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[RedRose]

I have deleted many people from my MSN list, for any of the following reasons:

1. if he/she is boring.
2. if her/his english is worse than mine.
3. if he asks me to show him my naked body by a webcam.

I must admit, of all the three reasons, 3 is the most obvious one for which I delete men from my list.

Frankly, I feel very confused. I am a woman, and I often chat with people by MSN, mainly because I wanna improve my english and get to know other cutures. however, I never wanna see any male conversation partner's naked body by a webcam, never. when I talk to a man, if he is intelligent and funny, I would feel like continuing the conversation with him, maybe I will like him as a friend, but I never want his nakedness, that's true. and I have asked many women about this case, they are in the same boat as me.

However, some male conversation partners (at least 10) have asked me to show my body. that's insane I think. I once asked a man:"why would some men wanna see women naked when they are talking by MSN? you know, that's just some chat, nothing more." that man told me:"actually, when I talk to a woman that I think attractive, I really wanna see her naked, I just can't help it. even since I know she is far away from me, I still wanna see her naked by a webcam. I don't know why."

that phenomenon really confuses me a lot. maybe that's a good example that men are wilder and more hormone-oriented than women? or something?

[redset]

I think some people contact others on MSN because they want to see them naked Welcome to the internet, it's full of weird people.

[Edoardo]

Well... I agree with Redset

[beancurdturtle]

Ok RedRose honey, let me tell you a not very well kept secret.

And you can sit down first, as I don't want you to faint and injure yourself.

Ok, here we go...
Most all men like to look at naked women. It can be photos, videos, webcams, or whatever - one-on-one in person being the best option. The proactive expression of this desire will vary from one man to the next.

Some men are emboldened by the lack of physical proximity on the Internet (you can't slap their face), and will come right out and request exactly what they want to see. In this case it's easy enough for you to say "no," and they'll move on to the next potential peep-show. I'd agree that this behavior is a bit strange.

Some men are not so bold, and will happily engage in platonic conversation with you. However, I'd bet that the majority of these men would not decline the opportunity to admire your corporeal charms if you volunteered their display. (translation: They'd look at you naked if you gave them the chance)

It's a biologically driven thing. And thank goodness - as the passions that drive men to wish to see women naked, are the same passions that drive us to procreation, and therefore the same passions that ensure the continuation of the human race.

That's just the way it is baby.

Sounds like you are dealing with it appropriately.
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Daniel

�Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.�
--Dr. Seuss

[garfield_jesse]

[RedRose]

[beancurdturtle]

[RedRose]