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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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 Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 7:43 pm Post subject: Koreans and 'alone time' |
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Perhaps Ms CLG is just in a bad mood, but I wish I could be left the hell alone at work...
I'm working on a lesson plan I get bugged... Hello, what are you doing?... et al from the kids. Go have lunch from teh teachers...
Then eat my lunch.... oh what are you eating.... why don't you eat at the school cafetria... oh you must be lonely.
I'm never lonely because there is always someone bugging me... argh!! |
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ilovebdt
Joined: 03 Jun 2005
Location: Nr Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 7:46 pm Post subject: |
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| LOL. I am in the exact opposite situation. I barely see a soul unless I am in class. |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 7:52 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm in the main teachers offfice.... ick. |
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ilovebdt
Joined: 03 Jun 2005
Location: Nr Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 8:01 pm Post subject: |
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| crazylemongirl wrote: |
| I'm in the main teachers offfice.... ick. |
Ahh, I see your problem.
Would it be considered rude to put up a "Polite Notice" saying "Please do not disturb me I am >>>> On the phone, doing lesson prep etc?
All nicely decorated etc?
When I worked in an open plan office, people i.e my boss would always come and try and talk to me about stuff when it was blantantly obvious that I was on the phone. I mentioned this to a guy who was running some course or other I was on and that is what he advised me to do.
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HapKi
Joined: 10 Dec 2004
Location: TALL BUILDING-SEOUL
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 9:21 pm Post subject: |
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Don't see this as being a problem solely in Korea.
When ARE you available to see your students outside class? |
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antoniothegreat
Joined: 28 Aug 2005
Location: Yangpyeong
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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why does it seem that koreans just lack empathy? it seems they can never imagine themselves in your shoes. a friend of mine worked at a highschool, he was in the main office, and everyday every teacher would want to come say hi. it never occurred to them that if all of them wants to talk for 20 minutes, that adds up to 10 hours a day. why is it so difficult for them?
For example, today i found out when i went to my classroom and the door was locked, that all my classes were cancelled because of a fieldtrip. of course i should have known this as they made an announcement, in a building i do not work in, in a language i can not speak. |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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| Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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| HapKi wrote: |
Don't see this as being a problem solely in Korea.
When ARE you available to see your students outside class? |
All the time... I'm in the teachers room. |
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Demophobe
Joined: 17 May 2004
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stumptown
Joined: 11 Apr 2005
Location: Paju: Wife beating capital of Korea
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| Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 12:55 am Post subject: |
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| The same goes for me but outside the academic world. My co-workers will ask me what I did over the weekend and if I say "I went to lunch and went to the movies" then they'll inevitably ask me who I went with. When I respond "I went by myself" they always assume I am lonely. They seem to confuse independence with loneliness. They can't understand that sometimes people just want to be alone and think about their issues or work on ideas without interference. These days I just lie and tell them I went with a friend. That's all they need to hear. |
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The Hierophant
Joined: 13 Sep 2005
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| Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 4:04 pm Post subject: |
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| Your workmates and students sound nice and friendly. I hope mine are similar at my next job. |
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Barking Mad Lord Snapcase
Joined: 04 Nov 2003
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| Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 4:22 pm Post subject: |
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| stumptown wrote: |
| The same goes for me but outside the academic world. My co-workers will ask me what I did over the weekend and if I say "I went to lunch and went to the movies" then they'll inevitably ask me who I went with. When I respond "I went by myself" they always assume I am lonely. They seem to confuse independence with loneliness. They can't understand that sometimes people just want to be alone and think about their issues or work on ideas without interference. These days I just lie and tell them I went with a friend. That's all they need to hear. |
Weeks away from returning to Australia, one of my co-workers asked me who I was flying with. She was disappointed to learn that I would be on the plane by myself.
I was returning to the country of my family and friends, where people speak my language, where staring is rare and the "HIIIIIEEEE!!!" chorus is inconceivable even in comedy, and she was worried about me being lonely.
Think about it. |
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VanIslander
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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most of the threads you start to complain remind me of several reasons why i don't wanna work in the public school system
don't you ever question whether it's really the best for you? |
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Yu_Bum_suk
Joined: 25 Dec 2004
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I think that maybe Korea represenets typical human behaviour and modern Western society is a bit unusual in placing value on 'alone time'. Just try buying a single movie ticket if you want to see genuine perplexion.
I also have my desk in a staff room of 25 and am constantly being 'disturbed', but I don't mind since half the time it's a teacher or student wanting to bring me coffee, food, or treats. If you want to start a lot of conversations just place a photo of your friend's baby or your white friend and his Korean wife on your desk. |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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| Posted: Wed Apr 12, 2006 6:01 pm Post subject: |
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| VanIslander wrote: |
most of the threads you start to complain remind me of several reasons why i don't wanna work in the public school system
don't you ever question whether it's really the best for you? |
This isn't a public school thing... had it in the hogwon too.
Here's some fun.. go dine alone somwhere. Same thing happens. |
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Demophobe
Joined: 17 May 2004
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| My, my....you have been here how long now and still complain about these trivial little things? Tragic. Seems your "bad day" is extending itself. |
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