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RedRose
Joined: 21 May 2004
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Today one of my colleagues, a teacher of physiology(let's call him Liao), punched his wife in a cruel way. they were my neighbor, living upstairs my appartment. This aftertoon, I was free. so I stayed home and cleaned my room up. suddenly, I heard a breeze of crying and screaming out of Liao's appartment, and the voice came from a woman, sounding like his wife.
I got shocked and ran up to his home. after I knocked his door for a while, the voice of crying disappeared, meanwhile, Liao answered the door. he looked like nothing had never happened. I asked:"what's wrong? who was crying???"
He answered:"nothing, I was watching a movie."
I felt confused and had to go back to my appartment. 2 hours later, I took a walk outside, and I came across Liao's wife on the way. OMG!!! she looked awful with some bruise on her face!! I said:"don't tell me nothing even happened."
She cried and said:"can you promise not to tell him if I tell you the truth?"
I nodded.
and then she told me that her husband had punched her for many times!! mostly, he punches her without any valid reason. for example, when he gets upset for work thing, or when she breaks a bowl by accident, etc.
listening to her, I felt very angry, and I asked:"why not file for divorce? why not squeeze his balls to death? why not cut his d-isk off???"
She just kept silent!!! I didn't know why??? why???
I hate Liao. although he never dose anything bad to me. However, I hate anyone who wants to show so-called "power" through stupid fist!! |
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pugachevV
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| Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 8:40 am Post subject: |
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A gentleman NEVER hits a woman.
So we know he is not a gentleman. Such behaviour is illegal in the USA, Canada and most civilised countries, and would result in his being put in jail. |
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eda
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so sad..so real
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RedRose
Joined: 21 May 2004
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Location: GuangZhou, China
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| Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 8:46 am Post subject: |
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| pugachevV wrote: |
A gentleman NEVER hits a woman.
So we know he is not a gentleman. Such behaviour is illegal in the USA, Canada and most civilised countries, and would result in his being put in jail. |
pugach, I hope that my country can come up with such law in the near future!
Here in China, no law would punish a violent husband!! that's soo sad!
From then on, I will encourage my daughter to make a harder effort to learn english so that she will likely study abroad in the future. and I hope that she can live abroad!! |
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admiral
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let her learn German! Then she will have someone supporting her.
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Lorikeet
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| Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 9:49 am Post subject: |
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| Although it's illegal to punch your wife in the U.S., it still happens. There are places where a woman can go with her children to escape a violent husband, but it's difficult for some women to do that. If you are interested in reading a little about it, you can look at this website for answers to some frequently asked questions about it. : http://www.womaninc.org/res_home.html |
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dancefish
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| Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 7:27 pm Post subject: |
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SHUCKS!!!
it is honour use "gentleman" for him, like this kind of behavior is rudely and impuissant! A gentleman CAN NOT punish female at any time.
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RedRose
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| Lorikeet wrote: |
| Although it's illegal to punch your wife in the U.S., it still happens. There are places where a woman can go with her children to escape a violent husband, but it's difficult for some women to do that. If you are interested in reading a little about it, you can look at this website for answers to some frequently asked questions about it. : http://www.womaninc.org/res_home.html |
I just read the webite that Lori suggested. US can provide such a port of distress for those women who are suffering from family violence, that's good.
However, those women can't stay in the port of distress forever. They have to continue taking care of kids, working, therefore, when they come out from the safe port, they have to face their old problem: family violence again.
My question is: what if the husband hits his wife again? you see, since the husband gets used to punching his wife, then the violence would happen again and again! what is the final solution?!! |
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Lorikeet
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| Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2006 10:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Usually they try to help the woman get a job and find a place to live, etc. The idea is not to go back to the abuser. |
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hector
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| Surely more sensible to provide women with economical and social independence so that they won't feel obliged to live with thug husbands. |
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HiPhOpEr
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| pugachevV wrote: |
A gentleman NEVER hits a woman.
So we know he is not a gentleman. Such behaviour is illegal in the USA, Canada and most civilised countries, and would result in his being put in jail. |
word!!
man who heats a woman doesn't count as a real man i think! |
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Bob S.
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| Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 1:56 pm Post subject: |
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| RedRose wrote: |
| what if the husband hits his wife again? you see, since the husband gets used to punching his wife, then the violence would happen again and again! what is the final solution?!! |
It's a sad situation, but in truth I doubt there is anything you can do about it until she is ready to have the courage to change her own situation.
(On a side note, I bet if you looked into her family's past, you will find that her father also beat her mother. So for her, it is a common and familiar thing. She will be reluctant to change. It's a common pattern in life. When a husband beats his wife, their sons go on to beat their wives, and their daughters find husbands who beat them. It is a disease that is passed on to the next generation.)
The best you can do is call the police each time you hear it happening, and complain that they are disturbing the peace and quiet of the neigborhood. I don't know if your city has such laws against noisy neighbors. Maybe you will get lucky and a police officer with a sense of honor will show up and do something about it (and beat the husband!).
If you talk to the woman and she is willing to admit she made a mistake in choosing a husband (something you can truly understand, eh?), maybe she will put aside her ego and take action to fix the problem. That may mean she has to move back to her parents' home (if it is safe to go there) and get a divorce. If she is willing to move back to her parents' home (or other family member's home), you can help her by getting it done very fast. If she tells her husband that she is leaving, he may kill her. She needs to move out while he is at work, and never contact him again except thru a lawyer who handles the divorce. If he finds her, he will kill her. |
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Snake777
Joined: 05 Nov 2005
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Arghhh YUCK !
I get angry when i read this post too >_<
And i guess most of Asian wives re like her . I 've seen many things like that here . Most of them just keep silent and stand everything . Oh yeah , my dad used to hit my mom once ! My brother , my lil sis and I were soo angry and we did not talk to him in long time ! My mom had made him really mad , i know she was wrong but There is no reasons to hit/ punch the wife like that !
Divorce?! It might be a good idea . But for some odd reasons , Vietnamese people dont like it , since they feel ashamed or something . And i guess ,so do Chinese people ( maybe except for u Redrose since u have " opened" mind )
Lol but hey ! U guys said men who hit women re not real men . So how about boys ?! Mannn boys in my class always hit me  They treat me like i'm not a girl. Yuck ! |
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admiral
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In Germany divorce is no problem, and when guys become 40, they normally divorce. I don't think that should be one of my problems because I haven't even got married.
You are right in saying that Asian people generally don't like divorcing. (Even turkish people don't, although they have a part of their country which is on the european mainland)
For me, I think I should provide a permanent demand for her, and hope that it could function.
The present state is also important, right?
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RedRose
Joined: 21 May 2004
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| I 've seen many things like that here . Most of them just keep silent and stand everything |
Actually, not so many men treat their wives like that. I guess those men, who hit their wives, must have a mental problem. at least he isn't mental healthy.
My dad never beats my mom, although my mom is an ill-tempered woman. and my ex-husband never beat me either. but I still managed to get divorced. of course, I have my own reasons  Maybe I am divorce-addicted  on the contrary, if my ex-husband had beaten me, then....I can't imagine what might have happened! Maybe now he might be a d-ickless man!  |
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