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[GentleSusan]

Last time I was on here getting advice about my marital break-up. As further evidence of how stupid I am, I find myself involved with another Korean girl.

Nothing serious, but I went out on a date with a Korean girl a few nights ago and we ended going to my place for some slap and tickle. It didn't go that far - we did more than she had intended to and less than I had hoped for, but a far bit more than the nothing that she had indicated I'd get at the beginning of the evening.

Now, she says she feels guilty and won't give me a direct answer of whether she wants to see me again. Is this just part of the game or should I interpret this as her indirect way of blowing me off?

[kermo]

Let me save Dave some bandwidth by anticipating the response set you're going to get:

-Forget her, dude. There are plenty of other chicks who will put out with less hassle. Don't let her mess with you.

-Oh yeah, I've met those Jesus freaks before. They are messed up, and I'm lucky I now have an incredibly hot Korean girlfriend who screws me senseless every ten minutes.

-Maybe she thinks you will think less of her if she comes off as a "bad girl." Messed up Korean culture, etc., etc.

-She should be feeling guilty! Premarital sex is gross.



Have I missed anything? Jeepers. My post should be filed under "You Know You've Been On Dave's Too Long When..."

[Swiss James]

you forgot to interpret GentleSusan's screen name as evidence it's a girl, and therefore ask whether she'd mind video taping their next session.

My advice would be that she obviously wants to do more, she just wants to make it clear that it's your idea cos she's a good girl.

[GentleSusan]

Sorry, no girl here. Just another dumb fella looking for advice. Ya, you're right, I guess she's just trying to assert once again that she's good. So what do I do - just wait for her to next the next move or start praising her virtue and high-mindedness? I am way too old for this but damn that long black hair it does get a hold don't it?

[Swiss James]

well I think you should just let her know that you respect her and you're going out with her because you enjoy her company and think she's beautiful, not just because you want another notch on your bed post.

Tell her there's no pressure, and you will honour the decision she makes- after all it's her body.

Then slip something in her drink.

[ddeubel]

Great replies........everything except the "slip something into her drink" but I think that was in jest (or are you really Swiss like me?).

Yeah she wants more but also wants to think it is you being the bad guy and she just has to go along.......funny, so funny this psychology and how women are fed the whole line by parents that "sex is evil". But it is a good place to start, once you get them going, like catholic girls,they are insatiable...
Actually this is like America in the 50s,a point noted many times in other threads....

DD

PS> Your next move is to praise the beauty of her eyes, hands moving up her thighs....

[IwalkAlone]

Back off, unless you want to continue to shame or cause her guilt. If a night of intimacy has left a bad taste in her mouth, I laugh at the responses from swiss and others that she wants more. How about being her friend, let her make the moves, otherwise you're asking for more guilt on her part, and that just makes you <enter something negative>. Some girls do have high morals (sex and morals and that nonsense is for another post if people wish to argue) so I would recommend a moral adjustment on your part or keep walking untill you find a girl that doesnt care about casual intimacy.

Had experience with this last year (involved intimacy on a different level than sex, however)...the guilt was present..more because her heart wasn't in it.

Love goes alot further than lust (haha and I'm not gay..hold your flames)

[pegpig]

Same as fishing.

This one's obviously too small. Throw her back. (If she comes swimming back you may want to throw her in the bucket just in case.) Meanwhile, many fishes out there. Keep throwing out your pole until you find a more suitable one. If the biting's not that great, try changing the bait or try a different hole ( er....different bar, part of town, etc.).

Good fishing!

[BigBlackEquus]

She is looking for assurance that you care. If you really, really care for her, then buy her some flowers, call her twice a day, and try hard. You'll soon be gettin' busy again. Otherwise, let her go.

[cruisemonkey]

If you can say "boom, boom", move to Thailand.

[Satori]

I dissagree with everyone so far. It's not a big deal, just normal. Don't mention it to her. Don't change "tactics" and try to "woo" her. Just ask her out again, and continue as if everything is normal, cause it is. It's likely there will be further nookie, and more, in the future. She is just warming up to the idea that she likes you, and getting over the fact that you're a foreinger. If if doesn't happen again, well, you havenn't lost anything.

[antoniothegreat]

maybe just ask her. i had a problem with a korean girl. we would hang out and i was sure she liked me. we went to my place, watched a movie, and when i tried to kiss her she refused. she said we can only kiss if we are in love and "she would be lost" if we kiss. (had to get a translation on that one) the next time we met, i told her kissing is different in the USA and usually if a girl refuses that basically kills the relationship. (not as a threat, but to just tell her i was confused). I asked her why she refused and what she wanted. eventually the truth came out and she is very happy with everything.
i know this isnt the same situation, but asking for honesty and giving some honesty really went far. tell her you like her but dont want to force her to do anything and ask her what she wants. learn when you are going at it, what her response is when she is just a little shy versus wanting to really stop.

[Junior]

A Giraffe and a tortoise find it easier to get it on than a Westerner and a Korean, they even communicate better The right hand doesn't know what the left leg is doing!!

You may have to discuss it in detail and explain your moves and how you interpret hers (thereby possibly killing the romance and mystery), but it'll be better than the morse code you're playing at now

[Satori]

Explainging and clarifying is NOT sexy! Let it happen! Naturally!!!

[pegpig]