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[n3ptne]

Marriage, Horror, And Susan Reimer

Take Horror. It's A Better Bet.

by Fred Reed

Were I to offer thoughts on marriage to young American men today, in
these the declining years of a once-great civilization, my advice would
be as follows: Don't do it. Or, if you do, do it in another country. In
America marriage is a grievous error.

And why so? Because of The Chip. The Attitude. The bandsaw whine of
anger, anger, anger that makes American women an international horror.
It's there. It's real.

You, a young man, may not recognize the Chip if you have never seen
normal, warm, happy women. If you are twenty-something and haven't been
out of the US, you haven't seen them. They exist by the billion--in Latin
America, Singapore, Taiwan, Malaya, China and, last I looked, France
and Holland. And of course not every woman in America carries the Chip.
None of them think they do. Yet it is the default, the usual, what
comes out of the box.

The following is a perfectly ordinary, everyday, bulk-lot example,
suitable for poisoning a cistern:

"Other than a 29-inch waist and a full head of hair, there isn't much
to recommend the twentysomething male . . . . He is living an extended
adolescence -- an adult-olescence -- and every immature, irresponsible,
self-absorbed thing he does is reinforced by the latest issue of his
favorite men's magazine." (Susan Reimer, a columnist for the Baltimore
Sun. I bet she goes out a lot.)*

Hers is the Attitude--and what they think of you. It is the defining
trait of American women. Exceptions exist, and they have my apologies,
but they are few and no, sport, your Sally probably isn't one of them.
They're coiled to bite. As soon as problems arise in the marriage, they
turn into Susan.

Susan Reimer is what is out there, guys: bitter that no one wants her
(as who in his right mind could?), sure that no one is good enough for
her, never having grasped that those who would be loved must first be
lovable. Understand this: Susan is America. Some hide it better,
springing it on you after the ceremony, but Susan is the rule.

The Susans do not like men. Sometimes they actually take courses in
disliking men ("Women's Studies"). Yet they want to marry one and have
babies. For them, the contradiction actually makes a kind of sense,
because (and they know this, believe me) they will get the house, the
children, and the child support. For you, it makes no sense. You will get
raped in the divorce courts. You don't know how bad it is. Don't do it.

A prime effect of marriage is backbreaking financial overhead: the
excessive house in the prestigious suburb, the pricey but boring cars, all
that. But if you don't fall into the trap, keeping your expenses down
means you can live in Alaska or overseas and enjoy existence. There is
more to life than debt service. Although these are bad times for
marrying, they are extraordinarily good times for being single.

Now, children. This is sticky. You may want them, or think you want
them, or think you may want them. She wants them. My advice is to move to
almost any country where English isn't spoken and women don't want
their husbands to be the mothers of their children. Any country inhabited
by the Chinese would do nicely.

Incidentally, remember that it is never now or never. Your prospects
improve with time. At thirty-five or fifty you will be perfectly able to
find a good woman if you know where to look. See above list.

Remember also that these are not good times for having children in
America. It is almost irresponsible. The schools are scholastically poor,
drug-ridden, given chiefly to political indoctrination, and hostile to
male children. The universities are little better. Divorce is hell on
children and their fathers, and nearly universal. The country lunges to
police-statedom and isn't, I suspect, as stable as it might be. Worse,
worst, there is Susan Reimer. Her name is legion, and she seeps
everywhere, like the effluvium of unwashed socks.

Further, there is no social duty to have children. Some argue that the
white population is in decline. Tough. If the country chooses to make
having kids undesirable, then let it decline. It is not your problem.

Now, you might well wonder, why are American women carrying the Chip?
Practically, it doesn't matter: They do carry it, and will continue.
Still, it is partly because from birth they are fed the notion that they
have been oppressed, battered, cheated, deprived, harassed, used as sex
objects, not used as sex objects, on and on. Being rational, you are
perhaps inclined to point out that never has a female population been
less any of these things, but don't bother. It will have no effect. The
Chip is an emotional artifact to which they respond emotionally.

The bedrock of The Attitude is that everything is the man's fault.
Wonders Reimer, "What is the answer, especially if the 20- and 30-year-old
male is such poor marriage material?" She does not wonder, "If I am
such a grindingly awful termagant that men on three continents are
crossing their legs and feeling queasy over my mere column, and won't come
near me except in a Kevlar bathysphere with a disinfectant system, maybe
I'm doing something wrong. Gosh. I wonder what?"

Yet something more is going on, though one does not easily see just
what. Note that in recent decades we have seen the invention by women of
bulimia and anorexia, which no one had heard of in 1965. Men made them
do it. At roughly the same time women began getting breast implants,
which men also made them do, and then suing about it. In the same period
they began having induced memories of being raped or satanically abused
by their fathers. Men again. The psychotherapy racket grew like kudzu,
a sure sign of deep unhappiness over something.

All of this is recent. You have to be fifty to remember women who were
resilient, sane, psychically strong and, within the limits of an often
sorry existence, content. But whatever the answer, guys, the problem
isn't yours.

Spend a year overseas, however you have to do it. For smart, classy,
just plain glorious women who often speak English, try Singapore.
Argentina is splendid. Many places are. You would be amazed. See what's out
there before you marry a gringa with her Inner Susan, who will one day
burst from her chest like one of those beaked space-aliens in the movies,
dripping venom. They're death.

* Orlando Sentinel, July 1

[n3ptne]

Case in point:

http://blogcritics.org/archives/2007/06/14/233230.php

[Bramble]

Did a newspaper really publish that garbage? I hope there's a real Susan Reimer out there, and that she sues the writer and the paper for everything they're worth.

[n3ptne]

Sue them for what?

I have no problem with the contents of the article. Not 100% accurate, but damn close.

http://www.mensnewsdaily.com/archive/r/reed/03/reed072103.htm

[Scotticus]

Sounds like Susan Reimer broke someone's heart. Poor guy is really broken up about it.

I love stupid articles like this. Thanks, author. You've made me realize how 95% of American women are out to get me and my money. I'll be sure to marry a girl who doesn't speak my language, I'm sure I'll be much more fulfilled that way.

What someone needs to do is write an article that gives a nice even-handed assessment throughout. That assessment being that 95% of ALL PEOPLE are jackasses and not worth marrying. If you're stupid enough to believe that one side is completely responsible for the divorce issues in the US, and all interpersonal problems, then I have a bridge in Brooklyn to sell you. Seriously... when are people going to grow a brain and stop spouting crap like this?

[Bramble]

Libel? If someone wrote an article like that about you, wouldn't you sue?

[n3ptne]

Do you even know what libel is?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libel

In law, defamation is the communication of a statement that makes a false claim, expressly stated or implied to be factual, that may harm the reputation of an individual, business, product, group, government or nation. Most jurisdictions allow legal actions, civil and/or criminal, to deter various kinds of defamation and retaliate against criticism.

[Saxiif]

A bit bitter are we?

[SuperFly]

Western women are sexy.

[Bramble]

[indytrucks]

[n3ptne]

Perhaps you've never heard of allegory?

Either way it isn't libel.

And why wouldn't you want him to lose his job? Anyone who says anything in our society that people like you disagree with must automatically be dragged through the streets and shot.

Forget about responding intelligently... just conform to the image that the author has allocated for you.

[Rapacious Mr. Batstove]

[kermo]

Thanks, OP. That's just what we all need right now. More hatred toward Western women.

[n3ptne]

I try to make each and every day a little more special.