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[c.a.t.h.y]

At a local discussion group in Beijing our leader gave us the subject of Sex Education to talk about. There were ten of us, six girls and four boys, all around the age of 26 to 30. All of us were brought up in ignorance of sex, especially where babies came from or how they were made. One boy told us when he asked his mother about this she told him he was born from under her armpit. One girl was told that parents went to the well and got a baby from there. One girl said she was told that the doctor brought a baby to the house for the parents. Most of the others were refused any information when they asked. We all had to find out about such matters from secret talk with friends.

It became clear that one girl aged 26 still knew very little about how babies were made and where they came from. One other girl admitted she got married without knowing anything about sex or what to do when she was taken to bed. It took her a long time to get used to the sex act because she thought it was sinful.

In my case when I was 16 I asked my mother how babies were made she got very angry and told my father. He beat my bottom very hard for a long time because he said I was talking dirty.

Why are Chinese parents so reluctant to talk about sex to their children?

Have you had such experiences?

[weiyao]

wow, your father is stern and conservative. I think many people would learn this from their class. I don't remember if I had asked such question or not, but many parents would tell their children"when you get older you would know about this".

[Bob S.]

[c.a.t.h.y]

[clonc]

The USA may be free with information about sex in schools but it has its collection of weird laws about sex. In Arizona keeping more than two dildos at home is prohibited. In Florida only the position "man on top" is legally allowed but it is not allowed to kiss woman�s bust during sexual intercourse. In Massachusetts the "woman on top" is also not allowed. In Minnesota sex with birds is strictly prohibited. In Ohio women are not allowed to wear lacquered shoes because their underwear can be seen on their "mirror" surface.

[bud]

But in Massachusettes it is legal to marry the same sex. I wonder how it is determined who is allowed to be on top.

[RedRose]

Bob, obviously, you don't know Chinese cultural background, especially, about sex education.

What Cathy said is absolutely true in China. I admit that our culture about sex is kinda hypocritical. if you talk about sex too much, people would think you are a pervert, even when you talk about it normally. I am a Doctor, I exactly know where were babies from since I attended a madical college at age 17. but when I was a child, I asked my mom where I was from, Mum told me that she bought me from supermarket, babies on sale. and when we were high school students, we had a class entitled physical health in which there were some contents about sex education. But teachers never taught us about this part. I once asked my teacher:"teacher, on our textbook, I saw an illustration on which a baby was trapped in a pack, what is that about?" My teacher shouted at me out loud:"stop talking about nonsense! you are a girl, please behave well!" I got confused:"then you mean, a boy can ask you about this? and a boy is allow to behave worse? I just asked you some question, I didn't behave bad." she shouted again:"shame on you! don't talk about this anymore!" actually, that illustration was just about a baby in an uterus.

You see, that's what happened in my high school. now the situation is a little bit openner than ever. But sex education is still a forbidden zone. People tend to think that sex is something nasty.

However, as you know, Chinese population is the hugest in the world. where are these people from? since sex is so nasty, where did we get these babies? of course, from sex. nevertheless, since sex is so nasty, and we have so many babies... the only possibility would be: we feel nauseous and uncomfortable when we have sex! but in order to make people, we have to suffer from love-making.! Isn't that delirious??

That is why I think that hypocritical sex culture is ridiculous.

[Vin21]

[admiral]

That's rather opinion, isn't it?
However, I think it's good that we don't know it at first.
Because, if you look at the many german girls here who are about 14/15 and have a big stomach (with baby inside), you could perhaps guess the disadvantage.
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[Bob S.]

[advoca]

[RedRose]