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[Big_Bird]

We need a new sexual revolution

[crusher_of_heads]

let the revolution start here and now

[Masta_Don]

Sex shouldn't be fun...why? I don't get it.

For me sex is equivocal to art. It's possible to reach the utmost heights of heaven. And like art, sometimes you'll get along with someone on a sexual level that is independent of everyday communication. You may not even like the person other than the sex but it's in such a twisted language that you two have written together that it's the most amazing discovery. It pushes the bounds of a life lived mundane.

But I do agree that the dialogue surrounding sex is disingenuous. People may talk about it so much and thus it seems like we're liberated, but really it's this dialogue that keeps where we are sexually. By repeating the same memes/mores we stunt sexual growth. For example, the other night I saw a clip of a CSI or one of those shows. They were certain that the boy was the killer becuz he had a website devoted to S&M/rough sex, which they showed pictures of. A TV show with such a topic, let alone semi-graphic (for TV) pictures, never would have aired 30 years ago. So we must be progressing! Except all this did was emphasize that rough sex is deviant and a sign of unhealthy/unclean living.

[Big_Bird]

[Ya-ta Boy]

I agree with BB, although I think the trend is pretty old now.

I am reminded of Nancy the Nympho.

Once upon a time, a long long time ago, I lived in a house with three floors. Technically, the guys lived in the basement and the women lived on the top floor and the middle floor was communal. Suzy Creamcheese, a recent ex-virgin, moved in to one of the women's bedrooms upstairs with Nancy.

One day soon after moving in, Suzy came downstairs all pale and shaken and told this story. She and her boyfriend were in bed on one side of the room and Nancy was in bed with BF #1 on the other side. Suddenly Suzie heard Nancy say, "#4!", followed by rustling of the sheets. A few minutes later she heard #2!" and so on. She said she asked Nancy about this.

Nancy explained that she had taught ALL her boyfriends her prefered sexual positions by the number.

Suzy was able to confirm this over time. Nancy NEVER went to classes. She had her 'boyfriends' on a strict time schedule and ALL of them knew the sexual positions by the number.

The point is, sex is and can be a lot of fun. But there is a point where it becomes...decadent. Too much of a good thing, if you will. To make this clear, when I said Nancy never went to class, I really mean that. She just banged 4 or 5 guys in rotation all day/night. Everyday.

For horny guys, there is a certain attraction to this. But would you be interested in Nancy in ANY other way?

[Julius]

Interesting post, Big Bird....
Sex has been downgraded a lot I think in the frivolous TV portrayal.. probably an over-reaction to the 60's somehow. They have still not reached the correct equilibrium. It all seems too cheap in the western media circus I think.

[Adventurer]

I suppose when talking about openness about sex, we are talking about tons of positions modeled after pornography. However, about tantric ideas where you are working on the energy of the two bodies rather than just the adrenaline rush associated with pornography. I do believe, though, in sexual opennes with your mate in terms of talking about what each person enjoys and how they're feeling....

[Ya-ta Boy]

[Big_Bird]

[Ya-ta Boy]

[Big_Bird]

Well, one thing they also discuss in that thread, and which I've come across in readings rather often lately, is that females also tend toward a certain amount of promiscuity, which may have evolutionary benefits. I still think that ideas about 'slags' and 'studs' come at least partly from social conditioning.

[Ya-ta Boy]

[Big_Bird]

[Julius]

[igotthisguitar]

Makes me think of the French word for death.

le petit mort ( the little death)

afraid yet?