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Adventurer

Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:32 am Post subject: Korean girls and dating foreigners.... Pitfalls... |
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I am sure this topic has been done to death somewhere..... Anyway, who cares... I've been in Korea for over a year now. I was more interested in dating Korean women than I am now. I haven't really tried yet. However, after hearing from so many Koreans and foreigners who conservative the people can be with curfews, their parents not liking foreigners in so many cases etc... The idea of not liking foreigners by the parents was kind of a turn off. I've talked to people who were in long term relationships with Korean men and they said they would have had a hard time bringing Jane to their mother. Some Korean women say they would resist their parents, but how simple is that if you live under her roof? I have no clue. For those who've been around what really is the score in that area? Are things often very complicated with the locals? |
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JAWINSEOUL
Joined: 19 Nov 2005
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:36 am Post subject: |
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Iv'e been with my Korean fiance for 5-1/2 years. It's not easy. |
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Newbie

Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:38 am Post subject: |
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Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.
Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd. |
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JMO

Joined: 18 Jul 2006 Location: Daegu
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:07 am Post subject: |
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I don't think it is as hard as all that. most girls I went out with havn't approved of me as boyfriend material in Ireland and Korea. Parents are just damn picky when it comes to their daughters. Lump that in with anxiety about foreigners and it is amplified. Oncw they get to know you it will be cool as long as you aren't a freak. Korean parents and their lack of English skills are a godsend for me, as I tend to say wildly inappropiate things around parents(I get nervous, I say stupid sh!t).
The one thing that does annoy me is the whole living at home thing. You just have to work around that. Anything is worth the effort if u like the girl. |
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:15 am Post subject: |
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A lot wil ldepend on the parents.
That is all i can say about it. |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Location: Seoul, South Korea
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:31 am Post subject: |
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I'm lucky. I got a girl who rebels from her parents at every chance, and I got inlaws who are pretty decent, understanding people. The only problem is the wife usually keeps us separated. |
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Mashimaro

Joined: 31 Jan 2003 Location: location, location
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:59 am Post subject: |
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Korean parents aren't so bad. My ex's parents treated me really well.
Wearing my 독도는 한국땅 아니다 T-Shirt really seemed to make them warm up to me. |
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Freaka

Joined: 05 Jun 2007
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 2:41 am Post subject: |
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Newbie wrote: |
Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.
Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd. |
Really, Newbie? I have to say that I'm surprised by your words. I'm sincerely glad to hear that some of you have had "not so difficult" experiences in dealing with Korean parents, but I'd think that for the most part, foreigners would have a difficult time being accepted by their Korean girlfriends' parents.
Fact is, many Koreans are racist. (Hey, we're all racist to some extent!) And when it comes to their sons and daughters dating (and potentially marrying) someone from another ethnic group, Koreans can be quite unflinching in their prejudice.
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the_beaver

Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 3:06 am Post subject: |
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10 years. Same girlfriend.
The only problem is: 10 years. Same girlfriend. |
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SuperHero

Joined: 10 Dec 2003 Location: Superhero Hideout
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 3:30 am Post subject: |
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My MIL gave me a big hug the first day we met. |
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riley
Joined: 08 Feb 2003 Location: where creditors can find me
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:11 am Post subject: |
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My mother in law was nervous at first, but my father in law was willing to take a chance when he met me. He wanted to size me up and find out if I was a good choice for his daughter or not. Later, when we became serious and I asked her mother if I could marry her daughter, she was worried about what could happen if something goes wrong when we are far away. It was pretty normal stuff, honestly. |
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butlerian

Joined: 04 Sep 2006 Location: Korea
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:15 am Post subject: |
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Like anywhere in the world, each girl and her respective family will be different. Some Korean girls and their family are very open and will be happy to introduce a foreigner to the family - others won't. That's my experience. |
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coldcrush
Joined: 02 Apr 2004 Location: melbourne.... Posts: 1
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:17 am Post subject: |
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Sideways vaginas.
Consider yourself warned. |
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Guri Guy

Joined: 07 Sep 2003 Location: Bamboo Island
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:26 am Post subject: |
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Wearing my 독도는 한국땅 아니다 T-Shirt really seemed to make them warm up to me. |
You wore a shirt that said "Dokdo is not Korean land" and they warmed up to you? |
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Newbie

Joined: 07 Feb 2003
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:31 am Post subject: |
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Freaka wrote: |
Newbie wrote: |
Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.
Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd. |
Really, Newbie? I have to say that I'm surprised by your words. I'm sincerely glad to hear that some of you have had "not so difficult" experiences in dealing with Korean parents, but I'd think that for the most part, foreigners would have a difficult time being accepted by their Korean girlfriends' parents.
Fact is, many Koreans are racist. (Hey, we're all racist to some extent!) And when it comes to their sons and daughters dating (and potentially marrying) someone from another ethnic group, Koreans can be quite unflinching in their prejudice. |
I hear what you're saying, but it's like I said,, "once they meet you, things are fine (or at least get better)". Koreans, generally speaking, have this crazy notion of the big bad sex-hungry foreigner. All this despite probably never having talked to one. Once they see we're actually pretty normal, it's all gravy.
When my wife's father first heard of us dating he stopped talking to her for 8 months. When we got engaged he went on a 1 month soju bender. When he finally met me, it was like an instant turn around. I walked in their home, dressed in a suit, muttered a few Korean words, smiled ... and that was that. By the end of our hour long conversation he was offering us a building to open a hogwan in and telling us he'd buy us a house in Canada when we finally move there.
You'll find there are a lot of stories of "my Korean significant other's parents hated the idea of him/her marrying a foreigner, but now they absolutely love me" |
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