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[winky]

If you know the whole thing,you may think that winky is really really really stupid!
As we know,winky is weak in math,but she wants to be a science student.How terrible! Isn't it?
Luckily,winky once had a very good classmate who was good at math,and the classmate was ready to help winky.Winky was so grateful that she wanted to do something for her classmate in return.Well done!Winky did well in her English and she was able to help the classmate.
Sounds good!They helped each other and made progress together!
It seemed that none of the beautiful things would last long.Before long,winky soon found that there were some barriers between the classmate and she.
What was worse, winky could even felt the attuides of the classmate towards her have completely changed!To make sure if it's the truth,winky tried to explore the classmate,but all the results told winky that it was true.Winky believed:"There was no doubt that the classmate had changed for no reason,the classmate didn't want to help me any more!"
Winky was so stubborn,she decided not to make up the cracks of their friendship.She began to wonder what are they to be?!
No longer help each other and there are tears on winky's eyes.Winky is letting go of something special,something she will never have again---such a good chance of math learning.
Winky has sunk herself into deep sadness because of the completely broken friendship.However,she can do nothing and she also doesn't want to do anything.It seems that nothing is helpful!
Now,all winky wants is trying to get out of the bad mood,forget the classmate and set her mind to study instead of being sad!
How can winky recover her good mood?What can heal winky's tiny broken heart?
Thanks for helping winky!
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There is no such thing as darkness;only a failure to see.

[ad-miral]

Winky can fish a boyfriend who additionally is good at maths.
Winky can brake in tears in front of the girlfriend of the boy what she has done to Winky.
Winky can brake in tears in front of the boy and say to him that she only wanted to learn maths.

And she can do whatever comes to her mind. But all the measures are of secondary importance. The most important thing is, that Winky has to be happy again. I have problems, you have problems, the one who has too many problems will count some of them as "no problem", the one who doesn't have so many problems will make the small problems into big problems...

Whatever Winky does, Winky should do it with a smile on her face.
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If I say "I love you" to someone, then I also have to say "I also love everyone else inside you, I love the whole world because of you, I also love myself inside you." -- Erich Fromm, the Art of Love

[winky]

Well.
The boy wasn't winky's boyfriend.And lonely wasn't his girlfriend,too!
Time is passing by,winky still feels sad!
Winky just wants to get herself out of the bad mood.She has tried,but everytime she failed!

Do you know that?
On Christmas-Eve,winky had prepared some words and was going to say to the boy to bless him.
However,she was about to bless him when she saw his cold attitude,her heart also became cold!So she didn't say anything to him.
From then on,she could find that he became much farther from her.Winky is really stubborn,so they have put on a "Cold War"!
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There is no such thing as darkness;only a failure to see.

[ad-miral]

Is Winky still reading this thread?
If yes, ad-miral thought about it. ad-miral has got an impression from winky's words, that winky has (maybe very small) feelings towards the boy but she is too shy to admit it.
ad-miral has an impression that the other girl is not really loving the boy that much. She loved the concurrence with Winky more than she loves the boy.
ad-miral also thinks that the boy is a bit confused now because he doesn't know what happened and he wants a little rest to observe both girls.

So, from winky's limited source, ad-miral got an opinion, which is maybe wrong, but ad-miral doesn't see any hate of the boy towards winky. Maybe the boy only thinks about whether winky loves him or whether winky really wants to learn maths.

ad-miral's very serious point is: Winky should speak with the boy, tell him that she really wants to learn. If the boy says yes then everything is fine. If the boy says no then winky can still find somebody else. (maybe a teacher, just invite the teacher to a meal and tell the teacher that maths is really important for winky) But whether the boy says yes or no, winky has to go and speak with the boy.

ad-miral wishes winky good luck

[winky]

Well.
How to say it?
Winky knows herself clearly,she doesn't love the boy.But she really wants to learn math.She treated the boy as her good friend before the thing!

However,winky is stubborn!She has given up the boy.Once winky has made up her mind,nearly nothing can change it!Sorry about that!
Winky only wants to forget the boy!And then she can put all her heart into study!She doesn't want to waste her time in listening to other gossiping,thinking something boring!
And now,winky has becoming more and more used to studying without the boy!
Well done.
Anyway,thanks for ad-miral's idea!
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There is no such thing as darkness;only a failure to see.

[ad-miral]

very good, problem solved

[winky]

Well.
This doesn't mean the problem has been solved!
Because I have to face the situation of "Cold War" between he and I,others' gossiping.
A little difficult!
You know when I meet him by chance,or he meets me by chance,it is awkward!
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There is no such thing as darkness;only a failure to see.

[ad-miral]

talk with him, is it so difficult? I always try to talk with my girlfriend and I send her 3-10 SMS each day and I'm just waiting for her to say "yes I have time" and then I go to her.

hey, do you love him or not? You seem very contradictory, come on, with the users here and especially with me you don't have to hide anything.

[winky]

[ad-miral]