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cat12345
Joined: 28 Jun 2013
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 Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 7:17 am Post subject: Does your family hassle you about being over here? |
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I have had NOTHING but bad reactions to my plans to come over here. I'm almost 28 years old so I don't factor it into whether I CAN, but I have to admit the nonstop onslaught of negativity wears on my sometimes. Is there a such thing as a good reception to an announcement that you plan on teaching over here? Is my family just particularly freaked out because I am an only child, and a girl (woman)?
I am not sure what to do to try and make them feel better, because I still plan on coming. My family is "country" and doesn't really use the internet so their researching on their own is limited. I don't think it would matter anyway.
Are they right? Is it more dangerous than sites like these let on?
It makes me feel really guilty  |
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Redstanggt01
Joined: 08 Sep 2013
Location: Florida
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| Im going through the same thing with my family so I'll tell you this. There's only a certain amount of time in your life when you're able to do these things. You're also 28 so you shouldn't really care about what other people criticize you for. If this is something you really want to do, then go for it. Don't let people tell you otherwise. It's your life. |
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Lucas
Joined: 11 Sep 2012
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| Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 3:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Does your family hassle you about being over here? |
No, but they hassle me when I start two identical threads on two different forums.
Most of the posters on here (bar Dodge 7 and Nolos) have the intelligence to remember for more than 10 seconds.
To answer your question, why not start dating a social misfit and then your parents will be begging you to GO to Korea!  |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| My younger brother told me not to come because my organs would get stolen. I handled it by furrowing my brow and shaking my head. |
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andrewchon
Joined: 16 Nov 2008
Location: Back in Oz. Living in ISIS Aust.
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Oh yes, the art of cutting the umbilical...
Tell them that Korea is a safe place because:
1. no guns
2. no drugs
And tell them, you have a return ticket and won't be flying with Korean airlines, because you know... Korean pilots can't land airplanes (share a laugh and put them at ease), show them the pictures of the apartment you'll be moving into, and pictures of the school and children.  |
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Ghost_Gorilla
Joined: 25 Nov 2012
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| Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 5:15 pm Post subject: Re: Does your family hassle you about being over here? |
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| cat12345 wrote: |
I have had NOTHING but bad reactions to my plans to come over here. I'm almost 28 years old so I don't factor it into whether I CAN, but I have to admit the nonstop onslaught of negativity wears on my sometimes. Is there a such thing as a good reception to an announcement that you plan on teaching over here? Is my family just particularly freaked out because I am an only child, and a girl (woman)?
I am not sure what to do to try and make them feel better, because I still plan on coming. My family is "country" and doesn't really use the internet so their researching on their own is limited. I don't think it would matter anyway.
Are they right? Is it more dangerous than sites like these let on?
It makes me feel really guilty |
I went through the same thing, and it didn't stop me. It's your life and your happiness at stake, not theirs. Since they haven't done any research, they are not in a position to comment about it all really. They made their choices in the past that their family didn't always agree with also, even though they've probably forgotten now. In the end, they'll probably respect you more because you did something that they would have been afraid of.
That being said, don't take a job just to spite them. There are a lot of crappy employers over here in the private sector so be very cautious when selecting your first school. |
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NohopeSeriously
Joined: 17 Jan 2011
Location: The Christian Right-Wing Educational Republic of Korea
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| Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Not really. My church life is more important than my family. |
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ttompatz
Joined: 05 Sep 2005
Location: Kwangju, South Korea
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| Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 5:34 pm Post subject: Re: Does your family hassle you about being over here? |
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| cat12345 wrote: |
I have had NOTHING but bad reactions to my plans to come over here. I'm almost 28 years old so I don't factor it into whether I CAN, but I have to admit the nonstop onslaught of negativity wears on my sometimes. Is there a such thing as a good reception to an announcement that you plan on teaching over here? Is my family just particularly freaked out because I am an only child, and a girl (woman)?
I am not sure what to do to try and make them feel better, because I still plan on coming. My family is "country" and doesn't really use the internet so their researching on their own is limited. I don't think it would matter anyway.
Are they right? Is it more dangerous than sites like these let on?
It makes me feel really guilty |
You won't be able to "make them feel better" and yes, they are probably "particularly freaked out because I (you) am an only child, and a girl (woman)"
You'll be going from one of the most dangerous countries (gun deaths, drug related crime, violent crime) on the planet to one of the safest.
6 months after you get here you will be asking them to come and see.
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matthagwon
Joined: 28 Sep 2013
Location: Japan lite
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| My mom is worried about me and always says I should come home and my brother says I'll get kidnapped and sold in the sex trade ( I'm a guy). Sometimes it bothers me but to each his own. |
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forvalor
Joined: 20 Jul 2010
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Mainstream - Don't be ridiculous, your parents have no reason to worry, you're a full grown adult. You'll be fine in Korea, it's perfectly safe for women and a great way to spend the next couple years of your life. Show your family how independent and liberated you are. Don't let anyone tell you what to do! You are your own person.
Alternate - You're a single woman at the age of 28. Your family, although they haven't told you directly for fear of hurting your feelings, are afraid that when you eventually do return from Korea, you will not be of a marriageable age and will live the rest of your life collecting cats. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| A lot of ignorance out there. When I was thinking of coming here, my mom worried about big bad Jong Il pulling some bat sh!t crazy stuff. Took me a year to finally make up my mind and then get over here. Nowadays, they're fine. If your family pays off your loans and gives some cash to you to live, then fine. If not, then let you go. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. |
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Stan Rogers
Joined: 20 Aug 2010
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| Posted: Thu Nov 07, 2013 2:48 am Post subject: Re: Does your family hassle you about being over here? |
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| cat12345 wrote: |
I have had NOTHING but bad reactions to my plans to come over here. I'm almost 28 years old so I don't factor it into whether I CAN, but I have to admit the nonstop onslaught of negativity wears on my sometimes. Is there a such thing as a good reception to an announcement that you plan on teaching over here? Is my family just particularly freaked out because I am an only child, and a girl (woman)?
I am not sure what to do to try and make them feel better, because I still plan on coming. My family is "country" and doesn't really use the internet so their researching on their own is limited. I don't think it would matter anyway.
Are they right? Is it more dangerous than sites like these let on?
It makes me feel really guilty |
You won't be able to "make them feel better" and yes, they are probably "particularly freaked out because I (you) am an only child, and a girl (woman)"
You'll be going from one of the most dangerous countries (gun deaths, drug related crime, violent crime) on the planet to one of the safest.
6 months after you get here you will be asking them to come and see.
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It's a little misleading to say that because gun deaths, drugs and western style violent crime rates are lower that it somehow equates a safer country. The dangers in Korea are different. Example: Safety. Try crossing the street in Korea even just walking on the sidewalk and you'll get the idea. This country has one if the the highest accident rates in the OECD. |
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ajuma
Joined: 18 Feb 2003
Location: Anywere but Seoul!!
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They'd worry if you decided to move to the other side of the country or the other side of the world. Pat their hands and tell them that you'll be fine. Teach them how to use Skype and set up email accounts for them if they don't have them. You might not want to get them into FaceBook right away!
And you WILL be fine. |
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Stan Rogers
Joined: 20 Aug 2010
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They'd worry if you decided to move to the other side of the country or the other side of the world. Pat their hands and tell them that you'll be fine. Teach them how to use Skype and set up email accounts for them if they don't have them. You might not want to get them into FaceBook right away!
And you WILL be fine. |
So true. Great advice. Your parents will always see you as their child, no matter how old you get. They would worry about you even if you moved across town. |
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cat12345
Joined: 28 Jun 2013
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| Posted: Thu Nov 07, 2013 8:04 am Post subject: |
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Mainstream - Don't be ridiculous, your parents have no reason to worry, you're a full grown adult. You'll be fine in Korea, it's perfectly safe for women and a great way to spend the next couple years of your life. Show your family how independent and liberated you are. Don't let anyone tell you what to do! You are your own person.
Alternate - You're a single woman at the age of 28. Your family, although they haven't told you directly for fear of hurting your feelings, are afraid that when you eventually do return from Korea, you will not be of a marriageable age and will live the rest of your life collecting cats. |
I'll be honest the "Alternate" never even occurred to me. Is 29 or 30 really considered past marriageable age nowadays? I even looked at "average marriage age" online, and someone actually made a list of average age of marriage in every developed country in the world: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_at_first_marriage
Most highly developed countries (Scandinavia, plus Japan and even South Korea) hover around 30, with the highest GDP countries at about 32...for the women, with men at 34, which makes their average 33. I also have my age guessed to be about 4-5 years younger than what it is (even by Asians, who apparently think all white people look old).
Oh great, is this another problem I never even though of? Haha |
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