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Michelle 1203
Joined: 19 Sep 2005 Posts: 86
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Posted: Fri Oct 14, 2005 7:45 pm Post subject: Is it better to marry someone of the ......? |
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Is it better to marry someone of the same cultural backgrouond?
Do you want marry with someone with different cultural background?Why and Why not?
Actually,the cultural background doesn't really matter to me.
I want to marry someone who has international thinking. |
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admiral

Joined: 17 Sep 2005 Posts: 546
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 3:40 pm Post subject: |
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And I want to marry the one I love very much, and whom the destiny introduces to me. |
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RedRose

Joined: 21 May 2004 Posts: 2735 Location: GuangZhou, China
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 5:15 pm Post subject: Re: Is it better to marry someone of the ......? |
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Michelle 1203 wrote: |
Is it better to marry someone of the same cultural backgrouond?
Do you want marry with someone with different cultural background?Why and Why not?
Actually,the cultural background doesn't really matter to me.
I want to marry someone who has international thinking. |
I have never dated any foreigner... yet all my ex-boyfriends had the same culture background as I did. Therefor, I don't exactly know how much culture background would affect relationship. if someday I date a foreigner, I would have an answer for this topic  |
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eda

Joined: 01 Apr 2005 Posts: 379 Location: Ankara/Turkey
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Posted: Sun Nov 06, 2005 8:36 am Post subject: |
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I think international thinking is much more important as Michelle 1203 mentioned.Love always finds its way through all obstacles and nothing else matters if you really,truely and deeply love someone. |
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proudsouthamerican
Joined: 10 Nov 2005 Posts: 13
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Posted: Thu Nov 10, 2005 9:13 pm Post subject: |
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of course is better to marry a person from your same cultural background
i have heard a lot of cases of western women who married arabian men, and then 1 month later they feel sorry for the big mistake they made, because their arabian husbands treat them so so bad, and so they get divorced, they (women) are lucky if they are living in a western country, because if they are in an arabian country, is almost impossibble to get divorced if is because wife's decision. |
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Infrared

Joined: 16 Nov 2005 Posts: 41 Location: Pakistan
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Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2005 11:02 am Post subject: |
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The reason for marriages not working out between two people belonging to different cultures has NOTHING to do with their culture, so i don't agree with proudsouthamerican. It's the people who make their marriage / relationships work or break NOT their cultures.
Culture is just a way of living, nothing else and it can very easily be compromised if you really want your marriage to work. People can marry anyone they want, arabs can marry non arabs and vice versa and they can still work out their marrige.
Afroamericans are beautiful people! where do you think they came from.
And you should REALLY tune into Discovery and National Geographic Channel more frequently. Did you know according to recent research all mankind came from a Single AFRICAN WOMAN . Beneath our skins we are all the same, the difference in culture cannot and should not create a difference of hearts. _________________ I don't have any real skills, I'm just passionately curious.
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UOB002

Joined: 23 Oct 2005 Posts: 12 Location: Lebanon
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 4:12 am Post subject: |
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Yes I do think that it can work |
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eda

Joined: 01 Apr 2005 Posts: 379 Location: Ankara/Turkey
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 5:46 am Post subject: |
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[quote="Infrared"]The reason for marriages not working out between two people belonging to different cultures has NOTHING to do with their culture, [b]so i don't agree with proudsouthamerican[/b]. It's the people who make their marriage / relationships work or break NOT their cultures.
Culture is just a way of living, nothing else and it can very easily be compromised if you really want your marriage to work. People can marry anyone they want, arabs can marry non arabs and vice versa and they can still work out their marrige.
[b]Afroamericans are beautiful people! where do you think they came from.[/b]
[b]And you should REALLY tune into Discovery and National Geographic Channel more frequently.[/b] Did you know according to recent research all mankind came from a Single AFRICAN WOMAN . Beneath our skins we are all the same, the difference in culture cannot and should not create a difference of hearts.[/quote]
YOU ARE WONDERFUL !!!!!  _________________ invasion is so succexy so succexy. |
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buratino
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 5 Location: St.Petersburg(Russia)
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 7:45 am Post subject: |
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You r an idealist if you think that culture can't affect our characters and that we r all the same underneath our skin,take english people and compare them with spanish for example
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buratino
Joined: 23 Nov 2005 Posts: 5 Location: St.Petersburg(Russia)
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2005 7:48 am Post subject: |
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2 Infrared You r an idealist if you think that culture can't affect our characters and that we r all the same underneath our skin,take english people and compare them with spanish for example
I think ethnical roots can cause problems _________________ ALL RIGHTS IGNORED |
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Infrared

Joined: 16 Nov 2005 Posts: 41 Location: Pakistan
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2005 9:12 am Post subject: |
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Dearest Buratino, I only speak of what I know. Many people in my own family have married people from different cultures and still kept their marriage. Ages ago my grandmother�s brother married a western woman, they have a wonderful family and we love and respect each other as a family. Few of my relatives were in Africa, they married African people now they have moved from Africa.
Check out Reader�s digest issue of June 2004, page No. 113, an article named �Family Ties� written by Andrea Wijayakoon Phillpotts. A Canadian woman, who married (and is still married happily) to a Sri Lankan man. It�s a true story and I would like to quote something out of it:
�It has now been six years since I first became an English Sri Lankan Canadian. When I watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding recently, I laughed like everyone else at the heroine�s frustration with her meddling ethnic family. Before my marriage, my family, though close, had been much more like the groom�s parents in the film: We respect each other�s space and worried about being overbearing and intrusive.
Now, the �Sri Lankan-ness� has spread around the whole family. The Philpottses, my clan, no longer keep receipts when buying something for the family. We invite relatives to stay at our place rather than the hotel down the street. We rarely need outside day-care. My husband, our kids and I live comfortably in a house with my sister and her family, and my first cousin. My uncle lives next door.
I realized there is a lot to be gained from an �ethnic� view of family. I like being everyone�s sister or daughter. I cherish having my sister-in-law live with us for two years. It�s nice to know that in today�s sometimes cold and alienating world, my family is anything but nuclear�.
You talked about comparing English with Spanish people, they are different no doubt and always will be. But I�m not talking about people, people will always be different, I�m talking about married couples. When you tie the knot of marriage you untie all the knots of cultural (or any other) differences. [Unless of course you want to get a big fat divorce, which I�m sure no decent person wants ]. _________________ I don't have any real skills, I'm just passionately curious.
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