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ed
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:06 am Post subject: |
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| Snob. |
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butlerian
Joined: 04 Sep 2006
Location: Korea
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:12 am Post subject: Re: he's lonely |
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| ed wrote: |
my school hired an Australian man last week and from the moment he arrived he has been repeating how he is lonely and he doesn't care about making money and he likes our school and working with us but the loneliness is bothering him and nothing else matters but making friends and a girlfriend.
my wife and I are very busy and, even if we had time, he is not someone we would hang out with.
he arrived at our school last week here in Wonju and he keeps asking me to hang out with him and introduce him to people but I am not a people person and have no friends.
does anyone in Wonju want to meet a 30 year old Australian guy? |
Not a people person? You're a teacher! |
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chachee99
Joined: 20 Oct 2004
Location: Seoul Korea
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:31 am Post subject: |
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Cut the guy some slack. He just wants to meet people so he can get familiar with the area. What's really sick is he offers his hand in friendship and basically spit on it. This is why you don't have any friends. Unlike you, some people don't like living in a hole. I don't think the Australian is the lonely one, you are.
You should be embarassed posting this message. It does more harm than good because you're basically embarassing your Australian co-worker. Trust he doesn't check this board and discover your post otherwise his hand of friendship might slap you upside the head for being retarded!
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yesman
Joined: 15 Sep 2006
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:42 am Post subject: |
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Hahahaha!
Wow, smacked on the head, ed.
I do wonder how social thumb-suckers like you come over here to teach.
What a funny post. |
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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 6:01 am Post subject: Re: he's lonely |
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| ed wrote: |
my school hired an Australian man last week and from the moment he arrived he has been repeating how he is lonely and he doesn't care about making money and he likes our school and working with us but the loneliness is bothering him and nothing else matters but making friends and a girlfriend.
my wife and I are very busy and, even if we had time, he is not someone we would hang out with.
he arrived at our school last week here in Wonju and he keeps asking me to hang out with him and introduce him to people but I am not a people person and have no friends.
does anyone in Wonju want to meet a 30 year old Australian guy? |
I think it is expats here who often tend to have more or less the attitude of the OP that contribute to making Korea such a fun country to live in. Kudos! |
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mnhnhyouh
Joined: 21 Nov 2006
Location: The Middle Kingdom
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 6:11 am Post subject: |
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I have no problem with the OP making life on his own terms, or not finding the individual under discussion someone he would like to spend time with.
I admire the sentiment that motivated the post in the first place.
However, it would seem that there is a chance that the person under discussion will find this place, and this thread..... it would be hard not to recognise yourself from this description. There are not that many 30 year old Australians here....
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the eye
Joined: 29 Jan 2004
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 8:50 am Post subject: |
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Aw, yingwenlaoshi and the other grannies in a rag session.
Hey girls, why is it anyone's responsibilty to take care of another grown adult who comes here whining?
The OP has a wife and no social life to share. Now he has to be a matchmaker / friendfinder for someone who lacks the forethought to choose a populated place to live, or the motivation to make life better for himself?
The message could have been worded better, but the intention to help was there.
Yeah, you are all fantastic. Go hold the guy's hand for a while and pin a medal on yourselves.
medal of honor goes to....
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What's really sick is he offers his hand in friendship and basically spit on it. This is why you don't have any friends. Unlike you, some people don't like living in a hole. I don't think the Australian is the lonely one, you are.
You should be embarassed posting this message. It does more harm than good because you're basically embarassing your Australian co-worker. Trust he doesn't check this board and discover your post otherwise his hand of friendship might slap you upside the head for being retarded! |
Hypocrite. Get reaquainted with yourself...
http://www.eslcafe.com/forums/korea/viewtopic.php?t=7190&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=30
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| Does anyone know of a counselor in Seoul who does not charge much money to help with depression? |
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I think you need to lighten up.
Some people don't have any friends. |
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yingwenlaoshi
Joined: 12 Feb 2007
Location: ... location, location!
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 10:43 am Post subject: |
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Meanie.
Hey, I don't want to meet him either. I wouldn't post that here though. Whatever that does for anything. Kind of weird when you think about it. |
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SuperFly
Joined: 09 Jul 2003
Location: In the doghouse
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chachee99
Joined: 20 Oct 2004
Location: Seoul Korea
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 5:25 pm Post subject: |
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| the eye wrote: |
Aw, yingwenlaoshi and the other grannies in a rag session.
Hey girls, why is it anyone's responsibilty to take care of another grown adult who comes here whining?
The OP has a wife and no social life to share. Now he has to be a matchmaker / friendfinder for someone who lacks the forethought to choose a populated place to live, or the motivation to make life better for himself?
The message could have been worded better, but the intention to help was there.
Yeah, you are all fantastic. Go hold the guy's hand for a while and pin a medal on yourselves.
medal of honor goes to....
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What's really sick is he offers his hand in friendship and basically spit on it. This is why you don't have any friends. Unlike you, some people don't like living in a hole. I don't think the Australian is the lonely one, you are.
You should be embarassed posting this message. It does more harm than good because you're basically embarassing your Australian co-worker. Trust he doesn't check this board and discover your post otherwise his hand of friendship might slap you upside the head for being retarded! |
Hypocrite. Get reaquainted with yourself...
http://www.eslcafe.com/forums/korea/viewtopic.php?t=7190&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=30
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| Does anyone know of a counselor in Seoul who does not charge much money to help with depression? |
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I think you need to lighten up.
Some people don't have any friends. |
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Thank you for the refresher eye. |
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Bukowski
Joined: 29 Nov 2006
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 7:02 pm Post subject: Tough one... |
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I totally understand the OP. It doesn't sound good, as those aren't the kind of things that a "stable" person would say. Tread lightly and suggest a church group for him to attend (they will keep his time more than occupied when he is not teaching).
If he isn't the church going type, perhaps your local casino can keep him occupied (being as he doesn't care about money, it shouldn't present a problem if he were to lose it all).
Nasty as they are, even a Tabang might be his speed (I have never been, but I know certain foreigners that like the idea of paying for companionship).
Good luck,
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jlb
Joined: 18 Sep 2003
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 8:16 pm Post subject: |
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Teachers here should be able to fend for themselves and make friends so the OP isn't responsible for someone else's social life (esp. having a wife who I assume is Korean).
That said, most people would hang out at least a little bit with the newbie, take them out for dinner, show them where the grocery store is, where the good bar is, etc. Introduce them to a few people at least. Even if you don't plan on being friends with the person a bit of kindness wouldn't hurt.
Everyone was new once and I'm sure appreciates the person who went out of their way to do a few nice things for them and help them out a bit. |
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TheUrbanMyth
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
Location: Retired
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| Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2007 8:26 pm Post subject: |
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| jlb wrote: |
Teachers here should be able to fend for themselves and make friends so the OP isn't responsible for someone else's social life (esp. having a wife who I assume is Korean).
That said, most people would hang out at least a little bit with the newbie, take them out for dinner, show them where the grocery store is, where the good bar is, etc. Introduce them to a few people at least. Even if you don't plan on being friends with the person a bit of kindness wouldn't hurt.
Everyone was new once and I'm sure appreciates the person who went out of their way to do a few nice things for them and help them out a bit. |
Yes, everyone was new once...but many people went and found out the lay of the land for themselves and then made friends by themselves. If newbies ask for help, I'd give it, but it's not my job to hold their hand. Besides which some newbies tend to go "Oh don't tell me anything, I want to approach Korea with no pre-conceived ideas.." which makes it funnier to see them on these forums about six months or so later with some of the worst misconceptions on working here. |
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jinju
Joined: 22 Jan 2006
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| Op, you are not responsible for this GROWN MAN. Your responsibility is to your WIFE. This guy needs to stop whining and get a social life on his own. I probably wouldnt hang out with such a person either |
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