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Beeyee
Joined: 29 May 2007
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 Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 10:33 pm Post subject: First Date |
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Ok, so i have been in Korea about a month and tonight i have my 1st (what i believe to be a) date with a Korean girl. I say that i believe it to be because she doesnt speak very good English and i dont speak very good Korean!
Basically we have arranged to go for dinner, see a movie and get coffee and ice-cream afterwards. I guess what i am asking is, is this a typical Korean 1st date or is it something that just friends would do? I am a little apprehensive about asking her straight up if this is a date in fear of some extreme negative response.
Secondly, is it the norm to buy the girl a small token gift like some flowers or some chocolates?
All thoughts appreciated  |
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IncognitoHFX
Joined: 06 May 2007
Location: Yeongtong, Suwon
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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I went on a date about a week ago...
My advice is to pay for everything, to be really friendly but respectful and not hit on her right away, and to just try to make her laugh as much as possible. This is what I did last week and I have another date with her coming up on Tuesday, so I figure I did something right. However my date speaks fluent English.
As for gifts... sure, I don't see why not. |
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richardlang
Joined: 21 Jan 2007
Location: Gangnam
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:12 pm Post subject: |
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No gift needed.
Let things work themselves out. Give her your attention and genuine interest -- only if they're there. Both of these things show you as you. You're buying her over with those things.
Also, don't ask if it's a date. You'll find out soon enough if you're in the friend zone. |
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therooster
Joined: 11 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:16 pm Post subject: |
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Gift buying? Paying for everything ? Ridiculous . What is the message you are offering?
"Hi ...I don't see much worth in myself as an individual ....perhaps you shouldn't either ?"
Enjoy your future living with a parasitical princess .
God I miss Western women . |
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Qinella
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd say nix the ice cream and coffee and the gift. Go out for drinks after the movie. The ice cream thing sounds like something you'd do in middle school. |
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therooster
Joined: 11 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:33 pm Post subject: |
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Ice cream ?
Oh holy mother of christ . Please don't pass on your genetic code ! |
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richardlang
Joined: 21 Jan 2007
Location: Gangnam
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:41 pm Post subject: Re: First Date |
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| Beeyee wrote: |
Ok, so i have been in Korea about a month and tonight i have my 1st (what i believe to be a) date with a Korean girl. I say that i believe it to be because she doesnt speak very good English and i dont speak very good Korean!
Basically we have arranged to go for dinner, see a movie and get coffee and ice-cream afterwards. I guess what i am asking is, is this a typical Korean 1st date or is it something that just friends would do? I am a little apprehensive about asking her straight up if this is a date in fear of some extreme negative response.
Secondly, is it the norm to buy the girl a small token gift like some flowers or some chocolates?
All thoughts appreciated |
I'm curious to know your thoughts about what I said. |
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Beeyee
Joined: 29 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:56 pm Post subject: Re: First Date |
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| richardlang wrote: |
| Beeyee wrote: |
Ok, so i have been in Korea about a month and tonight i have my 1st (what i believe to be a) date with a Korean girl. I say that i believe it to be because she doesnt speak very good English and i dont speak very good Korean!
Basically we have arranged to go for dinner, see a movie and get coffee and ice-cream afterwards. I guess what i am asking is, is this a typical Korean 1st date or is it something that just friends would do? I am a little apprehensive about asking her straight up if this is a date in fear of some extreme negative response.
Secondly, is it the norm to buy the girl a small token gift like some flowers or some chocolates?
All thoughts appreciated |
I'm curious to know your thoughts about what I said. |
I think that you are probably right. I mean, i have seen her with friends etc on 4-5 previous occasions. This is the 1st time that we will actually be alone. |
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Beeyee
Joined: 29 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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Gift buying? Paying for everything ? Ridiculous . What is the message you are offering?
"Hi ...I don't see much worth in myself as an individual ....perhaps you shouldn't either ?"
Enjoy your future living with a parasitical princess .
God I miss Western women . |
I did not claim that i was going to do any of these things. I simply asked what the cultural norm for these kinds of situations was.
Anyhow, i think that i would be uncomfortable NOT paying for everything. Maybe i am just too much of a gentleman  |
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shaunew
Joined: 17 Apr 2007
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| Just tell her you except anal on the first date. |
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Beeyee
Joined: 29 May 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 12:28 am Post subject: |
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| shaunew wrote: |
| Just tell her you except anal on the first date. |
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pest2
Joined: 01 Jun 2005
Location: Vancouver, Canada
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 12:43 am Post subject: |
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| In korea, you could probably also call this "last date," unless you had sex on the first date or unless she wants to use you for Englishee lessons or something else. |
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Beeyee
Joined: 29 May 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 1:09 am Post subject: |
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| pest2 wrote: |
| In korea, you could probably also call this "last date," unless you had sex on the first date or unless she wants to use you for Englishee lessons or something else. |
Quite the opposite. She is very keen on teaching me Korean. Ulterior motive or not, i gain by learning the basics of the language from a very attractive instructor  |
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jajdude
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 1:21 am Post subject: |
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| Been on many dates during the last week. Flowers and a sympathy card show that you like her. Been here 8 years, trust me, it is the local norm of culture here. Any other questions I will happily answer via PM (can't share too many tips, might lose too many ladeez haha). |
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wo buxihuan hanguoren
Joined: 18 Apr 2007
Location: Suyuskis
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 1:32 am Post subject: |
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| jajdude wrote: |
| Been on many dates during the last week. Flowers and a sympathy card show that you like her. Been here 8 years, trust me, it is the local norm of culture here. Any other questions I will happily answer via PM (can't share too many tips, might lose too many ladeez haha). |
You forgot one thing - if she is an office worker, give her a pen. It means that you think she has a great future at her company. |
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