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Korean girls and dating foreigners.... Pitfalls...
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Adventurer



Joined: 28 Jan 2006

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:32 am    Post subject: Korean girls and dating foreigners.... Pitfalls... Reply with quote

I am sure this topic has been done to death somewhere..... Anyway, who cares... I've been in Korea for over a year now. I was more interested in dating Korean women than I am now. I haven't really tried yet. However, after hearing from so many Koreans and foreigners who conservative the people can be with curfews, their parents not liking foreigners in so many cases etc... The idea of not liking foreigners by the parents was kind of a turn off. I've talked to people who were in long term relationships with Korean men and they said they would have had a hard time bringing Jane to their mother. Some Korean women say they would resist their parents, but how simple is that if you live under her roof? I have no clue. For those who've been around what really is the score in that area? Are things often very complicated with the locals?
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JAWINSEOUL



Joined: 19 Nov 2005

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Iv'e been with my Korean fiance for 5-1/2 years. It's not easy.
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Newbie



Joined: 07 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 12:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.

Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd.
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JMO



Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Daegu

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:07 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't think it is as hard as all that. most girls I went out with havn't approved of me as boyfriend material in Ireland and Korea. Parents are just damn picky when it comes to their daughters. Lump that in with anxiety about foreigners and it is amplified. Oncw they get to know you it will be cool as long as you aren't a freak. Korean parents and their lack of English skills are a godsend for me, as I tend to say wildly inappropiate things around parents(I get nervous, I say stupid sh!t).

The one thing that does annoy me is the whole living at home thing. You just have to work around that. Anything is worth the effort if u like the girl.
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Juregen



Joined: 30 May 2006

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A lot wil ldepend on the parents.

That is all i can say about it.
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RACETRAITOR



Joined: 24 Oct 2005
Location: Seoul, South Korea

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm lucky. I got a girl who rebels from her parents at every chance, and I got inlaws who are pretty decent, understanding people. The only problem is the wife usually keeps us separated.
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Mashimaro



Joined: 31 Jan 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 1:59 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Korean parents aren't so bad. My ex's parents treated me really well.
Wearing my 독도는 한국땅 아니다 T-Shirt really seemed to make them warm up to me.
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Freaka



Joined: 05 Jun 2007

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 2:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Newbie wrote:
Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.

Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd.


Really, Newbie? I have to say that I'm surprised by your words. I'm sincerely glad to hear that some of you have had "not so difficult" experiences in dealing with Korean parents, but I'd think that for the most part, foreigners would have a difficult time being accepted by their Korean girlfriends' parents.

Fact is, many Koreans are racist. (Hey, we're all racist to some extent!) And when it comes to their sons and daughters dating (and potentially marrying) someone from another ethnic group, Koreans can be quite unflinching in their prejudice.


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the_beaver



Joined: 15 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 3:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

10 years. Same girlfriend.

The only problem is: 10 years. Same girlfriend.
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SuperHero



Joined: 10 Dec 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 3:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My MIL gave me a big hug the first day we met.
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riley



Joined: 08 Feb 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My mother in law was nervous at first, but my father in law was willing to take a chance when he met me. He wanted to size me up and find out if I was a good choice for his daughter or not. Later, when we became serious and I asked her mother if I could marry her daughter, she was worried about what could happen if something goes wrong when we are far away. It was pretty normal stuff, honestly.
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butlerian



Joined: 04 Sep 2006
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Like anywhere in the world, each girl and her respective family will be different. Some Korean girls and their family are very open and will be happy to introduce a foreigner to the family - others won't. That's my experience.
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coldcrush



Joined: 02 Apr 2004
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sideways vaginas.

Consider yourself warned.
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Guri Guy



Joined: 07 Sep 2003
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
Wearing my 독도는 한국땅 아니다 T-Shirt really seemed to make them warm up to me.


You wore a shirt that said "Dokdo is not Korean land" and they warmed up to you?
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Newbie



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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 4:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Freaka wrote:
Newbie wrote:
Really no problems. Parents will be shocked at first and apprehensive. But once they meet you and realize you're actually human too, all is cool.

Don't believe all the hype. It's not so difficult. Remember, this is Dave's 90% of what you read is B.S. or something created by some lonely internet nerd.


Really, Newbie? I have to say that I'm surprised by your words. I'm sincerely glad to hear that some of you have had "not so difficult" experiences in dealing with Korean parents, but I'd think that for the most part, foreigners would have a difficult time being accepted by their Korean girlfriends' parents.

Fact is, many Koreans are racist. (Hey, we're all racist to some extent!) And when it comes to their sons and daughters dating (and potentially marrying) someone from another ethnic group, Koreans can be quite unflinching in their prejudice.


I hear what you're saying, but it's like I said,, "once they meet you, things are fine (or at least get better)". Koreans, generally speaking, have this crazy notion of the big bad sex-hungry foreigner. All this despite probably never having talked to one. Once they see we're actually pretty normal, it's all gravy.

When my wife's father first heard of us dating he stopped talking to her for 8 months. When we got engaged he went on a 1 month soju bender. When he finally met me, it was like an instant turn around. I walked in their home, dressed in a suit, muttered a few Korean words, smiled ... and that was that. By the end of our hour long conversation he was offering us a building to open a hogwan in and telling us he'd buy us a house in Canada when we finally move there.

You'll find there are a lot of stories of "my Korean significant other's parents hated the idea of him/her marrying a foreigner, but now they absolutely love me"
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