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[Gollum]

I'm online chatting with a Korean female friend. We used to date, but stopped because we had no *spark*, but remained friends. We often chat online about different people we date, etc.

Yesterday we started chatting about the whole ES issue, and she went off on a tangent about divorce in Korea. She said that there was a story out last weekend about the rapidly rising numbers of people seeking divorce in Korea... wish I could remember the stats she quoted for me. Something like several hundred couples per day get divorced. The total for one week equaled half of the number of people who marry in the same week.

Then she told me that, "Korean men have more hardship after divorce."

I was a little surprised at hearing a Korean woman say this. I expected her to tell me what I already felt -- that Korean women get the shaft in such situations. She looked at it a different way, however. She said that there are now stories about how many divorced Korean men are unable to care for themselves, since their mothers and wives did it for them their whole life.

It is kind of interesting, if you think about it. Also, I don't know how many Korean women are interested in having a future with a divorced Korean guy. I know most Korean guys don't want to marry a divorced Korean woman -- that's for sure. Even in my home country, there is a bit of a stigma with some, but it's much stronger among Koreans.

She also mentioned that lots of Korean women go to the internet to date.... foreigners. As a person who's been dating in Korea for nearly 3 years now, I'd have to agree. Lots of divorced women do seek to date foreigners. I'd say this is true because we don't attach such a stigma to them for being divorced. Also, I know for a fact that Korean women feel a great deal of shame over divorce. When they are with a foreigner, they don't have to feel that way.

Lastly, we chatted about how women are treated as "property" in Korea (their name is transferred to their husband's family book, and erased entirely if they divorce).

My friend made an interesting deduction after hearing me say, "Korean men are very proud and nationalistic, and many are really worried about losing their women and the future of their nation to foreigners."

She responded by saying, "If that's the case, then Korean men need to realize that 50% of the female population is divorcing, and they need to start caring about that 50% if they intend to keep a national identity for much longer."

What do you think? Are Korean men ignoring that 50% of the female population that divorces?

Do Koreans re-marry after divorce? I only know divorced Koreans, but I imagine if they re-marry, they hide previous marriages at all costs.

[TheMrCul]

I heard that there was actually a TV show where divorced people can meet up and start relationships with each other.

Don't many Korean guys (divorced and not) get foriegn girls too? (Not from the West, but from the Phillipines, Vietnam, China etc)

[ulsanchris]

I've read the other day that a most of the men marrying foreign women are men who divorced korean women. The men who married the foriegn woman clam that they are more docile and likely to listen to them.

[JZer]

[Blind Willie]

[rapier]

"The problems of being a single parent in korea"
The "hoju" or family registry system, which considers children part of the ex-husband's family record even when they live with the mother, is expected to be abolished by next month.

http://www.koreaherald.co.kr/site/data/html_dir/2005/01/10/200501100032.asp?kpage=4&kppage=0&scode=FA&art_id%22=

[rapier]

[quote="Gollum"]

[JZer]

Blind Willie, sorry for the blank statement. I was not really trying to apply that Korean women don't have their own opinion.


I probably should have wrote:I dated a girl (insert any nation that you like) for a while a it became a little boring because I had to plan every date. I love girls who have their own opinion and will plan things that they would like to do with me.

I will really just asking what men see in women who becon to their every call.

[ulsanchris]

[Sonja]

Another great, unbiased, thread from Gollum (aka: the Playboy, hehe). Yes, all Korean men are terrible, all those poor Korean women didn't do anything wrong, they were all victims of the evil Korean men (yet chose to marry their husband in the first place, strange is it not?). Luckily for them (and for older foreign men who can't get any) foreigners come to the rescue. Quick! where is super-daechidong-mega- kindy- teacher- with-nerves-of-steel-living in an officetel???

[TheMrCul]

Right...

[SuperFly]

Well my wife treats me like property. She tells the vet that she owns me...she tells the vet she bought me for 150 dollars. Sure, she pays for all of my shots, and buys me treats....but wtf? Owns me?

[Gollum]

[Gollum]

[Blind Willie]