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Starla
Joined: 06 Jun 2008
Location: Seoul
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 Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 2:20 am Post subject: How to turn a guy down nicely...need advice! |
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Okay, so there's a hangout I'm starting to go to now. There's a pushy guy there who is hanging on me but I have zero attraction to him. I gave him my email and number because he practically told me to and I had no way of saying no nicely...so now he's sending me annoying emails.
At the same time, I have the hots for another guy who is on the shy side who works there and we have flirted and chatted some. Both guys are there at the same time whenever I go and I must interact with guy #1 given the social atmosphere but I want to keep it strictly platonic. How do I turn down guy #1 without embarrassing him or me? I can't say I have a boyfriend or I'm a lesbian because I want guy #2 and I don't want to tell a huge lie...that rules out telling him I'm a born again Christian or Jehovah's Witness. Need help ASAP! |
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EzeWong
Joined: 26 Mar 2008
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 2:30 am Post subject: |
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The most tactful way I know of is simply,
I'm very flattered you like me. In fact I think that your [something about him] I find attractive. But simply, you're not my type. I do have a friend that might like your style
* and then proceed to pawn him off to your friend.
Pad his ego, and then push him off that cliff. |
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Pink Freud
Joined: 27 Jan 2003
Location: Daegu
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 2:50 am Post subject: |
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| I'd post the situation anonymously on an internet forum and hope that he gets the message tangentially. |
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sarbonn
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
Location: Michigan
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 2:52 am Post subject: |
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Okay, I get the point! I'll stop hitting on you.
Um, which one are you again? |
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happy one
Joined: 05 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 3:17 am Post subject: |
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| Thank you very much, but i'm not interested. Simple and to the point. |
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Suwon23
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 3:26 am Post subject: |
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Ask out the guy you like, then tell the swamp-creature that you're already seeing someone.
Problem solved. I should really charge a fee for this kind of thing. |
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bassexpander
Joined: 13 Sep 2007
Location: Someplace you'd rather be.
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 3:50 am Post subject: |
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Ask the guy you like what you should do about it.
He might ask you out, and then all of your problems are solved. |
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 4:25 am Post subject: |
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| Just say no (to guys who insist on getting email and numbers)! |
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traxxe
Joined: 21 Feb 2007
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 4:31 am Post subject: |
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| Rent him a hooker and don't tell him. Tell her to sleep with him. He won't say no, he's a guy. Then you're off the hook with him because he'll go for the easy vag. |
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Join Me
Joined: 14 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 4:37 am Post subject: |
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| Sleep with him and scream and yell like he is the best you ever had. Next time he calls you tell him you think you are in love with him and you think you are pregnant. Guarantee he will never call you again. |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 5:59 am Post subject: Re: How to turn a guy down nicely...need advice! |
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| Starla wrote: |
Okay, so there's a hangout I'm starting to go to now. There's a pushy guy there who is hanging on me but I have zero attraction to him. I gave him my email and number because he practically told me to and I had no way of saying no nicely...so now he's sending me annoying emails.
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Didn't they cover this in seventh grade? Were you out sick the day the school nurse sent the boys out to play basketball and diagrammed it all out for us?
You tell him he's a great guy, but you don't like him in that way, and then walk away. If you don't shut him down cold, he'll think you're playing hard to get. For future reference, guys you're not interested in, who insist on getting your contact info are exactly the kind of guys you shouldn't give it to. Either tell him no, firmly, or if you're going to be a coward then give him fake info. |
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 6:12 am Post subject: |
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| Every time he calls or emails, just tell him you were out with some other guy and just gush about what a romantic guy he is and how attentive he is. Just keep it up. No guy will long put up with that. |
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SA gal
Joined: 18 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 6:25 am Post subject: |
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| did you try ignoring him? |
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Looking East
Joined: 08 May 2008
Location: Seoul, South Korea
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 6:27 am Post subject: |
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I am from Los Angeles and have a host of girls who are friends that have the same porblem and come to me for advice. The BEST thing you can do is be DIRECT. Who wants to be fuc#$d with or lied to just to save face (besides our loving and caring Korean counterparts)? Just be honest. He CAN be upgraded on 'how the world works' whether he's Korean or not! Not only will it not cost you anything, but you can also afford it.  |
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New Balance
Joined: 15 Jan 2007
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| Posted: Tue Nov 04, 2008 6:33 am Post subject: |
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| I'm not really interested in your personal life unless you post a pic first. |
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