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dridgway



Joined: 18 Sep 2006
Location: Suwon, S. Korea

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 6:22 pm    Post subject: Handshakes Reply with quote

I'd have to say one of the most awkward and hilarious things I've encountered in Korea is shaking someone's hand.
When I'm thinking I try to avoid it but old habits die hard and sometimes I put the hand out when introducing myself to someone. I find that I either get the ol' dead hand, they try to morph it into holding hands, or in the best case an overly enthusiastic and looong handshake. Once I had a handshake last for an entire conversation and multiple times the other person has gone for the handshake 2,3, even 4 times in a conversation or greeting.
I understand that shaking hands isn't as common here...but foreigners seem to be able to figure out bowing easily enough. No? Is it really that difficult?
Any thoughts on this one/funny stories?
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kat2



Joined: 25 Oct 2005
Location: Busan, South Korea

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 7:48 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I usually try to teach all of my classes how to shake. Strong arm, firm grip. 3 times. Let go. They kind of get it.
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bangnangja



Joined: 13 Mar 2007

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 7:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

When I live there I used to get these real creepy handshakes where they scratch the inside of your palm with their index finger.
I used to ask my Korean friends what it meant but never could get a straight answer.

So; what the hell was that all about then? Confused
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seoulsucker



Joined: 05 Mar 2006
Location: The Land of the Hesitant Cutoff

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 9:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

bangnangja wrote:
When I live there I used to get these real creepy handshakes where they scratch the inside of your palm with their index finger.
I used to ask my Korean friends what it meant but never could get a straight answer.

So; what the hell was that all about then? Confused


I'm pretty sure that's a secret handshake used by gay men in certain places. Dead serious, dude.
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billybrobby



Joined: 09 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 9:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've shaken hands here a good bit and I never found it so odd. They tend to use two hands, the way they pour drinks. And they don't subscribe to that "strong grip = big strong man" stuff, but I've always found that ridiculous anyways. I dunno, I never had much problem.

On the other hand, at my company I had to take a class on bowing during business etiquette day. It was more complicated than I thought.
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bangnangja



Joined: 13 Mar 2007

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 9:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

seoulsucker wrote:
bangnangja wrote:
When I live there I used to get these real creepy handshakes where they scratch the inside of your palm with their index finger.
I used to ask my Korean friends what it meant but never could get a straight answer.

So; what the hell was that all about then? Confused


I'm pretty sure that's a secret handshake used by gay men in certain places. Dead serious, dude.


That's what I asked some Korean friends a few times and they assured me it didn't mean that and then quickly changed the subject. One excuse I remember is that it was a secret sign for asking if you wanted a hooker.
I tend to believe your expalnation as the ones who did it sure were creepy.
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pkang0202



Joined: 09 Mar 2007

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 10:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

From what I've learned in my business school classes is that you watch your counterpart. If they extend a hand like they want to shake then go ahead. If their arms are just sitting dead by their sides then just bow.

As for me, I just judge the situation. If its a casual meeting then I'll bow. But if it in a business setting where I'm trying to build a relationship of trust, I'll shake hands.

In Korea, I do away with the firm handshake with direct eye contact. I just do a regular handshake, not too weak and not too firm. Also, while I am shaking their hand I'll do a quick nod of my head like a semi-bow.
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kimchi_pizza



Joined: 24 Jul 2006
Location: "Get back on the bus! Here it comes!"

PostPosted: Tue Mar 13, 2007 10:17 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

kat2 wrote:
I usually try to teach all of my classes how to shake. Strong arm, firm grip. 3 times. Let go. They kind of get it.


Me, too. It's one of the first things taught to my adult students. As well as the slight difference between shaking a man's and woman's hand. I can't stand men shaking hands by barely grasping the fingers! It's....it's....well, I'm not gonna say(gay)it...but you know!

Oh, yea. I teach, but don't really discourage, not to bow or use the left arm to the right elbow tradition. It's just to get'em familiar with the western style.
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