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[colonel sanders]

Is it possible? I mean it violates the secret code of conduct between men, but what should you do if you want to date your friend's ex or if you friend starts dating yours?

[jinju]

bros before hoes, dude

[RACETRAITOR]

It depends on the circumstances. First of all how long ago was it? Second, do you (or he) still care about her? If I were to ever do that, which I doubt I ever would have, I'd ask for the friend's blessing first. It's better to be cautious than to be a douchebag.

By the way, here's a useful Korean word you should know. 구멍동서. It loosely translates to "hole brother." Any guy who has slept with any girl you've ever slept with is your 구멍동서. It sounds like you and a friend might be becoming 구멍동서 soon.

[Qinella]

[colonel sanders]

[quote="RACETRAITOR"]
By the way, here's a useful Korean word you should know. 구멍동서. It loosely translates to "hole brother." Any guy who has slept with any girl you've ever slept with is your 구멍동서. It sounds like you and a friend might be becoming 구멍동서 soon.[/quote]

Thanks for the insight. I'm in a real f'ed up situation. We dated 5 months and mutually broke up on good terms. They started dating 10 days after we broke up. I went home for summer vacation and came back to the news that they were dating and that he had changed his mind from definately going home to renewing his contract another year.

We both live in small town korea with a limited foreigner population and have to loosely work together (camps, special events, etc.)

[ajgeddes]

Well, I am going to come out with it. I think I can throw a little light onto this.

When I first came to Korea, I came here with one of my best friends from University. One of our co-workers was this cute little Korean girl. Anyways, I kind of liked her, and she liked me BUT one of my new coworkers told her my friend was a really nice guy and that I wasn't nearly as nice (which is true, but I am about 100x nicer to GF's than he has ever been.)

Anyways, going on our coworkers advice she kind of started dating him even though he really wasn't into it and didn't care. Anyways, they kind of dragged this thing out for about 4-5 months of kind of dating. Well, eventually my friend broke it off with her because he was never really into it because he just didn't really dig Korean girls.

Anyways, we remained friends (she no longer worked with us) and one night she set me up on a date with her friend. Blah, blah, blah the friends ends up in going to the hospital during the date and I am bummed out. I go home early. Next day, I give my friend/ex-coworker a call and mentioned I was going to COEX and she said she wanted to go, so we went together.

Well, we started dating that day (I always wonder what would have happened if her friend didn't end up in the hospital) and going on 3 years later, we are still together and will probably get married next year.

My friendship with my friend from home didn't really change. It was kind of weird because we lived together, and we didn't really hang out much after that, but it wasn't because of her, but because he made frisbee friends and I made hockey friends.

Anyways, I guess my point is that, while it could definitely screw things up with a friend, it doesn't have to and you might meet a great girl.

[ajgeddes]

Damn it, and now I see that you want to know what to do from the other end of the situation.

[RACETRAITOR]

[mountainous]

perfectly fine and acceptable, imo

[RACETRAITOR]

[ajgeddes]

[mindmetoo]

Bad idea if you want to keep your friend.

[kermo]

It can work. I was the best friend and ex in question, and I set 'em up.

[Are they the lemmings]

I remember reading somewhere that if you seek and get your friend's permission to date his ex, then it is OK but you have no right to complain when he asks you if she has done that thing where she [censored] your [censored] with her [censored] during sex yet.

[kermo]