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[i_teach_esl]

i opened his email to find several emails showing that he is a (non paying) member of passion.com.

he sent emails asking "how much" to meet with X for a hot X. he said he sent the mail on behalf of a friend.

once i woke up int he middle of the night and found him msn chatting with someone that he claimed didnt know if it was a man or woman. Yes, technically he didnt know bc he didnt ask, but come on... telling her she should go ahead and masturbate b/c she missed her b/f so much.

there were txt msgs in his phone in korean (i cant read them) and in english, many from the same 2 girls names, with lots of hearts inthe txts. one of them was, "why do you ask me? you know you can kiss me anytime." he claims that msg isnt his. claims he saved it b/c he wanted to call the number to find out who it was.

he made tentative plans to hang out with a friend. after probing, this friend turned out to be a girl he met at UN club a while back(before he and i met), they'd hung out twice before, and "i dont even feel like hanging out with her, i dont even really like her."

the other day, he was on the phone with a girl, talking and laughing, and said at one point, "we'll talk about that later." he said it was b/c she asked when he last saw his girlfriend, and whether or not we [Mod Edit].

ive already made up my mind that this is over, i think im typing it to remind myself in case i get weak when he comes crying to me (which he has once before: refused to leave my apt, cried, and slept onteh bathroom floor). i took this reaction to be genuine and sincere and that imustve been misinterpreting things, but there have been TOO MANY things.

men, chime in. am i overreacting w/breaking up? are these little "not technically cheating" things that all men do?"

[cpolian]

why would you stay with him?
unfortunately, this is pretty common behavior, with BOYS, but that doesn't mean you need to put up with it for any reason. lose him.

[proustme]

You know what to do. Tell him to get out of your universe.

He's surely already cheated on you. You've already caught him multiple times in the middle or after he cheated on you.

[Leslie Cheswyck]

Dump him.

Come sleep with me.

You need to get even.

[Xaiko]

Should have left him a long time ago. Im pretty sure hes cheated on you plenty of times or in the process, especially with that many hints. Id say 60-70% guys cheat or attempt to, or would if the chance came. I think girls are the same, maybe not as much. Just my thought~

[morrisonhotel]

[Maserial]

Looks like it's time to kick that turd to the curb.

[Panda]

I didn't vote because I think we all judge people from their two sides.

If their virtues surpass their drawbacks, we think they are good people, vice versa.

If your boyfriend is super hot or successful or entertaining, and also loves you a lot, you could consider keeping him.

But, really, life sucks most of the time...there is no perfect circle in the world.

[peppermint]

[scotty12347]

[morrisonhotel]

[Xuanzang]

He seems like a serial cheater from his texts, perusing hookup sites and emails. Kick him to the roadside. You deserve better.

[Girlygirl]

Please listen to this song over and over again: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I

And if that song doesn't help you with your decision, please listen to this one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_DZ3_obMXwU&feature=related

Life is too short to be wasted on someone like that. Best of luck to you!

[Freeghen]

I think at this point it doesn't even matter if he has cheated on you or not (which it pretty much is guaranteed that he has), but the main problem is that he obviously doesn't respect you and is treating you like some kind of fool and he is immature to top off the whole scenario.

I don't even know why you are posting this. You already know what you need to do.
You deserve better than this.

[oskinny1]

I am surprised no one has commented on your going through his email and phone. WTF is up with that shat? I would have dumped you.