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princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

My friend is wondering if an 8 year age difference is really that big a deal, where the woman is 8 years older than the guy.

SeoulShakin · Joined: 05 Jan 2006 Location: Seoul

I really think it's not so much what the age difference is, but what the difference in their level of maturity is. Some guys are more mature than others, and vice-versa for females. If the maturity level is close to the same, I don't see why it would be a bad thing. My Grandmother is over 10 years older than my Grandfather. Back in the day, she was the talk of the town, and they said she robbed the cradle. But they are still happily married, with children and grandchildren. I think people put too much of a stigma on age. It's not how old you are, but how old you act and feel that counts.

cangel · Joined: 19 Jun 2003 Location: Jeonju, S. Korea

Depends on numerous factors the foremost being love-of course. Secondly, 8 years isn't much of a difference as we get older but is huge if the younger one of them is, say, 18 or 19-even early 20s.

RACETRAITOR · Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Location: Seoul, South Korea

I'm going to be the first to come out and say yes, it's weird. Not bad though, just weird.

I heard once from a dubious source that a century ago, Korean women would get married around the age of 16 to husbands who were extremely young. They would serve as caretaker to their husband until he was old enough to reproduce. Not sure if it's true, as she's told me lots of things about old Korean customs.

kermo · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 4:38 am Post subject:

It's more about life experience, social standing and overall maturity. It also depends on what stage of life they're in. 20 vs. 28? That's more of a gap than 28 and 36.
Age will also have a bearing on things that affect a relationship, like deciding when to have a family, career decisions, and other priorities.

Young FRANKenstein · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 4:56 am Post subject: Re: 8 year age difference

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

dogshed · Joined: 28 Apr 2006

Life stage is more important.
If one person is looking to have kids and the other one has visiting grandchidren then you are in two different life stages even if you are the same age.

MCSM · Joined: 20 Apr 2007

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

jvalmer · Joined: 06 Jun 2003

ella · Joined: 17 Apr 2006

34 and 25 is a still a significant difference, regardless of whether it's the woman or man who's older. Your brain has just finished forming by 25. That's not the equal or peer of a 34yo.

Once you're both in your thirties, those differences start to level out a bit. If anything, it makes sense for the woman to be about 7 years older since we live on average seven years longer. Unless you plan to spend the last part of you life alone, that is.

dutchy pink · Joined: 06 Feb 2007 Location: Incheon

for other people.., I couldn't care less about their age difference. if it's love, it's love.
For me, though, that's a big difference. I couldn't imagine a relationship more than 5 years apart. oh well.

JMO · Joined: 18 Jul 2006 Location: Daegu

It depends on what age the youngest person is ..as somebody said.

In my first year at Uni, I was 17/18 and going out with a 27 year old woman for most of that year. In the end there was just too big a gap and I was too immature. The first time I've ever had a GF younger than me was in Korea..for some reason in Ireland I tend to go out with older women. Its nice to go out with someone with more life experience and who can ground you.

lastat06513 · Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 12:26 pm Post subject:

I prefer older women, they play fewer headgames than those in the younger end of the spectrum.

I think the only time a young woman won't play headgames is if they truly feel for the guy or if they feel that the guy is worth something (money, job, status, looks, etc.)

I have narrowed the age-range of the person I hope to meet someday to be either about 3 years older or younger than me, anything younger would be a headgame. Though I won't rule out meeting someone older....

maturity is the spice of life...... Wink