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[itiswhatitis]

My parents live in Winnipeg Canada and when I have been in between teaching contracts I have stayed with them.

A short visit (a week or 2) I can handle but when I finally leave Korea for good I plan on taking at least a month off before I make the move to teach in China. I will be in Canada of course for that longer break. Without going into detail, my parents' home is not an environment which one is likely to feel refreshed/energized from (exactly what will be needed before starting a new challenge abroad).

I have friends and an aunt and uncle who live in Vancouver Canada who have a nice big house and 4 kids who have moved out. My Uncle is a doctor and my aunt is a tenured university professor so they are quite well off. They would likely refuse to accept rent from me, although I would offer to pay and I would honestly prefer for them to at least take something.

My plan:

When I leave Korea for good fly to Winnipeg, stay with my parents for a week and catch up with old friends. The leave for Vancouver and tell my parents that I am staying with "John" or a token friend who lives in Vancouver and who I supposedly went to high school with/became friends with while living in Korea. What I will really do is spend a month or so with my aunt and uncle in Vancouver before leaving for China.

As for my aunt and uncle:

I e-mailed them to ask them this before and they didn't reply. BUT they recently informed me that they have a friends staying with them who is going through a divorce. That could either be a hint that I am welcomed if I am desperate or MAYBE it is a hint that they already have someone staying with them so if things get nasty with North Korea (who knows what their take on North Korea is) that I am not welcome.

Having toxic parents sucks and I don't feel bad about not being completely honest with my parents nor do I feel bad about putting a little bit of pressure on my aunt and uncle, we are very close.

Thanks for taking the time to read and thanks in advance for any tips/ideas/personal experince on the matter.

[akcrono]

If you're very close, I'd just come out and be frank with them. Explain everything you said here to them, and let them know that they are not obligated to say yes, as they are already helping someone else. Better than guessing wrong. Just my $.02

[Julius]

Staying with relatives sucks. Especially in-laws.

Make your own way. Stop depending on others for food and board. You can't put a price on your own independence.

[schwa]

You dont want to stay with your toxic family, fair enough. Your aunt & uncle have tried to make it clear in a nice way that they dont want to put you up. Maybe its overdue that you consider not relying on parent-type figures to ease your life. You're an adult now, yes?

[Died By Bear]