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[dubai]

Do you now about your culture? They are many cultures around the word. Each country has own culture and tradition. Culture is some things we doing or making such as clothes, celebration, and food. Do you now about Qatar culture? Qatar culture is nice and also easy to now about it.

The food is important to our live. In Qatari culture, the food in Qatar culture is important to their live, they have many kind of food culture such as mashboos, hares and thereed.

[RedRose]

I don't know Qatari cuture that much. all I know about Qatari cuture Qatar is an Islam country where people there always wear white robes and kerchieves, and where men can marry 4 wives, people are rich, and they don't have to work for a living. it's a real paradise for men, not completely for women because of the marry-4-wife policy, but still it's a happy and rich place.

I admire everything in Qatar except the marry-4-wife one. if I were a guy, then the marry-4-wife thing would be the best one.

Sometimes I think to myself:"it's sad that I have to work for bread and butter, and the pressure of work is heavy sometimes, what if I was born in any Arabian country? that would be great! I can stay home, surfing all the time, and there will be some foreign maids serving me food and cleaning my house up!"

Chinese children always are told by their parents and teachers:"you have to study hard, otherwise you won't be able to survive from the cruel world, you will starve!" I recall, when I was a kid, my mother often punched me just because I didn't concentrated on my lessons, I didn't finish reading those books she offered...and if I ranked Number one at the final or midsemester exam, she would give me some money or present as a prize.

But I guess Qatari kids won't be bothered like that, so they can live a happy childhood, because they have oil. and when they grow up, they don't have to face such a fierce competition of living. that's what I admire.

[fa6ma]

hi RedRose!!
my name is fatima and im from qatar...18 yrs ...to tell you the truth , i admire my country, culture , and the religion which is Islam....as you wrote about the 4 wifes thing,well it's an optional thing in islam for so many reasons..and its rare for men here to marry 4 women ...maybe 2 with the blessings of the first wife...and for the economic side, well we are blessed with the oil but it's not only thing that my country depends on!..it's also concentracting aloot in education so much that we have an educational city...also we well be helding the Asian olympics this year....
take care:)
if you want 2 know sthng just ask me?

[ad-miral]

Hi sorry I'm interested:
Are you Muslim? And does the majority of men in Qatari have 2 wifes? Or one wife?
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[RedRose]

[fa6ma]

hello everyone .........
well to answer ur question, yes im muslim and for the other one, according to my big family, no one has another wife except for my grand father who married again but he got devorced in a year...
and thank you red rose for ur words

[CP]

Maybe some men in Qatar have more than one wife, but there couldn't be too many of them, because there just aren't enough women there to go around.

Qatar has 11,437 square kilometers of very flat land, no lakes or rivers, lots of oil and natural gas, and 885,359 people as of July 2006. Over 65% of them are males. In fact, there are more males than females in all three main age categories, a very unusual situation for any country:

1.04 boys for every girl age 0-14 (105,546 vs. 101,371)
2.24 men for every woman age 15-64 (446,779 vs. 199,133)
2.84 men for every woman age 65 and older (24,059 vs. 8,471)

(Statistics come from the CIA World Fact Book, https://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/index.html )

So no worries, Red Rose! In your age bracket, you can have two or three husbands easily, and forget about sharing any of them with other women.
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[Anuradha Chepur]

Seventy plus (aged) arab sheikhs take 15-year-old muslim brides from Hyderabad. The poor girls are sold by their parents for about Rs.10,000 ($250 approx). Last year two such girls were rescued by an airhostess. In another such situation, two girls were rescued by their Hindu boyfriends who they married later. The government is now thinking about laws to arrest the Kazis who perform such marriages.

[RedRose]

[ad-miral]

really?
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[RedRose]

[k.m.m]

[Anuradha Chepur]

I think I forgot to mention that my post was triggered by the statistics provided in an earlier post by CP

[ad-miral]

[CP]

Dear Ad-miral:

In answer to your post: "The world should know that the majority don't marry 4 wifes. The westeners are always very angry about it." For the record, I am one westerner who is not angry about it. I don't care how many spouses anyone else has, so long as it is not against the law and all the parties are consenting adults. Live and let live.

But it is not always so nice. In parts of the U.S., some religious cults encourage the men to take multiple wives, even though it is illegal and contrary to the mainstream church's teachings. Often the wives are 13, 14, 15 years old, in a country where the age of consent is 18. Sometimes they are younger than 13. These are not consenting adults; they are children, and the men are guilty of multiple crimes: bigamy / polygamy (marrying more than one person), child molestation, rape of a minor, sometimes child abduction / kidnaping. These girls are scarred for life, but they are told that it is necessary for the man to have multiple wives if he wants to go to Heaven.

To quote Dr. Chepur, "It is natural for people to feel sympathetic about such girls, whether it is happening in the muslims or in the non-muslims. Human feelings cut across religions." Except that the people in the cults feel no sympathy for the girls, nor for the many boys and young men who are raised in the communities, then forced out by the elders so as to eliminate the competition for the younger marriage partners. No Heaven for those boys, just banishment for life from the only world they know and a ticket to nowhere, after getting little or no real education from their religious community.

Those things make me angry, I will admit.
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