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Alpha-Epsilon
Joined: 24 Nov 2005
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 Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2006 4:10 pm Post subject: How Does it Feel? |
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Guy at work, fat, sensitive, says to me, "I'd take them to amusement parks, offer to buy them lunch. Sometimes they'd want to go to the beach, and I'd take them. . .But eventually, I felt they were just using me. . .I only hear from one."
He's talking about a Chinese restaurant he visits and eats at, thereby befriending the Chinese immigrants there, at least if not anything but to treat them nicely. Apparently he helps them out now and then, lets them practice their English, gets them to see some sights back here in the West.
But he feels he gets nothing in return, though he doesn't expect it. Eventually, after being restaurant workers, they find something better, and move on. Just one has kept in touch.
So my question is, how does it feel to be used, to actually think you're wanted, popular, someone special, that guy/girl in tow and all? |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 12:24 am Post subject: |
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C'mon guys, it wouldn't kill you to answer the OP's questions.
Buncha whiners you're all becoming.  |
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igotthisguitar
Joined: 08 Apr 2003
Location: South Korea (Permanent Vacation)
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 2:27 am Post subject: |
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| Bulsajo wrote: |
| I prefer the old, incomprehensible Alpha-Epsilon. |
re: AE's point about ESL people "using" native speakers for their language skills, it makes me think of the old adage: ""Why buy the COW when you can get the MILK 4 FREE?" |
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Imbroglio
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
Location: Behind the wheel of a large automobile
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:10 am Post subject: |
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*Johnny Cash voice*
God said to Abraham, "Kill me a son"
Abe said, "man you must be puttin me on"
God say "No"
Abe say "What?"
God say "You can do what you like Abe, but next time you see me comin, you better run"
Abe say "Where you wantin this killin done?"
God say "Out on Highway 61" |
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stat
Joined: 22 Apr 2005
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:37 am Post subject: |
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I wish people would start posting meaningful thread titles. I mean, is there any information given by the OP in the title? So often you see a page of threads, all with the same cra p uniformative titles: "Questions" "How Does It Feel" "If You Live In Korea..." "Check This Out" etc etc.
How hard is it to think up a five-ten word meaningful summary? Even just adding "to be used" onto the end of the thread title would've done it.
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:46 am Post subject: |
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| stat wrote: |
I wish people would start posting meaningful thread titles. I mean, is there any information given by the OP in the title? So often you see a page of threads, all with the same cra p uniformative titles: "Questions" "How Does It Feel" "If You Live In Korea..." "Check This Out" etc etc.
How hard is it to think up a five-ten word meaningful summary? Even just adding "to be used" onto the end of the thread title would've done it.
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How about, "Hey Newbie, Have I Got News For You!" ?
"Guess What Just Happened to Me!"
"You won't believe this, but..."
"You know what bugs me?"
"Where did I put those?"
"Um..." |
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SuperFly
Joined: 09 Jul 2003
Location: In the doghouse
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 3:54 am Post subject: |
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female announcer, announcing flights at airport, including 'Rome'
"Live for today, gone tomorrow, that's me, HaHaHaaaaaa!"
(Instrumental) |
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Pligganease
Joined: 14 Sep 2004
Location: The deep south...
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 4:09 am Post subject: |
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| What's a "badonkadonk?" |
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skinhead
Joined: 11 Jun 2004
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 4:35 am Post subject: Re: How Does it Feel? |
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| Alpha-Epsilon wrote: |
Guy at work, fat, sensitive, says to me, "I'd take them to amusement parks, offer to buy them lunch. Sometimes they'd want to go to the beach, and I'd take them. . .But eventually, I felt they were just using me. . .I only hear from one."
He's talking about a Chinese restaurant he visits and eats at, thereby befriending the Chinese immigrants there, at least if not anything but to treat them nicely. Apparently he helps them out now and then, lets them practice their English, gets them to see some sights back here in the West.
But he feels he gets nothing in return, though he doesn't expect it. Eventually, after being restaurant workers, they find something better, and move on. Just one has kept in touch.
So my question is, how does it feel to be used, to actually think you're wanted, popular, someone special, that guy/girl in tow and all? |
Hey, it's crazy, but I just know what he's going through. It feels awful. I had some 'friends' like these. They wanted me - for a year and a part of a year - finally someone actually seemed to really appreciate the real me and we had so much funny. Truly, I felt priveleged to help them with their shopping, and paying their parking tickets for them, and explaining all that stuff to the cops for them. I felt so valued for a year, then they flew away, and the loneliness birds settled back into the nest of my heart, once again. Some time later, I decided to travel to their country and rekindle the old flame of friendship, as I had no friends at home. When I arrived, I tried and tried for weeks and weeks to get them, get anyone, to meet with me, but they were so busy. And there I was, in a country I didn't understand pursuing friendship with a group of people I thought were genuine friends but who, in fact, wanted nothing more from me as they had returned to their former first-language-exclusive lives and who, in other point of fact, laughed at my trouble with their colleagues on Monday mornings in scorn at my situation. Epson, I'm glad somebody else understands the pain. Thanks for sharing. Do you like ice-cream? Let's be friends. Let me know what your favourite kind is, and I'll let you know mine too.
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Bulsajo
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 12:22 pm Post subject: |
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| igotthisguitar wrote: |
| Bulsajo wrote: |
| I prefer the old, incomprehensible Alpha-Epsilon. |
re: AE's point about ESL people "using" native speakers for their language skills, it makes me think of the old adage: ""Why buy the COW when you can get the MILK 4 FREE?" |
That post has been removed by the moderators....
apparently the word 'incomprehensible' is verboten...
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Maserial
Joined: 31 Jul 2005
Location: The Web
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 12:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Bulsajo wrote: |
| igotthisguitar wrote: |
| Bulsajo wrote: |
| I prefer the old, incomprehensible Alpha-Epsilon. |
re: AE's point about ESL people "using" native speakers for their language skills, it makes me think of the old adage: ""Why buy the COW when you can get the MILK 4 FREE?" |
That post has been removed by the moderators....
apparently the word 'incomprehensible' is verboten...
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Odd indeed, considering that the gratuitous profanity contained within this thread has not yet been censored. |
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Bulsajo
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 2:52 pm Post subject: |
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I recieved an answer, it was an honest mistake.
Some Usual Suspects keeping the mods busy.
Must be a Friday night in Korea, eh? |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Bulsajo wrote: |
| igotthisguitar wrote: |
| Bulsajo wrote: |
| I prefer the old, incomprehensible Alpha-Epsilon. |
re: AE's point about ESL people "using" native speakers for their language skills, it makes me think of the old adage: ""Why buy the COW when you can get the MILK 4 FREE?" |
That post has been removed by the moderators....
apparently the word 'incomprehensible' is verboten...
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Not only yours but the ones by Swiss James and others -- everything that came between the OP and mine -- were all yanked. This makes my post pointless and weird, like I'm talking to ghosts. Which of course, I do at times, but not on Dave's. |
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indytrucks
Joined: 09 Apr 2003
Location: The Shelf
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 7:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Bulsajo wrote: |
That post has been removed by the moderators....
apparently the word 'incomprehensible' is verboten...
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A lot of that going around lately. The key word is "confrontational". |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Fri Feb 10, 2006 7:48 pm Post subject: |
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| indytrucks wrote: |
| Bulsajo wrote: |
That post has been removed by the moderators....
apparently the word 'incomprehensible' is verboten...
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A lot of that going around lately. The key word is "confrontational". |
 Say good-bye to 60~70% of the posts on Dave's in that case. |
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