sep 2006

I can't believe this--
About a week ago, my Dr. started calling me at home asking me to go drinking with him to discuss his marriage problems.
We had never had any kind of personal or overly friendly relationship before; he just started calling me out of the blue.
About an hour ago, he called again wanting me to cancel my plans and meet him--he was obviously a bit drunk. I told him I wasn't going to cancel my plans. He then said "OK, I gave you a chance-- don't come to my clinic anymore, you are not my patient." He then said "F---- you", and hung up on me!!
What the hell?? This sucks because he is the Dr. that pretty much all of the foreigners go to out here. He's a 10 minute walk from the University where I work.
And of course, I have no recourse...
Has anything like this happened to anyone else?

Dodge7 · Joined: 21 Oct 2011

Has this sort of stuff hasn't happened to any other foreigners here. Are you serious? I'd be safe to assume NO it hasn't. This is just so bizarre I'm not going to touch it.
What's up with Dave's today? Some of these recent posts about Koreans fighting and beating them up, harassing them and taking videos screaming their heads off, I think Korea is finally cracking.
OP, not that I should have to tell you this, but contact someone about this situation. Record some more conversation and upload it to the internet and shame him.

some waygug-in · Joined: 25 Jan 2003

Yes, this happens all the time.

Korea Sparkling.

I had an adult student demand that I go play pool with him. He was normally a very polite quiet type of guy and I thought he would undestand

that I really didn't like pool and didn't want to go.

He got very upset and demanded that I go. I didn't want a confrontation

and I did want to keep him as a student, so I just agreed and went along.

If I hadn't, I imagine things would have become very similar to what you

just experienced.

Moondoggy · Joined: 07 Jun 2011

nicwr2002 · Joined: 17 Aug 2011

I'm so glad I don't live in Seoul. It sounds like a real bad place to live because I've never experienced these problems or heard any of my friends experience these problems either. Maybe it's the crowded city atmosphere that pushes people over the edge?

EZE · Joined: 05 May 2012

It sounds like he`s a creep and not someone you`d want to have touching your body anyway. Some ladies will still be going to this doctor, so consider yourself lucky he isn`t your doctor anymore.

Jake_Kim · Joined: 27 Aug 2005 Location: Seoul

Having a medical license and skills does not imply or guarantee that one is wise and/or of good character. Every once in a while medical doctors commit murder, rape, or other crimes, do drugs, or any other unacceptable behavior.

You just had a bad luck, just sever all ties and contact with that doctor. There's got to be another, equally competent or even better doctor who can render service for you. It's actually better than his turning into a perverted stalker and ruining your life.

creeper1 · Joined: 30 Jan 2007

Go and see another doctor. A lot of the doctors in Korea speak passable English especially the younger ones.

It really is that simple.

PatrickGHBusan · Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2012 8:41 am Post subject:

This doctor was a creep.

Find another doctor, there are lots of competent doctors that speak English in large Korean cities.

Zulethe · Joined: 04 Jul 2008

Feloria · Joined: 02 Sep 2006

First off--I don't live in a big city; as I mentioned before he is the main doc that 90% of the foreigners go to.
I've already decided to sever all ties, and of course I have friends to talk to about this--but it is a very small community and I'm not into the whole "shaming"thing as a punitive measure.
The truth is, he has some serious anger problems--he told me last night that he was so angry at a family member that he wanted to "blow his (the family member's) brains out." He had expressed how angry he was other times we talked, too, as well as staying out all night drinking binges.
I was a counselor back in the States, and because of this I did agree to meet with him for an hour, but at a coffee shop or something and I would not be drinking alcohol and that he shouldn't either.
He then became very angry that I wouldn't meet with him longer--this was at around 9:30pm--it was at this point he swore at me and told me to never come and see him again.
I find myself genuinely concerned about his well being, and that of his patients.
I do know that his supervisor is American and works at a hospital up in Seoul, (I do know the hospital name)
Other than trying to contact him and express my concern, I don't know what else I can do. Maybe just do nothing.
All of this had just happened when I did the original post, I was shocked and angry--now I just feel sick.......

crescent · Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Location: yes.

This is not over. He'll have remorse for his behaviour and start calling you again. I would go over the supervisor's head and report him to the board for harassing you in the first place. As a counsellor you should know that this type of behavior is not isolated to one event. What if he does it again to someone else?

dairyairy · Joined: 17 May 2012 Location: South Korea

I was in a very similar situation and the doctor also had an American supervisor. PM me with the details. It didn't end well for me.

Who's Your Daddy? · Joined: 30 May 2010 Location: Victoria, Canada.

Like J Kim said not all Doctor's are upstanding, and it isn't just in Korea.

Swampfox10mm · Joined: 24 Mar 2011

Let me save you all trouble.

1. Story posted.
2. Gyopo or Korean member calls it a lie
3. Apologists list examples of same thing happening in the USA
4. OP denies it's a fake
5. Argument insues
6. Mod deletes entire thread.