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| you were good friends in the childhood/ she is your first love |
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| her face looks so pretty |
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ad-miral
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 Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 1:39 pm Post subject: On what occasions do you fall in love? |
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so, what's your opinion? (I tried to cover all reasons but if you have other ones please write down, too) (Maybe you would chose a combination of them, then vote the most striking one and tell the combination in the forum.)
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RedRose
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I didn't vote yet. because none of all above these options is my opinion.
My opinion is: when you are turned on by him/her, you are in love with him/her. |
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beancurdturtle
Joined: 23 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 8:23 pm Post subject: Re: On what occasions do you fall in love? |
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| ad-miral wrote: |
| so, what's your opinion? (I tried to cover all reasons but if you have other ones please write down, too) (Maybe you would chose a combination of them, then vote the most striking one and tell the combination in the forum.) |
You don't have my answer, which would be "Too often with the wrong woman." haha!
Must be true, or I wouldn't be twice divorced. 
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beancurdturtle
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| Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 8:25 pm Post subject: |
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| RedRose wrote: |
My opinion is: when you are turned on by him/her, you are in love with him/her. |
Silly RedRose!
I can be quite turned on - and not in love at all. 
Actually I think most men can.
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Anuradha Chepur
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| Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 9:39 pm Post subject: |
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People "love" other relations/things. For instance people love their parents, love their children, love their work, and so on.
But if it is the man-woman thing, people fall in love. So if "love" is a "trap" people fall into, any of those options can work as cheese. |
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RedRose
Joined: 21 May 2004
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 12:27 am Post subject: Re: On what occasions do you fall in love? |
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| beancurdturtle wrote: |
Silly RedRose!
I can be quite turned on - and not in love at all.
Actually I think most men can.: |
That would be a huge difference between men and women.
Generally speaking, women would fall in love just with the men they love, and they just get turned on by their beloved men; but men are totally different, they can get turned on by any attractive women, no matter whether they love the woman or not  furthermore, men even can be turned on by a cow when they are horny (I am not being offensive here).
In this respect, women seem very mental at love, and men are very physical. on the other hand, men have more original animal nature than women.
| beancurdturtle wrote: |
| ad-miral wrote: |
| so, what's your opinion? (I tried to cover all reasons but if you have other ones please write down, too) (Maybe you would chose a combination of them, then vote the most striking one and tell the combination in the forum.) |
You don't have my answer, which would be "Too often with the wrong woman." haha!
Must be true, or I wouldn't be twice divorced. |
Turtle, I am sure you are a lucky man 
"Too often with the wrong woman." can mean have a lot of sex and women, without worrying about responsibility!. therefore, as a man, you are successful |
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beancurdturtle
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:04 am Post subject: Re: On what occasions do you fall in love? |
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| RedRose wrote: |
| furthermore, men even can be turned on by a cow when they are horny (I am not being offensive here). |
I think this is somewhat out of the norm. A cow never turned me on. Only human females for me.
| RedRose wrote: |
| In this respect, women seem very mental at love, and men are very physical. on the other hand, men have more original animal nature than women. |
The mental is, most women require a feeling of trust and security - then they can be very physical. Both have animal nature - but each has a different need before it is expressed. Men express desire and sometimes love, women express trust and love.
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| beancurdturtle wrote: |
You don't have my answer, which would be "Too often with the wrong woman." haha!
Must be true, or I wouldn't be twice divorced. |
Turtle, I am sure you are a lucky man
"Too often with the wrong woman." can mean have a lot of sex and women, without worrying about responsibility!. therefore, as a man, you are successful |
I suppose it could mean "have a lot of sex and women, without worrying about responsibility!" but it doesn't in my case. I prefer to have a relationship before sex, and I'm mindful of the responsibility. I've had several good relationships, but I've picked the wrong women to marry. 
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ClarissaMach
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 10:23 am Post subject: |
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| Anuradha Chepur wrote: |
People "love" other relations/things. For instance people love their parents, love their children, love their work, and so on.
But if it is the man-woman thing, people fall in love. So if "love" is a "trap" people fall into, any of those options can work as cheese. |
Your words couldn't be more perfect. It sounds like poetry to me!
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ClarissaMach
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 10:52 am Post subject: |
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| beancurdturtle wrote: |
| RedRose wrote: |
My opinion is: when you are turned on by him/her, you are in love with him/her. |
Silly RedRose!
I can be quite turned on - and not in love at all.
Actually I think most men can. |
| beancurdturtle wrote: |
| RedRose wrote: |
My opinion is: when you are turned on by him/her, you are in love with him/her. |
Silly RedRose!
I can be quite turned on - and not in love at all.
Actually I think most men can. |
I agree with Beancurdturtle. Being turned on by someone has nothing to do with being in love with this very someone. Actually, I used to be turned on by people whom I'd never fall in love with.
I guess I've lost my second X somewhere and I've replaced it by a Y...
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beancurdturtle
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:32 pm Post subject: |
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| ClarissaMach wrote: |
| I guess I've lost my second X somewhere and I've replaced it by a Y... |
Let me know if I can help you find it. 
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ad-miral
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:09 pm Post subject: |
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| rr wrote: |
| Generally speaking, women would fall in love just with the men they love, and they just get turned on by their beloved men; but men are totally different, they can get turned on by any attractive women, no matter whether they love the woman or not furthermore, men even can be turned on by a cow when they are horny (I am not being offensive here). |
Remember, you, rr, can also get turned on by attractive men, and I have to remind you are not man.
However this esl cafe doesn't allow more answer possibilities than the ones I have given. So I only write down some of the ones I had in thought.
However I have done an analysis of my feelings and my result is:
"falling in love" is only temporal, because if you are already together and "in it" then you don't fall in it again any more.
And if I call the time after "falling in love" "staying in love", and if we think about the time:
"falling in love" mostly lasts for half a year or at the very most (if it's internet love) 1 year.
"staying in love" should last for a lifetime at least for a longer time.
So "being in love" is the aim to look for.
For staying in love you need a partner who cares about you. (for example cooking well, gives you a comfortable life, doesn't threaten you with a former boyfriend after every quarrel, cares about you)
If this aspect is given, and if she looks good instead, then to my mind I have found my love.
So my opinion in short: Staying in love lasts longer then falling in love, so I search for girls who look good first. If she does then I look whether she could stay in love with me. If she can then I will fall in love with her.
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ad-miral
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| Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:13 pm Post subject: |
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 and I have found her, heyhey I'm very happy
PS: my opinion, in a philosophical way, can be found in my signature. If you like philosophy and if you want to know in whom I fall in love you can read it.
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ClarissaMach
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| Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 10:09 am Post subject: |
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| beancurdturtle wrote: |
| ClarissaMach wrote: |
| I guess I've lost my second X somewhere and I've replaced it by a Y... |
Let me know if I can help you find it. |
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ad-miral
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| Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 1:47 pm Post subject: |
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| beancurdturtle wrote: |
| Let me know if I can help you find it. |
Who is that kid in her arms?
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garfield_jesse
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| Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 9:31 pm Post subject: |
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| ad-miral wrote: |
Remember, you, rr, can also get turned on by attractive men, and I have to remind you are not man.
However this esl cafe doesn't allow more answer possibilities than the ones I have given. So I only write down some of the ones I had in thought.
However I have done an analysis of my feelings and my result is:
"falling in love" is only temporal, because if you are already together and "in it" then you don't fall in it again any more.
And if I call the time after "falling in love" "staying in love", and if we think about the time:
"falling in love" mostly lasts for half a year or at the very most (if it's internet love) 1 year.
"staying in love" should last for a lifetime at least for a longer time.
So "being in love" is the aim to look for.
For staying in love you need a partner who cares about you. (for example cooking well, gives you a comfortable life, doesn't threaten you with a former boyfriend after every quarrel, cares about you)
If this aspect is given, and if she looks good instead, then to my mind I have found my love.
So my opinion in short: Staying in love lasts longer then falling in love, so I search for girls who look good first. If she does then I look whether she could stay in love with me. If she can then I will fall in love with her. |
You are an expert in love
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