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RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

Are you a perfectionist? if you are, I am so sorry.

IMHO, perfectionists are kinda pathetic, they pursue perfect goals; they want everything to be perfect. when they try to find a spouse, they wish to find the perfect one. however, they never know: there is no perfect person in the world. everything or everyone has some flaws, and that's life.

I have a friend, who is successful at almost everything, his education, his job, his promotion, but he is still alone so far. he has trouble finding a girlfriend. not that girls ain't interested in him...sigh! he is too selective! he just wants the best one, the perfect one. For once, he almost got married....he found a terrific girl, and he seemed satisfied with the girl, but he eventually found the girl speaking with food in her mouth, of course, they were over. he is hopeless.

One time I talked to him:"Song, you have to accept the truth: there is no perfection! Even the nicest girl would have her face twisted on the toilet because of a terrible constipation! and that's natural and normal! why can you not accept girls with any minor quirk?"

"I don't know exactly. I demand myself to be perfect, and I demand my partner the same, that's my way, I just can't help it." said he.
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Guys, once again, are you a perfectionist? if you ain't, congratulations!

Actually, sometimes I have a little perfectionism...for example, I can't stand people who speak with food in their mouths either. but I wouldn't dump him for this quirk, instead, I would just stop watching him when we have dinner.

beancurdturtle · Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 11:36 am Post subject:

I know a guy that was a perfection freak. He even washed the walls in his house every two weeks. He had a nice girl, but he drove her crazy.

Eventually he decided he was gay, and found another perfection freak guy to be his partner. Laughing

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RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

I heard that a pure perfectionist doesn't like women screaming while having sex, is that true?

If it's true, then I am sorry for a perfectionist's partner.

beancurdturtle · Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 7:50 pm Post subject:

RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

beancurdturtle · Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:36 pm Post subject:

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

Maybe you are the perfect ones for each other, just do it.

Yeah I'm perfectionist and I shot the goal some weeks ago. Past love is history, future love is mystery. Only here, now in the present, we can really love.
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RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

RedRose · Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China

ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

I don't know which type I am or she is.
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hoshi · Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 12:06 pm Post subject:

Sometimes I am perfectionist. It depends on the activity
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ad-miral · Joined: 01 Sep 2006 Posts: 1488

Can you specify "activity"?
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hoshi · Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 12:14 pm Post subject:

studies, hobbies (if I have to win, like a kind of game), seduction ...
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