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[yakey]

"Down Range" is the jargon used by the American military for the nightclubs outside of Camp Casey in Dongducheon, north of Uijeongbu. Anyway, one of my mates got himself an apartment across the street from "Down Range," also know as "The Ville." It's like mini-Itaewon, suit shops, a few restaurants, but mostly dancing girl juicy bars. Anyway, my co-worker is tossing away his paycheck in these "Down Range" clubs and he looks kind of up and down, happy when re-living his night "Down Range," then kind of sad thinking about bills and his bank balance. Any advice for my co-worker? I think this becomes almost like an addiction. I've heard stories of soldiers going broke on their "juicy girl" habit. One part of me wants to tell this guy to stay out of these joints, but another part of me says it's his life and it's none of my business. What's your take?

[djsmnc]

I suggest you save your money, make a good life for yourself, and just hope that he learns from his own experience. In the worst situation, he will slowly sink into depression and spend a lot of time here trying to make ends meet. Otherwise, maybe he'll wake up.

What can you really do without coming across as a babysitter? It's best to set an example. His choice to follow it.

[Swiss James]

yeah, what djsmnc said- do something else at the time he would normally be spunking all his cash and invite him along. Bottom line though- it's his money

[lastat06513]

I was a soldier in a past life, I saw alot of my co-workers at the time go broke or even worse by hanging out "down range".
But from my experience, if you talk to him, there is a slight possibility that he might not listen and possibly get pissed that you might interfere in his free time.
I'm sorry to say this, but he might have to learn on his own about the mistake he's making.
Sure, it will turn your gut inside out to watch him spiral downhill, but he's an adult and must be responsible for his own actions. And sometimes it takes a painful experience to make someone see something isn't/wasn't right to begin with.

I have known some guys who married "juicy girls" and took them back to the states, only to have them do the same stuff there that they did here.

It's not the material for a "cinderella" story, not even "pretty woman", trying to pick them up and make them good again.

I think in the end, he might get burned--- royally

[jlb]

Make an effort to invite him when you go out so he might have a bit of a social life. Maybe that will cut down on the empty hole that he tries to fill with girls and drinking. Not really your problem but kindness in the form of trying to get him involved with normal people who have normal lives is about all you can do.

[Gopher]

[cruisemonkey]

He's an adult... stay out of it.

[jaganath69]

[uberscheisse]

i was so looking forward to a thread about farting.

[Tiny_Tibbo]

It must be hard to watch a train wreck about to happen....it's a normal human reaction to want to pull someone up when they are down.....however, there is nothin that you can do that will be effective enough to stop his destiny. The only thing you can do is detach yourself from the situtation.....
Probably not the answer you want to hear....kinda like how any answer you have he won't want to hear....the truth hurts until you accept it......
Good Luck, Bud

[mercury]

The Heart and soul of change...........


He seems to be having too much fun at the moment. So the positive "rewards" are going to out weigh the "negative". If you bother him it will make him want to hang out there EVEN MORE, sort of like a nagging wife trying to get her husband to stop drinking. As time goes on, and the negative rewards surpass the positive, he will begin the idea of changing in his head. It might take some kind of bad event, but believe me, he will have a big problem sooner or later, and this is where the motivation for change will come from. Just wait out the storm..........

[Red]

[yakey]

He was at a bar last week and got beat up. Some people never learn.

[Poemer]