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philipjames · Joined: 03 Feb 2003

Over the past year I've noticed more Western women with Korean fellas. I think this is a very positive development. (Hopefully it'll take some of the hostility off Western guys dating Korean girls.

But I have a question. How long do you wait before informing your K-dude
that his table manners, snorting, horking, hacking, spitting, snot rockets, chain smoking and the pink shirts are making you, well, nauseous? Surely no matter how nice (or even handsome) a fella is, it's hard to be enamoured by him if he's constantly coughing up his left lung and snorting. Or are Western girls here only attracted to Korean guys who've lived abroad and therefore know what disgusts Westerners.

Curious. I'd like to know.

xingyiman · Joined: 12 Jan 2006

Can of worms officially opened!

oni · Joined: 15 Jun 2004 Location: Seoul

I'm going out with a korean guy and he certainly doesn't wear pink or any other pastel shirt. He's quite a funky dresser most of the time.
He doesn't do gross stuff like snort, hack etc...........
He lived in NZ for 2 years being Kiwi myself that's cool
He tells me people often ask where he's from as they don't think he's Korean
He's not into public displays of affection.
He's more respectful than the foreign guys I've gone out with here for sure.

europe2seoul · Joined: 12 Sep 2005 Location: Seoul, Korea

billybrobby · Joined: 09 Dec 2004

I have a question. Do you think it's awesome to ask totally great loaded questions or are you some kind of dumb idiot?

marckot · Joined: 16 Jan 2007 Location: Mokpo

I think it is the same with western guys. We do stuff when we are in the company of men and we act a little different when woman are around.

Though I must say we don't hack, piss ....and so forth while we are with our friends.

Bingo · Joined: 22 Jun 2006

You know K-guys do not act like that in front of their K-girlfriend because girls do not like that behavior. So, they act like that when they are with their other K-male friends just drinking & relaxing. So, foreign chick would not have a problem with that.[/quote]

Yeah, right. Rolling Eyes

Newbie · Joined: 07 Feb 2003

Dude, I like to make fun of the "stereotypical" K-man as much as the next guy, but you're too much.

There are some decent folk in this country. Sure, maybe not a majority, but definitely still a good number of decent folk. I'm sure these are the ones foreign women are dating. At least for their sake, I hope it is.

jmbran11 · Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Location: U.S.

We ask at exactly the same time we would ask our Western boyfriend why he is lazy, dresses like a slob, doesn't respect his family, has no sense of romance, and can't keep a job for more than a year.

Okay, of course none of that is true (I love you Western boys), but it's a dumb question. Every man/woman has issues.

blynch · Joined: 25 Oct 2006 Location: UCLA

[quote="philipjames"]Over the past year I've noticed more Western women with Korean fellas. I think this is a very positive development. (Hopefully it'll take some of the hostility off Western guys dating Korean girls.

But I have a question. How long do you wait before informing your K-dude
that his table manners, snorting, horking, hacking, spitting, snot rockets, chain smoking and the pink shirts are making you, well, nauseous? Surely no matter how nice (or even handsome) a fella is, it's hard to be enamoured by him if he's constantly coughing up his left lung and snorting. Or are Western girls here only attracted to Korean guys who've lived abroad and therefore know what disgusts Westerners.

Curious. I'd like to know.[/quote

HEY PHILIP JAMES, HOW COME YOU ARE SO ACQUAINTED WITH KOREAN MEN?

(A q u e e r?)

white tiger · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

the "table manners" bit; are you referring to showing their approval of food by eating with their mouths wide open? I gotta tell ya, that's not limited to Korean MEN... and I love the girl's comment about Korean men being far more respectable than foreigners she's dated. Hope you look into life before and after marriage with a Korean man. You don't see any 35 year old K-men carrying the grocery bags home, do you? You may think he's the sweetest now, carrying your little handbag....
I like to think that at least foreign (western?) men are more consistent and predictable for the long-run.

europe2seoul · Joined: 12 Sep 2005 Location: Seoul, Korea

white tiger · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

financially independent... this ain't sex and the city (no matter how much they idolize that show)! I think there is progress from a few decades ago, but this country is nowhere near equality. It will definitely be interesting to see where the young gen ends up, with their eastern expectations and western wishes.
cant have the best of both worlds. but perhaps they will find a way?

europe2seoul · Joined: 12 Sep 2005 Location: Seoul, Korea

white tiger · Joined: 28 Jan 2003 Location: Seoul

divorces have been around the 50% mark for the past decade, no? i think everyone craves financial stability, which is why even K-girls of the past had money stashed away in case of being cast away. all in all, seems they still want to take care of the home (which includes finances, bills), while the husband stays out working. We Westerners probably get more exposure to the Westernized K-girls though for obvious reasons.