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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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 Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:31 am Post subject: What kind of behavior is this for a Korean woman? |
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I asked this young lady at a restaurant I frequent if she was interested in studying English as I wanted to learn Korean with someone. In all honesty, I was somewhat asking her out, but I do want a Korean tutor, so I have no idea how she read me on that.
I don't know her well, but she got really enthusiastic and has emailed me everyday ever since then. We went out last night for galbi and soju (which she insisted on paying for). She was kind of touchy feely on the way there. Then after she suggested a DVD bong, so went and then she was snuggling up to me like we were together or something (holding my hand, caressing me what not). The first time I kissed her she acted sur-prised, then was receptive when I tried it a little later, and we held hands on the way back to get her a cab. (Which I tried to pay for being she also insisted on contributing towards the movie, but she said next time).
I'm not head over heels for this girl or anything so give it to me straight. Obviously you'd probably have to be in the situation, but is this behavior of an English leech, and do Korean women behave with male friends in this touchy feely manner?
I'm sure I will find out eventually, but I also have a date with a foreign woman this weekend, and kingplaya is rarely this popular and not used to dating two women at once, so if someone could shed light on this might make my decision easier. Of course, they probably both want to be "friends" with my luck, but just in case lol. |
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Roch
Joined: 24 Apr 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:45 am Post subject: Re: What kind of behavior is this for a Korean woman? |
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| kingplaya4 wrote: |
I asked this young lady at a restaurant I frequent if she was interested in studying English as I wanted to learn Korean with someone. In all honesty, I was somewhat asking her out, but I do want a Korean tutor, so I have no idea how she read me on that.
I don't know her well, but she got really enthusiastic and has emailed me everyday ever since then. We went out last night for galbi and soju (which she insisted on paying for). She was kind of touchy feely on the way there. Then after she suggested a DVD bong, so went and then she was snuggling up to me like we were together or something (holding my hand, caressing me what not). The first time I kissed her she acted sur-prised, then was receptive when I tried it a little later, and we held hands on the way back to get her a cab. (Which I tried to pay for being she also insisted on contributing towards the movie, but she said next time).
I'm not head over heels for this girl or anything so give it to me straight. Obviously you'd probably have to be in the situation, but is this behavior of an English leech, and do Korean women behave with male friends in this touchy feely manner?
I'm sure I will find out eventually, but I also have a date with a foreign woman this weekend, and kingplaya is rarely this popular and not used to dating two women at once, so if someone could shed light on this might make my decision easier. Of course, they probably both want to be "friends" with my luck, but just in case lol. |
My Brother:
Roch thinks that you should dump the local in favour of the Other.
Otherwise, be cool, my Bro.' |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:49 am Post subject: |
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My Brother:
Roch thinks that you should dump the local in favour of the Other.
Otherwise, be cool, my Bro.' |
Well we aren't an item, so I can't dump her, but I'll take that as one vote against the Korean. Any particular reason why? |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:49 am Post subject: |
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| I don't get it. You got what you wanted. Why get gun-shy now? |
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Sine qua non
Joined: 18 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 8:52 am Post subject: Re: What kind of behavior is this for a Korean woman? |
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| kingplaya4 wrote: |
| ...kingplaya is rarely this popular and not used to dating two women at once.... |
So you probably ought to change the deceptive misnomer.
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| I'm sure I will find out eventually.... |
Then what's the rush? Are you afraid the wacky neighbors to the north are going to turn your town into a sea of fire before you find out?
Fu'gittaboutit. Uh? |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 9:09 am Post subject: |
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As I've mentioned a few times before, the name has nothing to do with my love life. It goes back to when I was playing online poker for a living.
There's no rush, I just thought the more experienced posters might be more familiar with Korean girl behavior than I am. |
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kingplaya4
Joined: 14 May 2006
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 9:11 am Post subject: |
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| The other point is that if she is really interested, and is willing to pay for dates, that's a huge plus in my book. I got really soaked in my first experience here. |
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mithridates
Joined: 03 Mar 2003
Location: President's office, Korean Space Agency
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 9:41 am Post subject: Re: What kind of behavior is this for a Korean woman? |
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| kingplaya4 wrote: |
I asked this young lady at a restaurant I frequent if she was interested in studying English as I wanted to learn Korean with someone. In all honesty, I was somewhat asking her out, but I do want a Korean tutor, so I have no idea how she read me on that.
I don't know her well, but she got really enthusiastic and has emailed me everyday ever since then. We went out last night for galbi and soju (which she insisted on paying for). She was kind of touchy feely on the way there. Then after she suggested a DVD bong, so went and then she was snuggling up to me like we were together or something (holding my hand, caressing me what not). The first time I kissed her she acted sur-prised, then was receptive when I tried it a little later, and we held hands on the way back to get her a cab. (Which I tried to pay for being she also insisted on contributing towards the movie, but she said next time).
I'm not head over heels for this girl or anything so give it to me straight. Obviously you'd probably have to be in the situation, but is this behavior of an English leech, and do Korean women behave with male friends in this touchy feely manner?
I'm sure I will find out eventually, but I also have a date with a foreign woman this weekend, and kingplaya is rarely this popular and not used to dating two women at once, so if someone could shed light on this might make my decision easier. Of course, they probably both want to be "friends" with my luck, but just in case lol. |
I assume that the girl will keep on acting in this way (in a good way) and eventually you'll find yourself liking her even more and more. Enthusiasm, the willingness to suggest something to do and wanting to pay for her share all make the shouldbedatingness go way way up. There's a kind of girl that is really amazingly attractive at first but gets more and more tiresome as time goes on, and there's another type that is only somewhat attractive at first but gets way better day by day as the two of you get to know each other - she sounds like the second. I remember two girls in which the first date went like that. The first one was really nice and then snapped after about ten days, the other one didn't. Hopefully the one you saw in this case too is more like the latter.
The acting surprised at the first kiss but then going along with it is usually a good thing here too - that's her way of trying to show you that she likes you but isn't a really easy woman. |
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chachee99
Joined: 20 Oct 2004
Location: Seoul Korea
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 9:59 am Post subject: |
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From my experience, every Korean girl i went out with that paid for everything was basically looking for free English lessons. I was seeing this Korean girl and experienced the same bullsh!t as you. Holding hands, rubbing at the DVD bang as you, and like you she got startled when kissed her. Geeze, what did she expect to happen? Me order in a pizza? (She'd be paying of course).
After that I got rid of her. I don't like dealing with that type of garbage. I simply don't have the patience for it. Plus, I consider it to be a slap in the face. |
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chevro1et
Joined: 01 Feb 2007
Location: Busan, ROK
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 10:16 am Post subject: |
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| Relax. Dont get too uptight about the whole deal. Just take the situation for what it is worth, and enjoy the ride. |
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crsandus
Joined: 05 Oct 2004
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 11:07 am Post subject: Re: What kind of behavior is this for a Korean woman? |
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| kingplaya4 wrote: |
| I asked this young lady at a restaurant I frequent if she was interested in studying English as I wanted to learn Korean with someone. In all honesty, I was somewhat asking her out, but I do want a Korean tutor, so I have no idea how she read me on that. |
Is it really that easy to get a date in Korea??? Jeezus! I've been wasting my time in the states when I can get girls by asking them if they want to listen to me talk?  |
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Qinella
Joined: 25 Feb 2005
Location: the crib
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 11:54 am Post subject: |
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| man this OP has all the makings of a good reel.. |
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reconhottie
Joined: 03 Jan 2007
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 11:58 am Post subject: |
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You do know that if you date her 3 times, you have to marry her, right?  |
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Sincinnatislink
Joined: 30 Jan 2007
Location: Top secret.
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 12:59 pm Post subject: |
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| You do know that if you date her 3 times, you have to marry her, right? |
There should be a joke about the US third date rule here, but I am too lazy to think of one. |
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wylies99
Joined: 13 May 2006
Location: I'm one cool cat!
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| Posted: Thu Feb 22, 2007 1:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Relax. Dont get too uptight about the whole deal. Just take the situation for what it is worth, and enjoy the ride. |
Exactly. You kissed a girl. WOW.
BE A MAN. Next time, go further.  |
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