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[alistaircandlin]

Do you usually walk your girlfriend home at night? My girlfriend and I have been together nearly two years. I've always tried to walk her home (she lives with parents) if I have time to catch the last train. The thing is now she expects me to walk her home, and gets pissed if I don't. Anyone had a similar experience?

[cazador83]

it's the nice thing to do. it makes them feel safe that they're not walking home alone.

[uberscheisse]

with the repercussions against dudes who mess with girls here being at a minimum...

walk her home. does it make you bleed profusely from the anus? no? then do it. gentlemanly behaviour will 1. earn you brownie points 2. keep your girlfriend safe.

[flotsam]

[seoulshock]

#1) Do it if you want to do it, and you feel it's worth missing the train and paying cab fare.

#2) Do it if you want to do it, and your girlfriend offers to pay for your cab fare. After you drop her off, make sure you get the cash.

#3) Ask her why she gets pissed, and if she has a valid reason for being pissed (which I'm 99% sure she doesn't), then you can think about doing it.

#4) If she doesn't have a valid reason (and its something like, "well, you should because... you're my boyfriend!"), then tell her you won't do it and that she has to deal with it.

#5) If you follow #4 and she doesn't wanna deal with it, you can tell her to find another man. She probably won't.

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I think she's testing you, whether she's conscious of it or not. She's seeing if she can get you to do what you don't want to do, and that can lead the way for her to have even more control over you... bigger things like... controlling who your friends are, where you work, how you dress, etc.

Don't let her start here or it'll just get worse. I see it all the time. These poor saps fall in love and then get married, and in most cases... within a few years the woman has absolute power. Wait a few more years and while physically he's alive, his soul is gone.

Of course, I was being a bit extreme, but it does happen.... and it all starts with, "I want you to take me home ALL the time, even if it's so late that you'll miss a train home and you'll have to pay the cab fare out of your OWN pocket because I'm a selfish biyatch and only think of myself and I like to test you to see what else I can get away with in the future! Hmph! Now walk me home you gae-saeki!"

[anae]

All of my Korean dates escorted me to my door. I think it is pretty standard procedure in Korea.

[TheUrbanMyth]

[kermo]

I imagine her concerns are twofold:

a)if it wasn't safe for me before, why is it safe now?

b)does he care about me less? is he taking me for granted?

[eamo]

If your girlfriend is Korean she will value you more if you are strong and make decisions. Korean girls will act pissy often. They usually are not really angry. Just putting on a show. It's supposed to be cute or something.

I'm generalising but you will be surprised how many Korean girls see their relationships with men in the same way.

[Natalia]

[Mashimaro]

[jinju]

I look at it like this. If you are a man, you walk your woman home. If you are not, you let her walk home alone and subject her to possible assualts and rape. Its that simple. All you need to do is decide if you are a man or not.

[canuckistan]

[flotsam]

Is it me, or has the age of gallantry left the building?

Should I pay for my dates? thread; Should I walk my girlfriend home? thread. With the implied or stated reason being to save money by taking public transportation.

WTF?

1. Is it that bad?
2. Is it that expensive?
3. Is it not worth it to please your girl, keep her safe or just do something nice?
4. Are you that worried about your autonomy?
5. Are you truly this clueless on such an absolute non-issue?

In conclusion: W in T motherluvin' F???

[jinju]