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The root of Korean rudeness and selfishness
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yangtheman



Joined: 16 Jul 2004

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 5:15 am    Post subject: The root of Korean rudeness and selfishness Reply with quote

I just got back from two-week boot camp outside Seoul, and it was brutal like a real Army boot camp. I heard that is typical training for new employees in most Korean companies....., and it's worse for Japanese companies in Japan. I am writing a blog entry about it, but I keep stopping it because I have to go to bed early (to wake up at 5AM).

Anyhow, the one I went was for new employees (about 300 peeps) who had prior job(s) and most of them thought pretty much the same way as I did; the whole training was a brainwashing attempt and full of shit.

Being a fluent Korean speaker, I talked to many of them about my first impression of Korean culture. One thing I learned is people's distrust in government. Throughout Korean history, there had been many invations from foriegners and Korean government failed almost every single time. Ultimately, Korea was occupied by Japan for 50 years or so. And finally Korean War, where South Korean government couldn't do jack until UN led by US came to rescue. So, it became natural that Koreans think that government can't protect them and they have to take of themselves on their own. I think that's the root of many problems in Korea. Me first culture. Passing down all of family fortune to offsprings rather than donating part of it. You NEVER know what might happen and who will take of offsprings then? Not the government. The parents. The same philosophy goes into Jaebols (conglomerates) and their corporate structure. Even though they are public companies, most of the shares are owned by owner's families, thus making them basically owners of the Jaebols. It's really hard for outsiders to become CEOs or Chairmen.

So, when you look at ajummas doing the Heisman next time, take a pity on them instead of being angry at them. Smile

I am off to bed.
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jajdude



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 8:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Maybe Confucianism plays a role as well? A lot of "me (and my family) first" thinking, and strangers don't seem regarded as real people. They need to know age and status first before knowing how to act with each other. Strange that you would base your level of "respect" for a person depending on his age and job, but that's Korea, and maybe true to lesser extent in the west.

And it also seems to me that many Koreans really have no clue how to interact with foreigners, even if language isn't a big obstacle.

They seem very exclusive. Go out as a group, stay with the group the whole time, and leave as a group. Not a lot of individualism like we westerners like.
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the eye



Joined: 29 Jan 2004

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 8:59 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yang

i have a korean friend who is working at LG. he has told me such things about k.companies as well. he is compared to his peers in every aspect of his job and his performance is ridiculed in front of his entire department.

I have a lot of respect for what the working class have to put up with in this country. Now, when i am listening to the odd drunken shout from some ajushi to 'go home!'... i remember what my friend has told me...and now you too Smile

i don't want to be a scapegoat for anothers misfortune in life, but i can understand his life is often held beyond his control.

i thinks it's great that you made this post! hopefully you will open some people's eyes a little to be more understanding of each other before reacting.
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hellofaniceguy



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 3:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't take pity on any korean who is long on rhetoric and short of specifics.
I hear all the time...we must change the education system...we must change corruption...we must change the ways of doing business...we must do this or that...yet??? But...no action!
It has nothing to do with Confucianism! Nothing. It's all about monkey see monkey do. "Confusedism," OK! Confucianism? No.
These people going to the training camps...who is forcing them? Don't go and the big wigs will have no choice but to listen to the small fry and institute positive changes.
Come on...the counntry bands together for some protesting BS over the Americans! And you mean they can't band together for some positive changes and protest?!
It's the koreans own fault. They are there own worst enemy at times.
I see the way "the system" abuses them. But, why do they let someone use and abuse them, and then take out their frustrations but treating others the same way? The cycle needs to stop and it won't. Most koreans are not into individualism it seems. And the way they are currently doing it is not working either!
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casey's moon



Joined: 14 Sep 2004
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 4:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

hellofaniceguy (nice name if it's true), I know what you're trying to say but your info is totally wrong! Koreans band together to protest ALL THE TIME, almost too much!!! And they don't just protest the U.S -- in fact arguably, they are never protesting against the U.S. -- they are protesting against their government's policies relating the U.S., whether it is the military or imported rice. But they protest over labour law and all sorts of things all the time. I live near Gwanghwamoon and I've seen many a demonstration that had nothing to do with Americans.
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the eye



Joined: 29 Jan 2004

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 6:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

hellofaniceguy wrote:
I don't take pity on any korean who is long on rhetoric and short of specifics.

These people going to the training camps...who is forcing them? Don't go and the big wigs will have no choice but to listen to the small fry and institute positive changes.
Come on...the counntry bands together for some protesting BS over the Americans! And you mean they can't band together for some positive changes and protest?!
It's the koreans own fault. They are there own worst enemy at times.
I see the way "the system" abuses them. But, why do they let someone use and abuse them, and then take out their frustrations but treating others the same way? The cycle needs to stop and it won't. Most koreans are not into individualism it seems. And the way they are currently doing it is not working either!



It seems the only way the society wins change here is through huge, violent protest, or through international media attention. While the government may allow some large scale protesting...it doesn't mean they LISTEN. The second a protest turns too large or violent, it is silenced.

You talk about being long on rhetoric and short on specifics...well, you know the whole pot and kettle color thing, right?

I don't think you DO realize the extent of how people are abused by the system. Try being born here, raised in a lopsided value system, tortured through a classist school system, have no childhood, spend all your free time in academies so you can maybe get a decent job, face the pressure and ridicule of not being able to FIND a good job, have your marriage depend on the job you DO get, put up with being publically compared to your peers on the job, be pressured to socialize nightly, be able to down half a case of soju and be at work before the boss the next day, have your boss take credit for your ideas and blame you for his own mistakes....and all the while, know that you have nowhere to turn for help, have little social programs, have poor mental health care.

Would YOU be the one to stand up and say, "uh, no, I'm not going drinking with you boss, i'm going home to see my family"
...if you WERE the first, you'd be out of a job by the end of the month.

Koreans ARE very mistrustful of the government as well as each other, and ten people would be willing to take that guy's job if he quit or was fired.

How can you possibly think you can solve all this with a mass protest? How many protests have made a difference in america, or canada, or france for much smaller things??? Yet, you think it's the answer ?
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The Great Wall of Whiner



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 6:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Anyone who has been to China for any length of time would agree with the following statement:

China is Korea on steroids.

I don't think the rudeness and selfishness is strictly a Korean phenomena. It's completely Asian.
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the eye



Joined: 29 Jan 2004

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 6:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The Great Wall of Whiner wrote:
Anyone who has been to China for any length of time would agree with the following statement:

China is Korea on steroids.

I don't think the rudeness and selfishness is strictly a Korean phenomena. It's completely Asian.



how about Japan, Thailand, Laos, Myanmar, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal....
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weatherman



Joined: 14 Jan 2003
Location: Korea

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 6:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I find Korean society very weak. You talk about the government not protecting it citizens, but a 'society' organizies a government, and ever since the confucian purges of the 1500's, Korea has had weak governments. Korean society is still very weak. There is lots of public emotions, but little public opinion. Sure Korea has modern statecraft, but its organization is mostly done around western lines. Korean soceity as a whole is weak. Korea is still a place where power is king. Lips service is given to confucian values.
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On the other hand



Joined: 19 Apr 2003
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 7:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hellofaniceguy:

I agree with you that Koreans complain a lot about social problems without taking the appropriate action. However:

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These people going to the training camps...who is forcing them? Don't go and the big wigs will have no choice but to listen to the small fry and institute positive changes.


Back in the west, I saw or heard about workers being sent to equally asinine training seminars on a regular basis. You know, the kind of thing where some handlebar-moustached management guru gets up and spouts off about "quality service delivery" or "the new paradigm" or whatever. I've even heard about workers being sent to "boot camps" such as you describe in Korea. And in my experiencee, this has never given rise to any movement among workers demanding that companies stop wasting time and money on these ridiculous outtings. If it did, then the management quacks would all be out of business, wouldn't they?
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The Great Wall of Whiner



Joined: 24 Jan 2003
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 7:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

the eye wrote:
The Great Wall of Whiner wrote:
Anyone who has been to China for any length of time would agree with the following statement:

China is Korea on steroids.

I don't think the rudeness and selfishness is strictly a Korean phenomena. It's completely Asian.



how about Japan, Thailand, Laos, Myanmar, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal....


In Japan, I sometimes had people talking about me while I was in their presence (albeit rural Japan).

Thailand cab drivers and beggars are pushy. So are the hookers.

Mongolia is similar to China.

The other places I know very little about.
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the eye



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PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 7:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The Great Wall of Whiner wrote:
the eye wrote:
The Great Wall of Whiner wrote:
Anyone who has been to China for any length of time would agree with the following statement:

China is Korea on steroids.

I don't think the rudeness and selfishness is strictly a Korean phenomena. It's completely Asian.



how about Japan, Thailand, Laos, Myanmar, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal....


In Japan, I sometimes had people talking about me while I was in their presence (albeit rural Japan).

Thailand cab drivers and beggars are pushy. So are the hookers.

Mongolia is similar to China.

The other places I know very little about.


In canada, people talk about me in their presence too.... hardly enough to call a whole society rude.

Thailand's cab drivers and beggars are pushy? maybe the tuk tuk drivers are. the hooker's? stay out of the red light district dood, what hookers AREN'T pushy!!!! so the dregs of the society are pushy...therefore the society is rude? how about the other 99%?

I toured mongolia for a month... complete strangers invited me to share their house, and eat their food...and refused payment. cars stopped to offer me rides.

????
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mindmetoo



Joined: 02 Feb 2004

PostPosted: Mon Sep 20, 2004 10:06 pm    Post subject: Re: The root of Korean rudeness and selfishness Reply with quote

yangtheman wrote:
I just got back from two-week boot camp outside Seoul, and it was brutal like a real Army boot camp. I heard that is typical training for new employees in most Korean companies....., and it's worse for Japanese companies in Japan. I am writing a blog entry about it, but I keep stopping it because I have to go to bed early (to wake up at 5AM).

Anyhow, the one I went was for new employees (about 300 peeps) who had prior job(s) and most of them thought pretty much the same way as I did; the whole training was a brainwashing attempt and full of *beep*.

Being a fluent Korean speaker, I talked to many of them about my first impression of Korean culture. One thing I learned is people's distrust in government. Throughout Korean history, there had been many invations from foriegners and Korean government failed almost every single time. Ultimately, Korea was occupied by Japan for 50 years or so. And finally Korean War, where South Korean government couldn't do jack until UN led by US came to rescue. So, it became natural that Koreans think that government can't protect them and they have to take of themselves on their own. I think that's the root of many problems in Korea. Me first culture. Passing down all of family fortune to offsprings rather than donating part of it. You NEVER know what might happen and who will take of offsprings then? Not the government. The parents. The same philosophy goes into Jaebols (conglomerates) and their corporate structure. Even though they are public companies, most of the shares are owned by owner's families, thus making them basically owners of the Jaebols. It's really hard for outsiders to become CEOs or Chairmen.

So, when you look at ajummas doing the Heisman next time, take a pity on them instead of being angry at them. Smile

I am off to bed.


Wow good post. I thought this was going to be some kind of typical rant based on the title.

Selfish can mean many different things. I think they look at us as being selfish too. How dare we throw our elderly into nursing homes when we have these huge homes.

I've noticed my kids immediately share all food they have in class. If I give one kid some food (say a can of Pringles) as a prize, they break it open and try to hand it out to all the kids in the class. Of course there's a bit of a pecking order as to who gets first shares and how much... but in general in the west one might have no problem slipping the can into your backpack and say thanks!

The rudeness I've always believed was a result of everyone being one big family. You don't mind bumping into your brother or aunt. And you don't mind being bumped into.
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casey's moon



Joined: 14 Sep 2004
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 21, 2004 12:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You're so right about Korean kids being more than willing to share. I remember how much they HATED it when some kids won prizes and other didn't -- they always found a way to share. There are examples of selfishness too, but I think overcrowdedness is also a big part of it, as you definitely see it in crowded cities way more than rural areas. I also notice myself acting more selfish in Seoul than I ever did in Jeollabukdo...

As for the rudeness, well -- what is rudeness? One of my Swiss friends claimed Koreans have "no manners, no manners at all," referring to his Korean wife's slurping of ramyeon. But it isn't a lack of manners -- it's a different set of manners, isn't it? Same with the shoving and all that -- it just isn't rude or annoying to Koreans. Although it IS rude when a drunk ajossi pulls his pants down on the street near passers by and pees. Nobody wants to see that....


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HamuHamu



Joined: 01 May 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 21, 2004 1:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

the eye wrote:
The Great Wall of Whiner wrote:
Anyone who has been to China for any length of time would agree with the following statement:

China is Korea on steroids.

I don't think the rudeness and selfishness is strictly a Korean phenomena. It's completely Asian.



how about Japan, Thailand, Laos, Myanmar, Malaysia, Mongolia, Nepal....


Casey's Moon has said it -- "rudeness" and "selfish" is maybe not hte best way to phrase it, although I do kow the point that the OP (and others) are all making. It's kind of a touchy subject to call it "rudeness" and "selfishness" I think.

Because that is judging another society by our own values. I am sure Koreans travel Canda and think "HOW RUDE of that cashier to just hand me my change like that!" If I invited a Korean friend to my family dinner, I would be horrified if they said "How rude of you to pass your grandfather the ine bottle like that and have him pour his own wine!" Because in my family, when Gramps says "Pass the wine please!" well..he expects (and wants) to pour his own!

It's just a different set of values. . .

BUT I do see the whole point of the OP, and the other things said....they WAY of behaviour here stems from history and the way the society and culture has evolved due to the circumstances they have lived with. Same as in Thailand, and China, and North America, and England, and....

And when you are more aware of the history and such, sometimes it makes it easier to not let it bother you. Or me at least.
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