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[flower]

It is interesting how we witness people living their lives regretting words: both the said and the unsaid. We are quick to bring words of gossip, negative thoughts, and anger into our conversations but reluctant to bring in the words of support, positive thoughts, or a simple "thank you."

The destructive power of words is massive. When we use them to strike back out of frustration, they can cut deep and leave lasting scars. When we use them in anger, we enter a battle with the sharp sword of words slashing and tearing apart relationships. Words can do so much damage, but they also can bring much healing

A strong exchange of words done with respect and true listening can be very positive and fun, but a mean strong, hateful exchange filled with personal attacks can only bring destruction to relationships, sometimes to the point that rebuilding is very difficult if not impossible.
We should try when we find ourself in a heated conversation and we feel a "button" being pushed, instead of lashing out with words of anger or defence, we should look for something positive in the discussion. Perhaps we can acknowledge a grain of truth in the words. (Be honest with ourself for there is often some truth in criticism.).

[Flyaway]

I have some bad experiences when i was blamed by some sharp words.
I had mixed feelings becasue the words came from the people who i care very much..I still replied "thanks...".Maybe she was not in good mood therfore she gave me the sharp words without ill-meant.She just can not slefcontrol well..thats what i thought!