Korean Job Discussion Forums

[Dev]

Looking at the way young Korean guys behave with women, I wonder what they're doing right.

On one hand, they look like complete slaves to women, carefully sculpting their hair, washing their pink shirts 'til they're spotless, and singing love balads with full emotion.

Then yesterday, I am walking through the park in Yeoido and saw several couples on park benches. They all had one thing in common. The guy would have his head in his girlfriend's lap while she massaged his head.

Later, I see two seated bicycles going by me with the guy taking charge in the front seat in every case.

How do they flip things around to make the girl the slave?

This could be a interesting study in human psychology

Interesting!

[Bibbitybop]

The man on the front of the bike was the slave, he was doing the work.

In reality, in most socially-modern countries (I don't know if Korea fit's that term yet), men and women share power. Loving relationships are part-giving and part-receiving.

To read a good explanation and observation of Korean couples, read "What's So Great About Korea, Maarten?" by Maarten Meijer.

[Yu_Bum_suk]

[the eye]

Have you always been single, Dev?

[mindmetoo]

The woman still wears the pants at home, no? The man hands over his checks, she gives him cigarette and soju money, and she pretty much makes all the decisions.

I figure the feminization of Korean men has to do with the shortage of Korean women these days. The breeding strategy can go one of two ways. The men can out macho each other to get the limited supply of females. Or they can become sensitive, romantics and out try to sissy each other.

[caniff]

I sometimes get a little annoyed that my wife won't make decisions about little stuff.

"Where do you want to eat?"

"Son-taek haseyo, Chagiya."

"I have picked the place/menu for the last umpteen times. It's your turn. Sang gwan oppsoyo. I will go wherever you want. I don't care."

"Son-taek haseyo, Chagiya."

Back somewhere towards the topic: Korean women do seem pretty good with managing money. I let my wife handle the day-to-day bill paying because she seems to think that its her job, and because I can't be bothered. And as long as our standard of living continues to rise (which it steadily has), she can keep it up.

As far as adjoshis, some of them need extracurricular activity and taxi money in addition to beer and cigarette money. The lucky ones have the company credit card for that.

[mindmetoo]

[DanielP]

I disagree.

It's up to the man to lead. You choose where you want to eat, go for fun, and go drinking.

Asking a woman to lead is like asking a man to watch a chick flick. You can do it, but it doesn't feel...natural. In fact, if you can lead effectively, a woman (and women, back me up here) finds that an attractive trait.

Dan

[caniff]

Dude, MM2 and I weren't talking about the first few dates. At least I wasn't.

I see your point, but when you're with someone for awhile? It would be nice if they also had an opinion that they were willing to share when you say you are relinquishing that particular choice to them.

Dig?

[Young FRANKenstein]

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