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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
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 Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2007 5:10 pm Post subject: Are you getting enough sex now that you're married? |
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No sex please, we're married
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Esther Perel wants married couples to have more sex: she says long-term relationships signal the death of intimacy, and she's on a mission to inject some heat into monogamy. For six hectic weeks Anna Johnson - married with a baby - tries to follow her advice
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One can gauge the heat of an issue by the level of discomfort it generates at a dinner party. Asking if there is sex after marriage is about as bad as asking if there is life after death. I broached the question of conjugal passion after reading Mating in Captivity, the unnerving book written by the Belgian New Yorker Esther Perel, and published here this month.
I may as well have thrown a grenade on the table: "Sex!" an older gentleman almost vomited the word. "I mean sexy sex is the stuff of affairs, NOT marriage." His wife, bejewelled, beautifully dressed, intelligent, sat opposite him, unblinking. "Frilly black knickers!" he bellowed, "They're just not going to cut it after you've been ringside for the C-section."
My husband shifted in his chair. Married for just four years and now host to a 17-month-old baby, we felt the chill wind of marital mortality gust through the room. Was this our future?
"Adultery!" the veteran cynic exploded. "That's your only chance at erotic bliss, preferably in the rain, in the back seat of a car." His voice trailed off like an ambulance siren while we held hands under the table. Horrified.
The spectre of infidelity haunts most couples like the hairline crack in the Golden Bowl. The mistress system is what made middle-class marriage (possibly all marriage) work for centuries across different cultures. Work for men, that is. But, not wanting to live in a Fellini movie where some strumpet gets to wear all the high heels, I turned my mind to the 21st-century alternative: sex inside marriage, or what Americans call "hot monogamy".
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Big_Bird
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EFLtrainer
Joined: 04 May 2005
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| Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 10:53 pm Post subject: |
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I think you need to vector this question with length of relationship and lenth of marriage.
BTW, read recently more sex = longer life. Screw for health or you can screw your health!
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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| Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 12:07 am Post subject: |
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| EFLtrainer wrote: |
I think you need to vector this question with length of relationship and lenth of marriage.
BTW, read recently more sex = longer life. Screw for health or you can screw your health!
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mhhhh that is not entirely correct
more safe sex means longer life  |
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EFLtrainer
Joined: 04 May 2005
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| Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 1:12 am Post subject: |
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| Juregen wrote: |
| EFLtrainer wrote: |
I think you need to vector this question with length of relationship and lenth of marriage.
BTW, read recently more sex = longer life. Screw for health or you can screw your health!
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mhhhh that is not entirely correct
more safe sex means longer life |
Fine: Screw healthily for health or you can screw your health!
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Big_Bird
Joined: 31 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 6:38 pm Post subject: |
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| EFLtrainer wrote: |
I think you need to vector this question with length of relationship and lenth of marriage.
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and the number of kids and their ages... |
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