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stevencollins
Joined: 30 Jul 2004
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 Posted: Wed Aug 18, 2004 8:23 am Post subject: Getting engaged? |
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| Hi guys, are their any special traditions for korean girls when getting engaged. Also, what is a good price range for a ring? Where is a good place to get one? |
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stevencollins
Joined: 30 Jul 2004
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| Posted: Thu Aug 19, 2004 4:00 am Post subject: |
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| Please help me..... |
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manlyboy
Joined: 01 Aug 2004
Location: Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia
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| Posted: Thu Aug 19, 2004 4:46 am Post subject: |
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This place does everything - photos, jewelry, outfits, honeymoons, etc. They're reasonably priced and they give great service. The site is only in Korean. www.eweddinglife.com
Unless the lady and her family are progressive types, meeting her parents in their house means you intend to marry their daughter. At least, that's how it was with my wife's family. The week after I met them I get a phone call from my wife saying "Mum has the booked the church!". And I hadn't even formally proposed yet! 
For a ring, you're looking at around a million or else she might think you're a stingy bar-stud. |
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stevencollins
Joined: 30 Jul 2004
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| Posted: Thu Aug 19, 2004 4:54 am Post subject: |
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| ya.. i am looking at a bit over a million. So I should be fine... Meeting the parents next weekend.. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh |
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jazblanc77
Joined: 22 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Fri Aug 20, 2004 6:57 am Post subject: |
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| manlyboy wrote: |
For a ring, you're looking at around a million or else she might think you're a stingy bar-stud. |
Oh gawd, I'm glad I didn't marry into your wife's family. My wife was raised to be as cheap as possible so she was quite happy with her 0.01 carat diamond at like 250,000 won.
Did you know that it is becoming the custom for the man to receive an engagement ring as well? If you spend a million on a ring, ask for an equivalent, non-gawdy ring in exchange!!!
We also did NOT follow the whole exchange thing between families. That means we didn't exchange the cost of an apartment for the cost of the furniture and appliances, we didn't buy a car, we didn't buy two hanbok and three gowns, and a cheesy tux. We most certainly, did not go for the decked out ceremony with bubbles, dry ice, floating platforms, light and laser shows, and star wars theme music!!!!
I got very lucky when everyone was down with my minimalist approach to getting married.
BTW, if you are thinking of doing a purely Korean traditional wedding, PM me, and I will give you the scoop. You would be surprised to know that not even many Koreans know how a real traditional wedding is conducted these days. Anyways, ours was traditional and I have absolutely no regrets... it was really fantastic and meaningful. |
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manlyboy
Joined: 01 Aug 2004
Location: Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia
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| Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2004 11:49 pm Post subject: |
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| Oh gawd, I'm glad I didn't marry into your wife's family. My wife was raised to be as cheap as possible so she was quite happy with her 0.01 carat diamond at like 250,000 won. |
I'd say my wife's family would also be quite glad you didn't marry their daughter, you stingy bugger!  Wedding jewelry is seen as a kind of investment by most Koreans. We did the traditional thing of buying rings, necklaces, and earrings. It's seen as a financial commodity that can be drawn upon if things get bad. Makes sense to me.
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| Did you know that it is becoming the custom for the man to receive an engagement ring as well? If you spend a million on a ring, ask for an equivalent, non-gawdy ring in exchange!!! |
Call me sentimental but I think that would kind of kill the romance. Ours was a church wedding. I also have no regrets.
Stevencollins. How did the meeting go? |
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peppergirl
Joined: 07 Dec 2003
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 12:22 am Post subject: |
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| jazblanc77 wrote: |
We also did NOT follow the whole exchange thing between families. That means we didn't exchange the cost of an apartment for the cost of the furniture and appliances, we didn't buy a car, we didn't buy two hanbok and three gowns, and a cheesy tux. We most certainly, did not go for the decked out ceremony with bubbles, dry ice, floating platforms, light and laser shows, and star wars theme music!!!!
and I have absolutely no regrets... it was really fantastic and meaningful. |
Same here! We just did it our way - no western engagement ring - no Korean exchange of gifts - and everyone was happy anyway! |
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jazblanc77
Joined: 22 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 1:05 am Post subject: |
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We also did NOT follow the whole exchange thing between families. That means we didn't exchange the cost of an apartment for the cost of the furniture and appliances, we didn't buy a car, we didn't buy two hanbok and three gowns, and a cheesy tux. We most certainly, did not go for the decked out ceremony with bubbles, dry ice, floating platforms, light and laser shows, and star wars theme music!!!!
and I have absolutely no regrets... it was really fantastic and meaningful. |
Same here! We just did it our way - no western engagement ring - no Korean exchange of gifts - and everyone was happy anyway! |
Peppergirl, you are lucky you didn't do the ring thing! You wouldn't believe the huge gawdy rings the jewellery stores were trying to push on us. Most of them had cubic zirconium crap all over them (yeah, the day I would buy an engagement ring with fake diamonds on them!), and most of them looked like Super Bowl Champion rings or Engineer rings. They were awful! |
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peppergirl
Joined: 07 Dec 2003
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 1:52 am Post subject: |
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Peppergirl, you are lucky you didn't do the ring thing! You wouldn't believe the huge gawdy rings the jewellery stores were trying to push on us. Most of them had cubic zirconium crap all over them (yeah, the day I would buy an engagement ring with fake diamonds on them!), and most of them looked like Super Bowl Champion rings or Engineer rings. They were awful! |
Haha, I know, that's why I chose & bought them in Belgium
Titanium - very light to wear. I've never seen titanium rings here, so if you see a Korean guy or western girl with one of these rings, it's my hubby or me
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Mashimaro
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: location, location
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 2:08 am Post subject: |
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Peppergirl, you are lucky you didn't do the ring thing! You wouldn't believe the huge gawdy rings the jewellery stores were trying to push on us. Most of them had cubic zirconium crap all over them (yeah, the day I would buy an engagement ring with fake diamonds on them!), and most of them looked like Super Bowl Champion rings or Engineer rings. They were awful! |
Haha, I know, that's why I chose & bought them in Belgium
Titanium - very light to wear. I've never seen titanium rings here, so if you see a Korean guy or western girl with one of these rings, it's my hubby or me
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Nice rings. I like clean, simple designs. great choice. I hate gaudy, intricate jewelery and I've seen a lot of it here in Korea |
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jazblanc77
Joined: 22 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 2:42 am Post subject: |
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| Nice rings pepper! We too were going for something very simple for the wedding bands. We eventually found a shop in Daegu that had some white gold + titanium wedding bands with a slight spiral. I really love our rings! |
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hadeshorn
Joined: 30 Jul 2003
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 3:54 am Post subject: |
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| jazblanc77 wrote: |
Peppergirl, you are lucky you didn't do the ring thing! You wouldn't believe the huge gawdy rings the jewellery stores were trying to push on us. Most of them had cubic zirconium crap all over them (yeah, the day I would buy an engagement ring with fake diamonds on them!), and most of them looked like Super Bowl Champion rings or Engineer rings. They were awful! |
Haha, I know, that's why I chose & bought them in Belgium
Titanium - very light to wear. I've never seen titanium rings here, so if you see a Korean guy or western girl with one of these rings, it's my hubby or me
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Nice rings. I like clean, simple designs. great choice. I hate gaudy, intricate jewelery and I've seen a lot of it here in Korea |
Oh man I hope you have got some leeway when it comes to taking that ring off.
Because my friend who works the ER back home in AUS. He got a guy come in after putting on a TITANIUM COCK RING. When he got wood, the blood couldnt escape.
So they had to cut the ring off. It broke TWO jaws of life trying to get the puppy off.
I am sure as hell not wanting anything like that near any body part of mine. |
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stevencollins
Joined: 30 Jul 2004
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 5:13 am Post subject: |
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| manlyboy wrote: |
jazblanc77 wrote:
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| Oh gawd, I'm glad I didn't marry into your wife's family. My wife was raised to be as cheap as possible so she was quite happy with her 0.01 carat diamond at like 250,000 won. |
I'd say my wife's family would also be quite glad you didn't marry their daughter, you stingy bugger! Wedding jewelry is seen as a kind of investment by most Koreans. We did the traditional thing of buying rings, necklaces, and earrings. It's seen as a financial commodity that can be drawn upon if things get bad. Makes sense to me.
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| Did you know that it is becoming the custom for the man to receive an engagement ring as well? If you spend a million on a ring, ask for an equivalent, non-gawdy ring in exchange!!! |
Call me sentimental but I think that would kind of kill the romance. Ours was a church wedding. I also have no regrets.
Stevencollins. How did the meeting go? |
Meeting is on Sunday. Ahhhh, I am a little nervous. Any suggestions on what to do/bring? |
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manlyboy
Joined: 01 Aug 2004
Location: Darwin, Northern Territory, Australia
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 8:01 pm Post subject: |
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DEFINITELY bring gifts for the family. And don't bring any cheap, nasty, stingy fake stuff like jazblanc77 probably did. Get your fiance to decide what would be best. On my wife's advice I brought along some scarves for the women and a big, fancy basket of fruit. I was so damn nervous that day I can't really remember whether they were impressed with me or not. My Korean friends tell me that Korean parents look for strength and confidence in prospective son-in-laws. What they most want is to be assured that you're the kind of guy who will always be able to provide for their daughter. Of course, that's only what my friends say. Wish I could say more, but I gotta run.
Let us know how it went.
Good luck! |
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jazblanc77
Joined: 22 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Wed Aug 25, 2004 9:02 pm Post subject: |
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| manlyboy wrote: |
DEFINITELY bring gifts for the family. And don't bring any cheap, nasty, stingy fake stuff like jazblanc77 probably did. Get your fiance to decide what would be best. On my wife's advice I brought along some scarves for the women and a big, fancy basket of fruit. I was so damn nervous that day I can't really remember whether they were impressed with me or not. My Korean friends tell me that Korean parents look for strength and confidence in prospective son-in-laws. What they most want is to be assured that you're the kind of guy who will always be able to provide for their daughter. Of course, that's only what my friends say. Wish I could say more, but I gotta run.
Let us know how it went.
Good luck! |
Now now, no reason to pass judement.  Not all families and their expectations are the same. My wife comes from a family of farmers so you can imagine that they were relieved when we wanted a simple ceremony that cut out all of the gift exchanges, etc. There were also no expectations of hugely expensive jewellery. Anyways, we decided beforehand tht we didn't want expensive rings... it was simply a decision we made. |
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