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kiwiman · Joined: 02 Dec 2005

am wondering as to how many of you out there left a girlfriend/boyfriend when you came to korea?

I am about to leave my girlfriend who ive known for 10 years, been together off and on for 4ish. I keep wondering why i am leaving as she's a little blonde hottie but i have wanted to travel for as long as i can remember, thus fear i may blame her for not going? But, its super hard as i know of 3 guys already waiting to pounce on her once i leave!!!

was anyone else in the same situation? how did you handle it?

cheesy i know, but...

crazykiwi · Joined: 07 Jun 2003 Location: new zealand via daejeon

give her a sexual disease before you go. (one that can be cured eventually) and then send some emails around. she'll be a keeper till you get back.

snowy32 · Joined: 03 Dec 2005 Location: NZ

Hey Kiwiman,
Leaving s/o's behind sucks big time but long distance sucks even harder!! So she's not tempted to go over with you? does she have a degree? maybe you could try and convince her to come over too.

seoulsucker · Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 6:25 pm Post subject:

kermo · Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 8:10 pm Post subject:

Three words guys: Ell Oh Ell.
Thank you for that.

crazylemongirl · Joined: 23 Mar 2003 Location: almost there...

broke up with my long-term boyfriend because I was coming here. Best decision I've ever made to ditch that guy.

kiwiman · Joined: 02 Dec 2005

She says she is going to come over at the end of the year as she is doing another year (honours).

though 'bringing sand to the beach = bad idea' does make sense. she isn't really that interested in Asia so she'd only be coming to be with me...risky?

she mentioned long distance but screw that, off the market and horny doesn't really appeal to me:-)!

queenbee · Joined: 21 Jan 2006

Left my boyf of 3 years behind when I left kiwiland 4 months ago...
We've stayed talking everyday and he's decided to move here, long distance being too hard (and kinda pointless).
If you guys are meant to be together you'll find out, and hopefully do something to work around it like we did.
Or you could have a sitch like CLG and that could be the best thing too.

cubanlord · Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Location: In Japan!

SOOHWA101 · Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 8:44 pm Post subject:

kiwiman · Joined: 02 Dec 2005

LOL. Me thinks he meant why bring a twelve pack to an open bar.....why bring your own book to a library....why bring ice cream to "31 FLAVORS?"

LOL, i suppose it does sound like that. i am male however...and the whole time im in kland i will be wondering who is hitting on her and so forth. I mean, guys were having a crack even though they new i wasn't leaving for a few weeks yet! Evil or Very Mad

Long distance just doesn't make sense to me.

Anyway no one cares about my story i was just curious how all you guys have handled things and whether you had any regrets etc.

SPINOZA · Joined: 10 Jun 2005 Location: $eoul

I was in love with someone back home and although we dated we didn't get serious. I almost didn't want to leave because I wanted to pursue a relationship with her. But that was the only good thing going on in my life. My life was a complete mess generally and I was glad to leave yet sad at the same time.

It makes me sound superficial, but I'd forgotten about her within 2 or 3 weeks. The dating opportunities are more plentiful here. Frankly, compared to the girls over here she's not that much of a looker. But compared to the typical fare back home she was a stunner. I guess it's relative.

kiwiman · Joined: 02 Dec 2005

spot on!
My mrs is hot as in nz standards, but im a blonde guy and wouldn't class myself as ugly(i hate that word!), athletic etc and never had much of a problem finding a girlfriend here so i assume there will be opportunities in kland aswell???

i differ in that i won't forget her as she is amazing and we will keep in touch etc, but i hope i can move on while i'm over here. i will be in cheongju, i hope there are 'opportunities' there to help the process!?

SirFink · Joined: 05 Mar 2006

itaewonguy · Joined: 25 Mar 2003

bro dont sweat it!
break up with her and come here! fly thai airways! stop over in bangkok for a couple nights and feel the FREEDOM!!
get over here and enjoy your life! you dont need to worry about her anymore! you are leaving her to come here! if she chooses to get another boyfriend thats her choice! you will do the same here with a girl you meet..

if you want her in your life, then dont come now, let her do honors then you come together.. if you are ready to come alone.. then you do it alone!
and dont look back! the whole world is open to you once you board that plane! you could come here and meet the girl of your dreams and get married! or you could just meet a girl date for a while and leave !
what ever you want..GO FOR IT!!
I left KLAND 9 years ago! im 31 now.. its been a hell of a ride..

but if you love this little blonde ripper.. then think again about leaving her for some other guy to have her....