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danby_ll
Joined: 06 Dec 2006
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 12:35 pm Post subject: Korean friends |
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Just a curious question, how many here have a good number of Korean friends you hang out with on a regular basis?
Is your "group" made up mainly of other foreigners? Do Koreans make up 50% of your closest friends? Less? More? |
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Cerriowen
Joined: 03 Jun 2006 Location: Pocheon
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:38 pm Post subject: |
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I have been here 1 year and I have 3 Koreans that I consider good friends.
In my experience it's easy to find Koreans who want to hang out with me, but they view me more like a fashion excessory to show off to their friends, or they're looking for free english lessons. Usually after they've shown me off, and I loose my "usefulness" they stop coming around. Or once they pass their TEPS/TOEFL etc.
I got hurt really badly a few times, and after that I've started keeping my distance a bit. I don't have anything against Koreans, I just got tired of trying to sift through the ass-hats.
Most of my friends are waegooks. |
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oneofthesarahs

Joined: 05 Nov 2006 Location: Sacheon City
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 7:37 pm Post subject: |
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Most of my friends are Korean. Probably a good 80%. This is for two reasons:
1. I live in a rural area and don't run into many fellow foreigners.
2. I'm interested in doing more than just drinking beer and getting laid. |
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Satori

Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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oneofthesarahs wrote: |
Most of my friends are Korean. Probably a good 80%. This is for two reasons:
1. I live in a rural area and don't run into many fellow foreigners.
2. I'm interested in doing more than just drinking beer and getting laid. |
Im interested in doing LESS than drinking beer and getting laid. Beer is over rated ... |
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Vancouver
Joined: 12 Dec 2006
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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indeed. I don't get what's so great about beer |
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ginger7
Joined: 17 Jun 2006 Location: Daegu
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 8:39 pm Post subject: |
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For a while, I was only hanging out with Koreans. It was fine at the time, but the fact that our conversations became increasingly shallow and always focused on the same topics began to frustrate me. I was annoyed by how my Korean friends refused to take charge of their lives, even though they complained all the time. I think it's impossible to achieve depth with Korean friends. There's a definite language/cultural barrier.
So I switched to the foreigner scene in the neighborhood. Things are much better now... |
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Ginormousaurus

Joined: 27 Jul 2006 Location: 700 Ft. Pulpit
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 8:42 pm Post subject: |
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All my guy friends are foreigners and all my female friends are Koreans. I drink and party with the guys and go to movies and drink coffee and stuff with the girls. I'm very satisfied with the mix. |
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IncognitoHFX

Joined: 06 May 2007 Location: Yeongtong, Suwon
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 9:13 pm Post subject: Re: Korean friends |
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danby_ll wrote: |
Just a curious question, how many here have a good number of Korean friends you hang out with on a regular basis?
Is your "group" made up mainly of other foreigners? Do Koreans make up 50% of your closest friends? Less? More? |
Hi Lindsay  |
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adventureman
Joined: 18 Feb 2003
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 9:33 pm Post subject: |
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Ginormousaurus wrote: |
All my guy friends are foreigners and all my female friends are Koreans. |
You and probably 80% of the foregin male english teachers in Korea (with the occasional western woman or kyopo thrown in).
Having said that, I could probably count on one hand the number of Korean men whom I had a desire to establish close relations with after the initial first encounter during my 3.5 years in the ROK... |
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Yu_Bum_suk

Joined: 25 Dec 2004
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 9:33 pm Post subject: |
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Korean friends are great until you try to double book and do something with more than one of them. Then it's like putting unfamiliar cats together. |
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shaunew

Joined: 17 Apr 2007 Location: Calgary
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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I hang out with my wife who is Korean, sometimes her friends all Korean. Or I hang out with my buddies weagooks, once a week I go drinking with all the girls from my work which is cool. |
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Satori

Joined: 09 Dec 2005 Location: Above it all
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:53 pm Post subject: |
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Ginormousaurus wrote: |
All my guy friends are foreigners and all my female friends are Koreans. I drink and party with the guys and go to movies and drink coffee and stuff with the girls. I'm very satisfied with the mix. |
Me too. In five years I just could not connect deeply with any Korean males except one very special guy. But of course, he was highly unusual for a Korean guy. Spoke perfect English, travelled a lot, was a great musician, and worked as a sales rep for a big musical instrument store. So he was very worldly and sophisticated. And STILL he would complain to me about low class western guys "taking" and "ruining" good Korean women. Always stopping to point out that I was "different" of course, because I had a steady gf.
The women are generally more open minded and progressive. |
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ajgeddes

Joined: 28 Apr 2004 Location: Yongsan
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:01 pm Post subject: |
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I have been here 3 years, and I have no good Korean friends. I have a few that I am acquaintances with and a few I would call friends, but none that I would ever call to see what they are doing. I have got a lot of foreign friends but most of those are people I have met through personal interests so we have stuff in common. |
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danby_ll
Joined: 06 Dec 2006
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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:40 pm Post subject: Re: Korean friends |
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IncognitoHFX wrote: |
danby_ll wrote: |
Just a curious question, how many here have a good number of Korean friends you hang out with on a regular basis?
Is your "group" made up mainly of other foreigners? Do Koreans make up 50% of your closest friends? Less? More? |
Hi Lindsay  |
Hey Sean. |
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Julius

Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2007 12:04 am Post subject: |
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If you want good friends you have to befriend people about 5 years older than you to hit the right mindset and be on the same level.
True! |
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