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Certainly this is not an isolated case. I have heard of others, in fact 2 off her friends met and married their partners within a matter of months. We know that Korean women have this supposed "cut off date" @ 30 (although you will hear a number of the Y generation consider this as old school and no longer a pressure?). I will believe it when I see it.

In my case we were together for 5 years and sort of put things off for a number of them...the western attitude is there is plenty of time, your married for life-that's a long time and not to rush into these things, right. Others have mentioned that most probably I procrastinated too long and she got sick of waiting? That may be the case, and even on our last time together she spent in my home country we were almost, almost at agreement that the time was now and that the NEXT time we were together would be the right time...( although there was still no agreement on details which country to live and work in etc etc.)
As many of you probably recognise throughout the 5 years is was me vrs family, friends, workmates, Career and Korea

After around 2 months she had decided it was over...to much difficulty and the like to marry a foreigner bla bla. This I had to accept and have dealt with over time. Probably never wanted it anyhow.

What I cannot understand and what makes me have little respect is soon after that I found out she had met a Korean and told him all about "our story". This pissed me right off and still does. Soon after they were married!. How can someone give their lives, freedoms etc too an almost stranger?
Now what make me laugh or sad as the case may be, is at the time he was "understanding" of her situation and accepted her past. However just recently I received an email from her telling me " that god must be punishing her" for breaking my heart etc because her "great big understanding man" has now gone dark on her western BF past and is
making her life unhappy.

A cry for help that unfortunately can only fall on deaf ears. Is she trying to tell me she regrets her decision and made a mistake?
An Ex college of mine explained its a kind of "anyone remotely responsible will do" attitude. How can people be so cold, skin deep and foolish?

[billybrobby]

god is punishing your exgirlfriends and you're complaining? if i had such luck!

ps-i'm wondering, what sacrifices do you make to your god? I've been using slaughtered lambs for months now and my exgirlfriend is STILL perfectly healthy.

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Many, many westerners marry "people they don't really know" also. Thats what happens when people marry young, before they are reach a reasonable level of maturity. Or, get too old - the dirty thirties - and marry the first person who smiles at them. Or marry whoever knocks them up.

In fact, I would guess that lotsa people don't really know themselves until they marry, as marriage seems to change one quite a bit.

Love? Now you're getting silly.

[uber1024]

Two things:

1) to the OP ... sounds like you were just a longtime fling. You were used for sex and fun. Congrats or condolences, depending on your point of view.
2) Women that don't feel the need to get married by 30 seem to leave the country at some point. My girlfriend (over 30) and her 4 roommates (all over 30) are here in New York City dating whomever they want, doing whatever they want, and having a great time. Most of my female friends from when I was in Korea are over 30 and unmarried, and most of them left the country (some came back). Take from that what you will. Of the Korean women that I've dated (not that I'm going to pretend to be uber-stud here), I've connected better and had more fun with the ones who were NOT in Korea.

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[ontheway]

I've seen this too. Several of my male, Korean friends, hitting their early 30's, have gotten desperate. They set up a series of introduction meetings. They seem to get married within a few months of a suitable introduction.

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